Thursday, December 20, 2007

Hoping We Never Live Through Another Year Like This One!!!


The Sissy Awards


What a gay year 2007 was!!!! Can't wait to see how 2008 turns out for the gay history book.


Every year we have to endure our fair share of idiots, but this year takes the cake. So we here at The Advocate have reinstated our annual sissy awards, recognizing those who show arrogant stupidity, dishonesty, or just a severe lack of spine. From Paris Hilton to Peter Pace, let's give it up for this year's winners losers.
By Alonso Duralde
From The Advocate January 15, 2008

Sissy Political Party -- The Republicans


If there’s one thing right-wing pols like better than blocking gay rights, it’s having gay sex. And 2007 gave us multiple orgasms:U.S. senator Larry Craig introduced us to the term “wide stance” when he was busted in a Minnesota airport for putting the moves on an undercover cop in the next stall. Craig pled guilty but held on to his seat (no, the one in the Senate).National Association of Evangelicals president Ted Haggard, outed as a regular customer by a gay hustler, magically became heterosexual after just three weeks in rehab. Lindsay Lohan would kill her dealer for results like that.


Glenn Murphy Jr., newly elected chair of the Young Republican National Federation, resigned in August after his arrest for performing oral sex on a sleeping acquaintance. In 1998 he’d committed a similar crime on a dude whose girlfriend was in the same room!Florida state representative Bob Allen offered to pay an undercover cop $20 to let Allen give him a blow job in a restroom. Preferring to play it racist rather than gay, Allen claimed he’d acted out of fear of the African-American men hanging out nearby. Result: He looked racist, gay, and stupid. Allen had been John McCain’s presidential campaign cochair for Florida.


Sissy Extracurricular Activity of the Year -- Public bathroom sex


Jim Naugle, mayor of Fort Lauderdale, Fla., lobbied his city to spend $250,000 on “robo-toilets” in order to discourage gay men from having sex in public restrooms. Naugle said he was fighting to keep gays from taking over the city. Only two problems with that reasoning: There’d been no recent arrests for sex in restrooms, and anyway, Jim, it’s not so much gay men in all those stalls -- it's guys like the 20 men arrested in one month at a New York roadside restroom. Nineteen of them (including a Rotary Club president) were married. The 20th? A Catholic priest.


Sissy Vacation Destination -- Fort Lauderdale


Gay visitors to the Florida vacation spot have more to worry about than automated pissoirs. You might get verbally queer-bashed at the airport. In May, as a law professor and his partner waited for their luggage, a voice on the P.A. system started reading from Leviticus, saying, “A man who lies with another man as he would a woman is subject to death.” The mystery evangelist did not share the Bible’s views about parking in a red zone.



Sissy Grandpa -- Vice President Dick Cheney


Mary Cheney had a baby in May, and Mary’s proud papa huffed to interviewers that any questions about the blessed event were “out of line.” Does the VP know his alleged boss referred to Mary and her partner, Heather Poe, as the child’s “parents” on the White House website?


Second Verse, Sissy as the First -- Pope Benedict XVI


It wouldn’t be a sissy roundup without the pederast enablers at the Vatican. Prada-wearing devil Pope Benedict XVI reminded us that the Roman Catholic Church’s opposition to gay marriage is “nonnegotiable,” and an archbishop kicked in that same-sex marriage is “evil.” Meanwhile a Vatican monsignor, caught on hidden camera making advances to a youth, claimed that he was only pretending as part of his ministry. Is that what the kids are calling it these days?


Sissy Word of the Year -- FAGGOT!


An oldie but a goodie, this epithet had a banner year in 2007. Isaiah Washington allegedly used the word on the set of Grey’s Anatomy, definitely used it at the Golden Globes telecast, then went into “gay rehab” and hired a gay publicist. Results: Washington got fired, GLAAD got a new celebrity PSA, and classy costar T.R. Knight got better story lines.


Media opportunist Ann Coulter hurled the faggot taunt at John Edwards, leading to a public smackdown from the awesome Elizabeth Edwards and, regrettably, lots more TV time for Coulter. CBS Sports college basketball announcer Billy Packer -- who, with a name like that, obviously has issues -- used the term “fag out” on Charlie Rose. Rose’s viewers were so shocked they woke up.



Sissy Candy of the Year -- Snickers


Remember this fun Super Bowl commercial? Two mechanics eat a Snickers bar from opposite ends and wind up accidentally meeting in a kiss. Ew! To restore the manly vibe, one of them slams a car hood down on his buddy’s head. On the Snickers website folks enjoyed three other versions of the ad, all violent, plus clips of Super Bowl players watching the spots and making faces of disgust when the dudes kiss. Sweet!


MY comment: I still think this commerical wasn't bad and could have been really hot, except for the ending. How childish.


Sissy Sportsman of the Year -- Tim Hardaway


When retired NBA player John Amaechi came out, ex-player Tim Hardaway favored a radio interviewer with the following: “Well, you know, I hate gay people, so I let it be known, I don’t like gay people. I don’t like to be around gay people. Yeah, I’m homophobic. I don’t like it. It shouldn’t be in the world for that or in the United States for that. So yeah, I don’t like it.” Hardaway later said he’s sorry. But we knew that already.


Sissy Cinema -- Tie: Wild Hogs and I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry


Because you can’t really choose between a midlife-crisis movie about four suburbanites who love to wear leather and ride motorcycles but are TOTALLY IN NO WAY GAY and a comedy about two straight firemen who get civil-unionized for the health benefits but are TOTALLY IN NO WAY GAY.


My comment: These flicks were so awlful, they should be forever forgotten.



Sissy Celebrities -- Mark Wahlberg and John Travolta


Of course, actors were perfectly capable of saying stupid things even if they weren’t appearing in awful movies:Former underwear model Mark Wahlberg says he turned down the chance to be in Brokeback Mountain because the script “creeped him out.” Mind you, this is the guy who said yes to Four Brothers and The Truth About Charlie.


Wild Hogs star John Travolta told the press there was “nothing gay” about Hairspray. Except its gay director. And the gay director of the original movie. And the gay men who wrote the songs. And several of its stars. My comment: So John is "gay for pay"?


Sissy Stud -- Marine Corporal Matt Sanchez


The Iraq War vet became a right-wing poster boy when he complained about being silenced by student activists at Columbia University. After he posed for pictures with the sulfur-reeking Ann Coulter and took his conservative-victim shtick to Fox News, it turned out Sanchez was already a celebrity in gay circles -- as man-on-man porn star Rod Majors and as (shades of Jeff Gannon) an escort. Shut up!


My comment: This is a sad commentary of a gay man who can't handle being gay. A real loser, in my book.



Sissy Waste of Space -- Paris Hilton


Arrests aside, it was still a spotty year for the heiress (and onetime grand marshal of the Los Angeles gay pride parade). In early 2007 an old tape surfaced in which she used both the n and f words; in September, paparazzi video showed Hilton stepping into a puddle and observing, “Oh, my God, I have, like, AIDS.”


