Thursday, October 21, 2004

If you love him let him know

When was the last time you told your man that you loved him?

If you can't remember, then it's time for some soul searching.

Love has to be unconditional. But never, never, take it for granted.

Do you love him or are you in love with him? These are two separate issues.

Being in love is wonderful. You see things in a different perspective. And that may be part of the problem. You find yourself making passionate love, but do you really love him?

There isn't any litmus test for determining degrees of love. Yes, you would do anything for him.
But is there still that burning desire, that tingle, that sparkle?

If you are really in love in him, let him know it. Send him roses, buy him something whimsical. Leave love notes and cards under his leather pillow. And tell him verbally. This never happens enough in gay male relationships. He is your past, present and future. Live through him and with him. Make the most of every moment. Grab him, hold him, lay him on the kitchen island, and make passionate love to him. Be spontaneous. Show your love.

But if you can't or won't do this, maybe you should be questioning your love for him.
If you love him, let him know, but if don't just let him go. Breaking up is hard to do.

Relationships endure because of committment, most often of the financial kind. You jointly own your home, other things. There is entanglement. But if it isn't working, then you need to reevaluate the relationship.

I never want to see relationships break apart. But there has to be fire, passion, excitement.
Show him that you love him each and every day, if you still feel the spark. Rekindle the way it used to be. You're the top man and you have to make this happen.

Never stop expressing your love. If you don't, you will fall out of love and committment.
I want you to live the book of life writing wonderful chapters about great sex, devotion, adventure and love. Keep it real, but never forget to say, "I love you."

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Make him know every day how much you love him. Those little things like putting your tootbrush back into the right slot in the holder, unloading the dishwasher, grabbing his cute butt when he least expects it. . . These are all ways, little ways, to show him that you care and never take him for granted.