Sissy Bloviator -- Bill O’Reilly


Fox’s star windbag keeps claiming he “gets it” about gays. Oh, really? Check out these O’Reilly insights:There’s a “national underground network” of lesbians terrorizing the nation, raping women, randomly attacking hetero men, and indoctrinating young girls. (O’Reilly later admitted this was “overstated.”)


It was “insane” and “inappropriate” for the San Diego Padres to host a gay pride night at the same game where kids under 12 got free hats. “Thousands of gay adults showed up and commingled with straight families,” he reported.


J.K. Rowling is a “provocateur” for saying that Harry Potter’s Professor Dumbledore is gay. Huffed O’Reilly: “Many parents are worried in America about the gay agenda and indoctrination of their children to see homosexuality in a certain way.” (In this same segment, O’Reilly had to be told that Rowling is a woman.)


My comment: This guy is a dumb-ass, and should forever be ignored.


Stop-the-Presses Sissies -- The Hollywood Reporter and Reuters


Both tried to yank THR writer Ray Richmond’s obituary of Merv Griffin because it discussed Griffin’s homosexuality -- the worst-kept secret in show business outside Kenny Rogers’s face-lifts.


My comment: As a little kid watching this show in the late afternoons, I had my first experience with gaydar. What a flamming queen.



Sissy Internationale -- Mahmoud Ahmadinejad


At a speech at Columbia University, the Iranian president claimed that his country had no homosexuals. Not true, actually -- but not for lack of trying on Ahmadinejad’s part.


Four-star Sissy -- Gen. Peter Pace


During his tenure as chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, General Pace called homosexuality “immoral” and compared it to adultery. Pace did not comment on rumors that his mother wears combat boots.


Senatorial Sissy -- Dianne Feinstein


Whatever mojo the California senator got out of shakily announcing the murder of Harvey Milk officially expired when the right-leaning Democrat -- “Joe Lieberman in a dress,” to some wags -- jumped the aisle and approved the nomination of Judge Leslie Southwick for the fifth circuit court of appeals. Southwick had advocated removing gay parents’ biological children from their homes.



Supersissy -- Spirit Warriors


After Marvel Comics finally stopped slapping an adults-only label on any comic book with a gay or lesbian character, born-again actor Stephen Baldwin -- a.k.a. the boring Baldwin -- promoted his crappy Jesus-y graphic novel Spirit Warriors in this press release: “With the most prominent comic book company lightening up its rating system, how can parents be sure their youngsters won’t get their hands on age-inappropriate material?”



Shabbat Sissies -- Haredi Rabbis and Followers


After extremist rabbis from the Eda Haredit sect put a curse on Jerusalem Pride, a Jerusalem city council member and representative of the city’s gays and lesbians received death threats; his phone number had been posted on Haredi Web forums. Moments before the pride parade began, police arrested an ultra-Orthodox Jewish man carrying an explosive device.


Who Would Jesus Smear?” Sissies --


Focus on the Family and the American Family Association When former Joint Chiefs chairman John Shalikashvili came out against “don’t ask, don’t tell,” the good folks at Focus and AMA painted the U.S. Army general as a dupe of homosexual activists who took advantage after he suffered a debilitating stroke. The stroke, alas, happened in 2004.


And there you have it, the very worst of being gay in 2007. How we all endured this, is any one's guess.


I wish all of your MEGA Hairy Muscle hugs of peace, love and Christmas and Holiday joy, and here's hoping that 2008 will be less stressful and less divisive.

Friday, December 14, 2007

Gay on Saturday night, Straight on Sunday afternoon. Is That Any Kind of Life, Switching One's Sexuality ON and OFF,to Suit The Mood or Situation?


The following discussion has been getting a lot of traction in the blog world this past week?

Do you think something like this could happen, or is it something from the pages of the Twilight Zone?



Turning Homosexuality On and Off
By John Tierney

What if you could take a drug that would quickly alter your sexual orientation from straight to gay, or vice versa?


To their surprise, neurobiologists have discovered that homosexuality can be turned on or off in fruit flies. They’d known that sexual orientation can be genetically programmed, but they didn’t realize it could also be altered by giving a drug that changes the way the flies’ sensory circuits react to pheromones.


Within hours of the treatment, previously heterosexual male fruit flies would be courting other males, and treatment could also cause flies who had been engaging in homosexual behavior to become exclusively heterosexual, the neurobiologists report in Nature Neuroscience. You can read a summary of it here from the University of Illinois at Chicago, the home of one of the researchers, David Featherstone.


“It was amazing,” Dr. Featherstone said. “I never thought we’d be able to do that sort of thing, because sexual orientation is supposed to be hard-wired. This fundamentally changes how we think about this behavior.”


The writer asked Dr. Featherstone if it might be possible one day to quickly alter humans’ sexual orientation. Here’s his answer:


"Although I am not sure my research is a big step in this direction, I think that ultimately the answer will be: Yes. After all, the goal of neuroscience is a complete understanding of brain function. Understanding in science is typically demonstrated by the ability to control a process."


"This morning, I received an email from a transsexual 5 years into her hormone therapy. She told me she regularly modifies her libido and orientation with diet and drugs. She even sent me a scientific reference explaining why her regimen might work. Now that is amazing research. "


The question of whether or not homosexuality should be turned on and off is not a scientific question. It is an ethical/societal dilemma. I am glad my work is stimulating the discussion earlier rather than later. History is replete with poorly thought out attempts to ‘cure’ societal/behavioral ‘illnesses’ that turned out, with proper perspective, to not be ‘illnesses’ at all.
So let the discussion begin. The author doesn't think of homosexuality or heterosexuality as an “illness” to be “cured,” but I wonder how people would use the ability to control sexual orientation — to have a designer libido.


Would some people, gay or straight, who weren’t having luck attracting one gender decide to switch to the other? Would some people casually switch back and forth?


Would some social conservatives (like Leon Kass), who normally object to biologists “playing god” and pharmacologists altering “human nature,” change their minds and urge the use of biotechnology to promote heterosexuality?


Would some social liberals try to restrict the use of this biotechnology? Would parents, gay or straight, want to regulate their children’s sexual orientation — and should they or their children be allowed to do so?

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This is something that some guys, I would believe, would experiment with, to explore their "straight " side. For me personally, I wouldn't even be interested. I like who I am, and I like the fact that I enjoy loving and having sex with men, men who share my same plumbing, and who I have a lot of experience in making sure certain parts of the male anatomy are functioning to perfection. WOOOF. To me, there isn't any better way. To male buddy body bonding, may it continue to flourish and expand to the end of time.

Friday, December 07, 2007

Check out my Slide Show!

Ten Things Every Gay Man Should Know. Wow, This Is Way Too Easy. What about the other 59?





Something I thought I'd share with you. Our lives can't be that easy.


10 things every gay man should know Filed by: Bill Browning December 3, 2007 1:27 PM


Don't you wish being gay came with an owner's manual sometimes? Wouldn't it make things so much easier if we just had a checklist?


In that spirit, Bill shares with us what he considers to be the top ten things every gay man should know.


1. You will never find "the one" by trolling for sex on Manhunt.


2. Just because you're part of a minority group doesn't mean you know how all other minorities feel.


3. Some churches don't think you're sinful and in need of redemption.


4. You don't have to be married to be in a committed relationship.


5. HIV/AIDS is a gay disease. So are cancer, leukemia, bipolar disorderand cerebral palsy.


6. Just because you're "straight-acting" doesn't mean you're better than someone who's not.


7. Dick size does matter, but not as much as knowing how to use what you've got.


8. You are not the spokesperson for our cause. Others might have a different experience.


9. Steel Magnolias is not the best movie ever made. Neither is Brokeback Mountain.


10. Ass-less chaps are not appropriate evening wear for a fancy restaurant.


Now they tell me. I was thinking about wearing my chaps bare butt and booted later today for my post-opp visit with my surgeon.


Hey guys, last week I had two hernias repaired. I guess that's the down side of being a top man.


But I am feeling much better having them repaired, than I did before the operation. I'm still pretty much black and blue, so that's not a pretty sight.


Mega hairy muscle hugs to you guys. Hoping all is well, sexy, and horny with each and every one of you, studs. WOOF.

Saturday, December 01, 2007

World AIDS Day 2007. A Grim Reminder of the Nightmare Gay Men Continue to Live With, and Will Continue to, Unless, Commonsense Prevails



Today, marks yet another observance of World AIDS Day. This is one observance that I wish, would no longer have to take place. But it will, as long as, safer sex is not practiced.
I have continuously advocated safer sex as a reoccurring theme throughout the existence of this blog. I have begged, made numerous examples of hot alternatives to unsafe sex, pleaded, whatever, to draw attention to why the spread of HIV among gay men can never be condoned. It has to be condemned and the only way to fuck safely is by using condoms.
Yes, new revised UN statistics make the disease less threatening and less of an epidemic. I guess, for that, we should be grateful. But this really doesn't matter if one more gay man is infected today and tonight.
So, if there is a gay god, please sprinkle some cautious fairy dust among all gay men having sex to prevent the spread of any more infection tonight.
I cringe when this observance falls on Saturday, because this night makes gay men seem more vulnerable to unsafe sex temptation. If only all gay men getting together tonight could give each other mega hairy muscle hugs and body bond safely, with a lot of hot foreplay, and wake up tomorrow in each others arms, knowing that they survived the night without getting infected.
Then I would become a true believer in fairy tales.

Monday, November 19, 2007

This is What I Don't Call, Buddy Body Bonding

Posted on November 19, 2007 at 5:14 am (PST)

CNN aired this incredible tape of two gay men fist fighting in the middle of the freeway in Phoenix, Arizona. Notice how no one stops to intervene. One of the guys tried to throw himself into traffic, but then his self esteem sunk even lower after he failed to kill himself. Neither guy was hit buy traffic, but they were both arrested on domestic violence charges because they admitted to being "boyfriends," as CNN likes to avoid the "gay" word. Drama drama drama

This is exactly the kind of behavior that I can't tolerate within the gay male tribe. This public blowup shows that these guys truly deserve each other. Better them being together than being separate to make other gay men's lives in the Phoenix area miserable.

Giving Thanks For Us, This All Embracing Band of Gay Brothers





Defiance and Attitude: An Exhibition of Queer Art Made in Texas
Artist Harmony Hammond curates a new show examining the double meaning of "Y Que?"



From October 5th until November 17th, Landmark Arts and the School of Art in the College of Visual and Performing Arts at Texas Tech University will present Y Que? —Queer Art Made in Texas, curated by prolific artist Harmony Hammond, in the Landmark Gallery of the Art Building.


According to Hammond, the show “expresses defiance and attitude. Y Que? has a double meaning. One the one hand it implies, ‘Yeah, I’m queer, so what? What’s it to you?’ But it also implies a continuation: ‘…and what else? OK, so you’re queer, but what else are you?’ Texan, Chicano/a, African-American, etc.” (The above art work and written description courtesy of Peter Schaus, and Out magazine.)


It takes a lesbian to document via visual art what, we, as gay men, meaningfully represent, as a tribe. Sure, we love to fuck and get fucked, but hey, it's about something higher, more gratifying, more structural.


I recently came across a question on the hot gay male site, http://www.realjock.com/, in their forum section. The hottie who posted, wanted to start a discussion. He wanted to know, if it was alright not to like his fellow gay men, because he found fault in some of their ways, and could not quite come to associate himself with "every" gay man.


One commenter wrote, that he, as a gay man, must accept all gay men unconditionally. Well, while I welcome this thought, I don't necessarily agree.


We are all different, in so many delightful ways. True, we have our gayness as a common thread, and I, for one, am glad of that. But true, buddy body bonding, and acceptance, requires liking and connecting with that other dude. If sparks don't fly, then a common kinship just doesn't get established.


While I have written many times that I can find at least one thing, one attribute, to find attractive about another guy, that doesn't mean that a guy can't have more than one thing to like.


For instance, rudeness is something that turns me off. I believe in being civil with everyone, no exceptions. For me, rudeness, is the break off, turn off. I'm human, guys, and I can't tolerate rudeness. Deception, I can accept, rudeness, I can't. Even when a fellow gay dude swipes my photo and identifies it as it being him, I can accept that.


For me, you guys are a band of brothers. I like every one of you. If I could, I would want to give each and every one of you, mega hairy muscle hugs, to show my appreciation for your years of being who you are, just great guys.


For me, that's what Thanksgiving is all about.


And also for me, a turkey baster has multiple uses as a toy to enjoy with a bud, besides helping to give the turkey a golden brown color. Bon apetit, and have a great Thanksgiving.




Friday, November 16, 2007

2008 Hunky Hot Stud Calendars, A Brief Exposure






















Howdy guys. I thought I post some recommendations for a select group of woofy 2008 calendars that might make great stocking stuffers.
I have fun each year selecting from a bunch of sexy calendars for this annual blog post.
Please recommend any hunky stud calendars that I may have missed.
WOOF. These guys would make for a great afternoon or nighttime snuggle time of heavy buddy body bonding.
Mega hairy muscle hugs to all you hunky studs. Hell, maybe next year we could put together a calendar of you guys. Anyone for Mr. November?

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Thanks for Defending Our Freedoms

A very happy and safe Veterans Day to all my woofy buds.
Mega hairy muscle hugs of support to our gay military who gallantly defend our freedom to live in peace in the world, for our right to live openly, and who inspire us to love who we want, unconditionally.

Friday, November 09, 2007

Making sure the loading dock ramp is secure for Daddy Santa


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Taking a load off. Wishing you guys, Mega hairy muscle hugs. Hoping you are enjoying a nice weekend and observing Veterans Day in your own way.

Saturday, November 03, 2007

Practice Does Make Perfect


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Me, ready for some deliveries. Getting in practice to play Daddy Santa's helper later this year.

Friday, November 02, 2007

Being Fuzzy Faced For A Great Cause.

It seems that our gay Kiwi brothers from New Zealand have a fetish for furry, bearded guys, and they fulfill their urges in a very interesting and beneficial way. See the story below.

Clean-shaven carebears set for 'Movember' Posted in: Community By GayNZ.com - 31st October 2007

It'sthat time of year again, when men up and down the country try to imitate the likes of Tom Selleck, Freddie Mercury or even Ned Flanders, as Movember hits New Zealand and other parts of the world.

Kiwi guys are invited to seek sponsorship and "grow a mo" through the month of November to help raise money for the Prostate Cancer Foundation.

This year, Mr Urge Bear 2007 winner Anton Cronje and Urge Bar co-owner Alan Granville will be joining thousands of men across the country in the annual fundraiser.

Over 2,500 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer and around 600 die from the disease every year in NZ, making it the second largest cause of male cancer deaths, after lung cancer.

Auckland gay men's space Urge Bar has recently been collecting money for the Foundation with contributions from their Woof! and Underware theme nights.

Cronje confirms: "That's right, I'm bringing the Mo back because I'm passionate about men's health and the fight against prostate cancer." Alan Granville, who will also to go clean-shaven on 1 November, will be raising cash from Urge customers throughout the month.

"It's been a few years since I have been without a furry face and sadly due to genetics I am not anticipating a massive moustache growth spurt in a month, but I will be trying my best to grow some form of facial caterpillar. "It's a great cause which doesn't get the kind of publicity it deserves and I would really appreciate any donations. Some of our customers are also entering and we wish them well."

Participants can enter as an individual or as part of a group and Granville will be joining the team at Maloney's Barbers, next to Les Mills on Victoria Street, for the month long "Mo-fest". Movember culminates at the end of the month in Gala Partés in Auckland, Wellington and Christchurch. These glamorous and groomed events will see Tom Selleck and Borat look-a-likes battle it out for their chance to take home the prestigious Man of Movember title.

All donations are made directly to the Prostate Cancer Foundation of New Zealand who will use the funds to create awareness, increase support networks for those men who suffer from prostate cancer, fund research and scholarship programs. For more information, you can contact Alan Granville at urgebar@ihug.co.nz

So not only having a fuzzy face makes a guy sexy, in New Zealand anyway, it can be the culmination of a lifelong ambition, Man of November.

I know you guys have your own favorite furry faced studs that you admire the most. Share them with the rest of us. Or maybe nominate yourself. Heck, this might even lead to an annual competition, of crowning a Mr. Woofy, 2008. Makes me hard just thinking about it. WOOF.

Friday, October 26, 2007

Happy Halloween, BOO and WOOF
















I'm having a hard time deciding what to be this Halloween. Any suggestions???





Wishing you guys a safe, sexy and Woofy All Hallow's Eve. All hot tricks and plenty of treats.

A More Realistic Study of Gay Men Reveals Greater Ethnic and Economic Diversity Than Previously Researched


Gay Stereotypes Dispelled
By George Anderson

A one-size-fits-all approach to the gay and lesbian market is reducing the effectiveness of campaigns targeted to consumers based on their sexual preference. That is the finding of a recent study by New American Dimensions and the Asterix Group.


According to the study of 926 individuals online and in-person, the stereotypical young, white, urban and affluent gay and lesbian image often portrayed in the media is reflective of only a small percentage of consumers in this market segment.


Gary Gates, a demographer at the Williams Institute at the University of California-Los Angeles law school, told the San Jose Mercury News, "Gay men actually make less money than other men. And every time I say that, people say, 'What?' This stereotype of gay men being really wealthy - the whole 'Will and Grace' kind of stereotype - it's just absolutely not true."


Only 42 percent of gay men and 31 percent of lesbians report living in urban areas. The vast majority resides in small towns and rural areas.


About 12 percent of the study's respondents were identified as "closeted." Only four percent of this group reported having come out of the closet while 35 percent said they were still in.


These individuals, the research found, were more likely to be Caucasian, older and live in small communities. Eighty percent of these individuals said sexual orientation was not an important part of their identity.


The polar opposite to "closeted" individuals were those identified in the study as "super gays."


About 26 percent of respondents were classified into this segment by the study's authors. Members of this group were open about their sexual orientation and tended to be more highly educated and affluent.


Across the various segments, the study found some commonalities. For one, nearly two-thirds report having experienced stereotyping and discrimination as a result of their sexual orientation.


Christine Lehtonen, president of Asterix, told the Mercury News, "I expected to find more differences by gender, male and female. And primarily, there weren't a ton of differences."


Seventy percent of gay consumers were willing to spend more for products developed for companies that support their community. The two most popular methods for demonstrating that support are companies offering domestic partnership benefits (79 percent) and making donations to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) groups.


Reflecting on the study, David Morse, president of New American Dimensions, said in a press release, "We have segmented the LGBT market in all its diversity, providing a more detailed picture of the gay and lesbian customer, providing highly sought-after insights to mainstream advertisers."

Christine Lehtonen, president of Asterix, told the Mercury News, "I expected to find more differences by gender, male and female. And primarily, there weren't a ton of differences."
Seventy percent of gay consumers were willing to spend more for products developed for companies that support their community. The two most popular methods for demonstrating that support are companies offering domestic partnership benefits (79 percent) and making donations to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) groups.


Reflecting on the study, David Morse, president of New American Dimensions, said in a press release, "We have segmented the LGBT market in all its diversity, providing a more detailed picture of the gay and lesbian customer, providing highly sought-after insights to mainstream advertisers."
All of us knew all along that we are a diverse group of gay men with different kinks, attitudes, and backgrounds. While we don't need a survey to verify our diversity, I'm glad that finally someone has focused on our differences.
Now if we could only get advertisers to portray us as we bond, giving each other mega hairy muscle hugs, now that would be the kind of recognition I'd appreciate. WOOF.

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Uncle Sam's Looking For A Few (Or Many) Hunky WOOFY Men




Here's a funny. Yea, right. They needed the recruits so badly, that they didn't check out the web site first? Someday, this kind of sillyness will come to an end. And the country will be much, much better for it.

Military Looks for a Few Good Woofy Men on Gay Website

Article Date: 10/19/2007 By Bryan Ochalla


In looking for a few good men, the U.S. Army, Navy and Air Force decided to place thousands of recruitment ads on GLEE.com, a networking website for gay professionals. As soon as USA Today brought that to the attention of various military officials, however, the ads were brought down.


"This is the first I've heard about it," Maj. Michael Baptista, advertising branch chief for the Army National Guard, told the newspaper on Wednesday. "We didn't knowingly advertise on that particular website," which he said does not "meet the moral standards" of the military.
A Navy spokesperson told USA Today that nearly 8,000 ads would be removed from the site, while ads attributed to the Marine Corps were for civilian jobs not covered by "Don't Ask, Don't Tell."


The ads were placed through New York-based Community Connect by way of Monster.com. Monster.com offers companies and organizations a "diversity and inclusion" package, which includes posts on niche websites aimed at various minorities, including gays and lesbians.
To Servicemembers Legal Defense Network Director of Communications Steve Ralls, the snafu was strangely, and sadly, ironic. Many gays and lesbians "have been drummed out of the armed forces simply for using sites like GLEE," he told USA Today

Friday, October 12, 2007

BEARFORCE1, Hot, Fuzzy Men With a Magnetism and Sound That's Much More Than Eye Candy. WOOOOOOF





Peter is the hottie above, at the left.

Top, right, a group shot of all the hot fuzzy dudes.
Maybe these are the guys I have had in mind to show the gay male world how to be hot and sexy and safe.
These guys together would make an awesome manwich. Talk about the ultimate buddy body bonding, all of us joining them in a Guinness Book of World's Records mega hairy muscle hug. WOOF.


YURI

Friday, October 05, 2007

GAY HISTORY MONTH, Is 31 Days Enough?

While it is nice to set aside a month to honor our gay heroes, shouldn't we also be honoring the countless gay and lesbian individuals, who have, in their own small way, made each of our lives better and better each and every day? All of our daily actions, collectively, however trivial they might be, do positively contribute to our state of well being.



A hero a day


Gay GLBT History Month introduces students to 31 gay rights leaders




REBECCA ARMENDARIZ Friday, October 05, 2007


From Leonardo da Vinci to Leonard Bernstein, organizers of GLBT History Month are urging a new generation to learn more about the contributions of 31 iconic gay figures throughout the month. This year marks the second time Equality Forum has organized the month-long celebration.


Though educators launched the concept in the mid-1990s, it failed to catch on. This time around, however, GLBT History Month has found support from major national organizations. Malcolm Lazin, Equality Forum’s executive director, says that last year, 20 organizations promoted the month on their web sites. This year, 80 colleges — from community institutions to Ivy League schools — have put a link to the project on their home pages.


Other supporters include 12 statewide organizations, 28 community centers and corporations, including Banana Republic and McDonald’s.GLBT History Month aims to educate the public about the importance of gay figures in creating the movement’s history. “As much as our history has been closeted from us, it’s also been closeted from the mainstream,” Lazin said. “[The month] combats a societal homophobia by providing role models in that history.”Equality Forum’s project is available to school-age children.


This year, the organization collaborated with the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network to meet with high school students. As a result of those interactions, Equality Forum has created weekly, multiple-choice challenges based on the biographies and videos for each week’s seven icons. At the end of the month, there will be a Rainbow Challenge based on all 31 role models.“If we do not take the responsibility of teaching our history, no one else will,” Lazin said.


Some of those honored include Gore Vidal, an American author known for his novel “The City and the Pillar”; Susan Sontag, an American essayist and activist; David Hockney, an English artist; Gertrude Stein, an American author and art enthusiast; and Frank Kameny, who, according to Lazin, is the “father of the GLBT civil rights movement.”


State, national and international executive directors of gay rights groups submitted their nominations and Kenji Yoshino, a Yale Law School professor and author of “Covering,” and Rev. Nancy Wilson, moderator of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), selected the final 31 icons.


Yoshino says that GLBT History Month is for everyone.“Because GLBT individuals are usually born to heterosexual families, it is not as likely that individuals in the GLBT community will be taught by their families of origin about GLBT history,” Yoshino said. “The organizing principle of ‘a person a day for a month’ permits individuals to learn without being overloaded,” he said.October was chosen to highlight these people, Yoshino said, because it is the beginning of the school year, and it’s more likely that students would be made aware of the project.“Our hope is … that individuals will see one famous figure they know and then keep browsing to see who else we have chosen as their peers,” he said.


The selections are as diverse as Leonardo da Vinci and Angela Davis. Yoshino says, “that sense of oddness … should teach us that the project of gay history is still young. Because our history has just begun to see the light, it’s not surprising that people juxtapose a Renaissance artist and a contemporary activist.”


Frank Kameny is one of those contemporary activists. Rep. Tammy Baldwin (D-Wisc.) names him as one of her own personal heroes. He is widely credited with spearheading the gay civil rights movement, and has been an activist for half a century.“He started that grassroots organizing that has laid a foundation for later change,” Baldwin said.


Baldwin recently wrote a piece titled, “Leaning Toward Justice” as part of the Gay History Project.“Leaning Toward Justice” compares the gay rights movement to the civil rights movement of the 1960s. Baldwin said the project will help remind young readers that while change sometimes seems to come slowly, in a historical context, the movement has actually progressed with surprising speed. To put things in context, Baldwin writes of her own coming out in the 1980s and the energy she put into learning about gay rights leaders and their contributions.“No role model ever told me about the Daughters of Bilitis, the Mattachine Society, or Stonewall; Elaine Noble, Frank Kameny, or any of the courageous leaders who shaped our movement or contributed their art, their science, their sweat and their intellect to this world,” she said.

Kameny says he feels good about being named a hero of gay history. “I think as ideas and projects of this kind come along, provided people do pursue them, we’ll be able to establish our history and our place in history, using the word history in a larger sense. There is an extensive gay history,” Kameny said. He added that he has too many gay heroes to name.


Kameny has played a key role in achieving civil rights for the gay community. His early focus was repealing sodomy laws and removing homosexuality from the American Psychiatric Association’s manual of mental disorders. He is hopeful that with a Democrat in the White House in 2008, that his final goal of repealing the ban on gays in the military will be realized.“More than anything else, not as a specific issue, but simply as a tactic, we just need to get people out and open. I think that’s absolutely necessary,” he said.


Recently, Kameny’s papers and materials from the 1960s were put on display at the Smithsonian. “We would have never believed when we were making those signs in 1965 that they were going to end up actually in the Smithsonian and some of my papers in the Library of Congress … it’s just totally incredible,” he said.


Yea, I have had the privilege of meeting and talking briefly with Frank Kameny, over several years. He is quite a man. A living history of the gay movement.


But like anything else, youth is wasted on the young. Who needs the most education today are gay youth. They think, somehow, that they are the first queers to face anything. But hey, there are many of us, survivors, if you will, that have lived open lives, have lived actively sexually, and have blazed the trail for the twinks of today.


Buddy body bonding never goes out of style, and will always have its place in the gay male world. Fortunately, in this case, one size does fit all. Do some exploring on your own, hug a bud and have a fantastic Columbus Day weekend.

Friday, September 28, 2007

Yet Another Cry for Censorship. It Doesn't Take Much For These Critics To Get Their Panties All In A Bind



A whole new controversy is brewing over the poster below that will be used to promote Folsom Street Fair this year. Personally I find it full of hot leather dudes and a gal, sharing a common table, breaking "bread" and wine together, like I imagine, in the purest sense, what the ideal image of leather pride events such as this, is all about. Your thoughts?????







h.cassell@ebar.com
Folsom Street Fair's photograph has led Miller Brewing Company to ask that its logo be removed. Photo: FredAlert

The photograph resembling Leonardo da Vinci's famous painting of the Last Supper used on the Folsom Street Fair program and its promotional posters drew fire Tuesday, September 25 from Concerned Women for America.


The anti-gay group issued a news release stating that the Folsom Street Fair is "reminiscent of biblical Sodom and Gomorrah."


"The bread and wine representing Christ's broken body and life-giving blood are replaced with sadomasochistic sex toys in this twisted version of da Vinci's 'Last Supper,'" said the CWA's statement.


In response to pressure from CWA's constituents, Miller Brewing Company on Wednesday requested that Folsom Street Events remove its logo from the posters displaying the leather last supper image.


"While Miller has supported the Folsom Street Fair for several years, we take exception to the poster the organizing committee developed this year," the company said on its Web site. "We understand some individuals may find the imagery offensive and we have asked the organizers to remove our logo from the poster effective immediately."


[After the print edition of the Bay Area Reporter went to press, a Miller spokesman told the paper that the company would continue to support the event.


"We are and will continue to be supportive [of Folsom Street Fair and the LGBT community]," said Julian Green, director of media relations of Miller Brewing Company, Wednesday afternoon.


Miller has not requested a refund of any sponsorship money, Green said. Green said that Miller's decision was based on corporate policies.


"[It] has nothing to do with public pressure," said Green. Green said that the company's decision was based on marketing guidelines at the corporate level that don't allow use of its logo on any "creative design" depicting a "religious connotation."


Until CWA's call to action Tuesday, Miller's corporate office wasn't aware of the use of its logo on the poster, Green said. "Our corporate offices was not made aware of the artwork, however, there may have been some awareness at the local level," said Green. "If it had been reviewed at the corporate level it would not have been approved."]


Folsom Street Events Executive Director Demetri Moshoyannis told the B.A.R. late Wednesday morning that they weren't concerned about Miller's request to remove its logo from the posters. When asked if they thought that they might lose Miller's sponsorship, Moshoyannis said, "Not to our knowledge."


People commenting on the Joe.My.God blog called for support of Miller rather than a boycott, stating that the beverage company has been supportive of the LGBT community for many years.



According to CWA, "Scripture says that God is not mocked, yet it doesn't stop people from trying," Matt Barber, policy director for cultural issues with CWA, said in the release. "As evidenced by this latest stunt, open ridicule of Christianity is unfortunately very common within much of the homosexual community."


"I guess it wouldn't be Folsom Street Fair without offending some extreme members of the global community," said Andy Copper, board president of Folsom Street Events, in a statement issued Tuesday afternoon. "There is no intention to be particularly pro-religion or anti-religion with this poster; the image is intended only to be reminiscent of the 'Last Supper' painting."


Copper stated, "... many of the people in the leather and fetish communities are spiritual and that this poster image is a way of expressing that side of the community's interests and beliefs."
"The irony is that da Vinci was widely considered to be homosexual," Copper added.


Copper pointed to the diversity in the photo, stating that it is a "distinctive representation of diversity with women and men, people of all colors and sexual orientations" which is a part of San Francisco's values.


Local gay clergy also weighed in on the matter.


"I disagree with them I don't think that [Folsom Street Events] is mocking God," said Chris Glaser, interim senior pastor at Metropolitan Community Church – San Francisco. "I think that they are just having fun with a painting of Leonardo da Vinci and having fun with the whole notion of 'San Francisco values' and I think it's pretty tastefully and cleverly done."


Glaser added, "I think that oftentimes religious people miss out on things because they don't have a sense of humor. That's why being a queer spiritual person we can laugh at ourselves and laugh at other people."


Barber called the photo an action of lashing out in a "hateful manner toward the very people they accuse," referring to gay activists calling Christians "haters and homophobes." He said that taxpayers are being "forced" to pay for the fair that allows "'gay' men and women to parade the streets fully nude, many having sex – even group orgies – in broad daylight, while taxpayer funded police officers look on and do absolutely nothing."


CWA called on California's elected officials, including House Speaker Nancy Pelosi (D-San Francisco), Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger (R), and Democratic Senators Dianne Feinstein and Barbara Boxer to "publicly condemn this unprovoked attack against Christ and His followers."


Pelosi was mocked for her "San Francisco values" in a Saturday Night Live skit last year that poked fun at right-wing attacks that she would bring "left of center" values to Congress.
Tuesday afternoon, Pelosi downplayed the right's uproar.


"As a Catholic, the speaker is confident that Christianity has not been harmed," said Drew Hammill, Pelosi's press secretary.


Barber urged the media to "cover the affront to Christianity with the same vigor as recent stories about cartoon depictions of Mohammed and other items offensive to the Muslim community."


Moshoyannis would not comment beyond the organization's news release sent out on Tuesday.


Copper stated that the leather last supper was the first FSF poster inspired by cultural classics in a series of posters forthcoming from FSE including "American Gothic" by Grant Wood, Edvard Munch's "The Scream" and even The Sound of Music.


Photographer FredAlert, who produced the staged leather last supper, declined to comment.


I admire Fred for his creativity and hot composition. WOOOF.


It has been too long, (5 years), since I've been to Folsom. Got to get my barebutt and chaps back out there some time in the future.


Mega hairy muscle leather pride hugs. Hoping all the guys attending Folsom have a great time. Party hardy and play safe.

Friday, September 21, 2007

Gay Advertising. It Has Always Been Out There, and the Straight Public Didn't Notice.


If you haven't watched it, Mad Men on AMCTV is an awesome look at the golden age of advertising in the early 1960's and explores, among many topics, the input of gay men in the industry, especially the art work.










Taking the ‘Hint’ Gay Former George Mason professor chronicles gay-friendly marketing in new book on advertising
ZACK ROSEN Friday, September 21, 2007



Before there was a widespread gay media, before publications like The Advocate could show car ads with two men holding hands, advertising executives had to find more subtle ways to court the gay and lesbian consumer.




Bruce H. Joffe’s new book, “A Hint of Homosexuality: ‘Gay’ and Homoerotic Imagery in American Print Advertising” documents ads, starting in 1905, that would raise eyebrows even among gay people living in 2007.




“Hints of Homosexuality” grew from an article Joffe wrote on homoerotic imagery in Ivory Soap ads from the early part of the century. Entitled “.056/100% ... Homosexual,” the piece explores imagery that is undeniably gay friendly. “[Those ads] are amazing,” Joffe says, describing in particular one that is set in a locker room. “You can see pubic hair! The other guys are looking at it.”




Joffe’s interest in early gay advertising began as a hobby. He had a number of early ads framed on the walls of his house and friends frequently suggested that they should be compiled and published. EBay searches raised his collection to over 300 pieces. Though the visual nature of the ads would lend itself best to a coffee table book or full color volume, practical concerns made an academic work the more viable option.




“You are talking about a niche within a niche,” Joffe says. “There’s no money [for the publisher] in making this a coffee table book. Being a professor, you have to publish or perish. I tried to write the book with a popular voice so that anyone could pick it up, could look at the words and say ‘He’s right, I never noticed this before.”LEAFING THROUGH “HINT” forces the reader to look at old marketing in a new light.




The book gives many examples of coding, the subtle images inserted in print advertising that would go unnoticed by a straight reader but perk the attention of an informed gay man or lesbian. “If an advertising illustrator dressed someone in red, had someone lighting someone else’s cigarette [it meant something gay,]”




Joffe says. “Sex sells, it has always sold. People in marketing always knew that there is more than one market. There was no LOGO, no Blade. How do you reach these people? You reach them by encoding.” Joffe sites many examples of “gay vague” advertising in the book.




A 1948 ad for Schlitz beer used the tagline “I was curious…I tasted it” and a three panel set up. In the first frame, two men and two women are being served the beer. In the second frame, the men stand next to each other while trying the beer, and in the third frame the women are gone completely, implying that the rewards of their curiosity include more than just “the beer that made Milwaukee famous.”




Joffe’s interest in gay advertising goes beyond the casual or the educational. He is donating all profits from “Hint” to the Commercial Closet Association, a non-profit that seeks to influence advertisers to include gay populations in their marketing. The association also maintains an archive of gay-inclusive television advertising from around the world, a collection that Joffe is adding to by lending all of his hard copies of the ads documented in the book. “This organization is trying to reach a point where it doesn’t matter who is pictured in the ad, but that we’re all respecting each other while advertisers are making money,”




Joffe says. “I am loaning them my collection of print ads so there can be a museum that documents and chronicles the history of gays in advertising.”

So, those male underwear ads in the old Sears, Montgomery Wards and JC Penny catalogs weren't the only ones out there in the 1960's and early 1970's to draw the curiosity of an young adolescent gay male. Oh, the power of advertising!!!!

Friday, September 14, 2007

It Really Shouldn't Matter, But, For Some, It Does


This should really be a good movie. Tom Cavanaugh is a hottie, and the subject matter couldn't have come out at a better time. Now, if we can only see these guys give each other on the ice big hairy muscle hugs and locked lips, after a goal, WOOF. That and a locker scene full of buddy body bonding would make this flick a screen gem.

'Gay hockey movie' hopes to score despite vicious remarks
Last Updated: Thursday, September 13, 2007 8:12 PM ET
CBC News
Director Laurie Lynd says he's shocked by the hateful comments aimed at his "sweet film" about tolerance — Breakfast with Scot, or the "gay hockey movie" as it has been dubbed.
But if the movie can score at the box office as a result, Lynd says he doesn't mind.
In the movie playing this week at the Toronto International Film Festival, Canadian actor Tom Cavanagh plays a gay former Toronto Maple Leaf who works as broadcaster for a major sports network.



Because of homophobia in the field, he decides to keep his personal life a secret but that all changes when his partner's flamboyant nephew, Scot, comes to live with the couple.
"It's the one hurdle that's left to be cleared and yet they're not even close to clearing it," said Cavanagh, the Ottawa-born actor who played the title character on the TV series Ed.
The NHL and the Leafs both gave permission for their logos to be used in the movie — a first for a gay-themed movie, according to the director.


"It was an easy decision," said John Lashway, a member of the Leafs' management team. "We have fans from all kinds of lifestyles, so it just made sense for us."
Negative online posts have already taken aim at the movie, with a couple of right-wing U.S. groups contacting the Leafs. Lynd has also received hate mail.



"I read [the negative comments] while we were in production, and I had to put it down because it was so vicious about such a sweet film that is … about tolerance," says Lynd, adding he was surprised it was even an issue in 2007.



One of Canada's most vocal openly gay athletes, former Olympic swimmer Mark Tewksbury, says he's hopeful this film will open doors for athletes.



"What it could mean is that if it's OK in a fictional movie then maybe, if there is a gay person on a professional franchise like the Maple Leafs, it gives them permission to be themselves."
But for the Montreal-native Noah Bernett, who plays Scot in the movie, the issue is a no-brainer: "I think the moral of this story is that people shouldn't be scared of who they are."
More:
http://www.cbc.ca/world/story/2007/09/13/hockey-movie-scot.html?ref=rss--

Friday, September 07, 2007

Cruisingforsex.com Gets Its Best Exposure Ever


When it rain, it pours. And for the web site, http://www.cruisingforsex.com/, the whole Larry Craig thing has given it new exposure. Read it for yourself.




But thanks to cruisingforsex.com (which boasts some 30,000 visitors daily, its operators say) and its competitors, such information is easily accessible around the country—and the world. And the information is precise; some listings direct readers to visit a location between, say 10:30 a.m. and 2 p.m. How convenient.


Here are more exerpts from the article:


Has craigslist.org put a dent in cruisingforsex.com's business? Do chatrooms pose a threat?


Craigslist certainly has changed the field. A lot of strictly younger people tend to turn first to hookups online. But my impression—based on what I am personally experiencing, not any research I’ve done—[is] that people may be tiring of the hookups online and wanting to get back into the real world. There’s some benefits to both ways of meeting. Certainly craigslist, which by the way is often used to hook up in public locations, certainly has taken a lot of men who now meet online and go to each others’ house.


With all the information on cruisingforsex.com and on craigslist, do you feel that law enforcement is more aware now? Or are they less likely to crack down than they were 10 years ago?


In all of our years of doing this, there has always been a constant crackdown and a constant drumbeat of harassment. What Senator Craig has experienced is not unfamiliar to a lot of sexually active men out there.


But, whatever your orientation, is engaging in sexual activity in public okay?Most cruisers don’t want to engage in sex in public. They want to meet someone in a public space and then try to be discreet—maybe in a stall or a cubicle or maybe behind a bush.


As you know from my previous post, I am not sympathetic at all to Larry Craig. And even if he fights to retain his seat, he is facing an uphill battle. Gay groups are out to squeeze his nuts and the right wing has already gotten a noose ready for the lynching.


Hot topics such as this keep the blogging world with enough topical subject matter to write about for days. I would really like that this publicity move to the more important topic of safer sex between two consenting gay men. What we need are more play spaces around the U.S, where guys can meet and not have to take unnecessary risks of public sex. Sure, all of us love hot protected sex, but I feel that "spur of the moment" sex is probably a lot more risky than motivated, intential, pure buddy body bonding. Right here, right now sex, public cruising sex, may be exciting, but it doesn't have lasting benefits. It is just a fix, and sometimes a risky one, at that.





Friday, August 31, 2007

Example Of Hypocrisy At Its Finest-"I'm Not Gay" or "I Am Not A Crook". What Bold Face Lying Politicians Are Saying.




Events of this past week only prove to me how important it is for gay men to be proud of engaging in healthy buddy body bonding, and pity poor trolls like Larry Craig, who are compulsive sexoholics, love bathroom sex and can't accept being gay.
The following is an excerpt from a Washington Post article this past week about bathroom stall cruising. I was floored when I first read it. What every gay guy and the general public more than need to know about anonymous sex. Check it out for yourself.
In this article, the authors are very thorough in their research. An early reference to foot-tapping is made in the 1975 book "The Tea Room Trade: Impersonal Sex in Public Places," by Laud Humphreys, a sociologist. It is based on Humphreys's 1960s study of public sex.
"In tea rooms where there were doors on the stalls, I have observed the use of foot-tapping as a means of communication," Humphreys wrote. He added that "doors on stalls serve as hindrances rather than aids to homoerotic activity."

Consider the bathroom stall, that utilitarian public enclosure of cold steel and drab hue. And then you can imagine the following.

"If you are in the stall, you tap your foot, and if the person next to you taps a foot, you keep going back and forth until one person makes a move," he says. "Someone will then stick their hand underneath. Or they will pass a note on paper. Or, what I've heard is, when they think it's safe," they will move on to sexual contact in the space beneath the partition.
"Some people are absolutely blatant" about showing arousal in public bathrooms, he said. "I've seen this in malls and witnessed that myself."
The reaction? "That depends," he said. "For people who are not of that same persuasion, they yell and call names. I've seen people escorted out by security, and I've witnessed people gesturing back, reaching over and grabbing them. That's when you roll your eyes and walk out."
This behavior violates the "unwritten code of conduct that men observe in bathrooms," said John Davidson, legal director at Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund
Well bathroom sex, has never, ever turned me on. When I enter a public men's or gent's room, I'm there to take a piss and wash my hands, never more than that. Besides the risk, it fucking demeaning.
I would never deny a guy's pleasure of cruising openly. It happens all the time. But as I have written in previous posts over the years, any one doing it is taking some big risks.
I don't feel a bit sorry for the old fart. He hates us, as gay men, and has voted many times for legislation which denies us our right to marry and live without fear or retribution. The reason he hates us, is that he hates himself. He has created this great fuckin lie, and he despises us for the freedoms we both enjoy and seek.
That said, I want to wish you hot studs a great weekend. And a special mega hairy muscle salute to working men everywhere. WOOOF.

Friday, August 24, 2007

Tidbits and Factoids


Here are some interesting items I have collected recently. Let me know what you think.


ITEM: Based on interviews with more than 12,000 gay men and 10,000 lesbians across the country, San Francisco's Community Marketing Inc. claims the survey provides the most comprehensive view yet into psychographic and demographic data on the gay community.

For instance, with regard to family life, the survey found 46 percent of gay men and 65 percent of lesbians are partnered or live with a significant other. While 20 percent of lesbians have children under the age of 18 living at home, only five percent of gay men do.


For gay men, the median household income is $83,000 per year (gay singles, $62,000; gay couples living together, $130,000). For lesbians, the median household income is $80,000 per year (lesbian singles $52,000; lesbian couples living together $96,000).

Regarding media choices, gay and lesbian publications were read most often by both genders, although national "mainstream" publications also fared well. Favorites were The New York Times, Men's Health and GQ among gay men, and People, AARP The Magazine and O The Oprah among lesbians. The top three most watched television networks for both genders were NBC, ABC, and CBS. For gay men, the next three were Fox, Bravo and Logo; for lesbians, Showtime, Fox, and Logo.

Eighty-five percent of gay men and 85 percent of lesbians agreed advertising in gay media favourably influences their purchasing decisions;

Eight-nine percent of gay men and 92 percent of lesbians reported that the way a company treats its gay and lesbian employees impacts their decision to do business with that company, with the majority (52 percent and 59 percent respectively) saying this was strongly positive;

Eighty-eight percent of gay men and 91 percent of lesbians report that their purchasing decisions are favourably influenced by corporate sponsorship of gay events and participation in gay charities.

ITEM: In the current issue of Out magazine, there are 65 individual nipples featured in articles and in ads, including Marky Mark's 3 nips.
ITEM: According to a press release from Equality Forum, 463 of the 2007 Fortune 500 companies voluntarily include sexual orientation in their employment nondiscrimination policies.There is currently no federal workplace protection based on sexual orientation, and only 20 states include sexual orientation nondiscrimination in their workplace statutes.
ITEM: Las Vegas magicians Siegfried & Roy are coming out of the closet in a highly anticipated autobiography soon to be released. It may not come as a big surprise to most people that the two performers are gay but it will be the first time they admit to this officially.According to details from the upcoming book leaked to the National Enquirer, Siegfried and Roy were once very much in love but have since transformed their relationship into a working partnership and a deep friendship. (Oh brother, do they have to state the obvious?)
Hoping all of my body bonding buds in the Northern Hemisphere are enjoying these last weeks of the summer season. I know you studs are making the most of it. Hey, if you're heading to the beach, help out a fellow hottie who needs some assistance spreading some sun block on his back. I'm sure that helping hand will not go unrewarded. You'll be making a lasting friend. That's what buddy body bonding is all about.
You guys in the Southern Hemisphere, I know it will be spring there soon. And I know you dudes are ready for some springtime buddy body bonding as well. WOOF.

Thursday, August 09, 2007

If Michael Musto Wrote About It, It Must Be True


Fellow gay boy and all around great guy, Michael Musto, the celebrated columnist for the Village Voice, has something to say about the scarcity of guys who identify themselves as bottoms:

The weird news in gay land is that no one's a bottom anymore (except for a certain downtown Manhattan promoter with a flair for double penetration). Tragically enough, a whole generation of bottoms passed on some time ago, and then came a whole new generation that learned from day one that being a wide-end receiver is risky, so they've always been testy and squeamish about it. That's perfectly understandable, but as a result, virtually every gay on the market today is a versatile top—or "vers top," if you prefer—"though I'll bottom for the right guy," they always add with a noble flourish. So unless you happen to have pulled up in a golden coach and have 300 condoms rubber-banded to your crotch, no one's gonna bottom for you and sex will undoubtedly consist of twiddling thumbs and bumping pussies and being more frustrated than if you'd stayed home alone with your fleshlight (the male sex toy whose site generously invites you to "select an orifice"). Somebody take it up the ass, please!


I totally agree with what Michael writes. No one seems to want to be a bottom anymore. How many times have we come across that double talk phrase, "bottom for the right guy"? I think bottom boys must reassess their fear of being fucked safely. There has to be gay public education showing how the top guy can coaks the squimish bottom guy into be fucked, and really liking it. I say, give 'em some buddy bonding. Be it in a pup tent under two zipped together sleeping bags, or in a secluded hallway, we guys have the responsibility to reverse perceptions that guys can fuck each other, and do it pleasurably, without fear. While I rather see guys having some fears about being fucked, hell, you can be a fuck pig and do it safely. Think condoms, guys.


Mega hairy muscle hugs of fucking til the cows cum home.

Friday, August 03, 2007

Harassment. The Illinois Gay Rodeo is experiencing it


The Gay Rodeo season is in full swing now, and not without some controversy, from straights.


There is such a thing. Its Web site is http://www.ilgra.com/. (The pink cowboy boots are a nice touch.)


The Windy City Rodeo, sponsored by ILGRA, is scheduled for Aug. 25-26 in Crete. The rodeo has been held in the Chicago area for years, but about five years ago, an inquiry was made about bringing it to Springfield.


"I called and they said you stay out of it, we'll handle it," said Buff Carmichael, who inquired with the non-fair events office. "I haven't heard a word since.


"They'll catch a plane to Colorado to lure the high school rodeo here, but they won't do anything to get the gay rodeo."


No doubt, offering the fairgrounds' Multipurpose Arena for this would be a hot potato for the state, probably too hot. Picketing protesters. Horrified homophobes. Scandalized Springfieldians. The only reason a serious bid hasn't been made to bring it here is easy to see. Hint: It's a three-letter word that begins with "g."


For about 10 years, Michael Cunningham Jr. has been co-director of Illinois' gay rodeo. Cunningham is a 1985 graduate of Lanphier High School. He used to compete before he became co-director. Bringing the rodeo to his hometown would be great, Cunningham said.
The Windy City Rodeo attracts about 100 competitors and 5,000 spectators, according to Cunningham. That translates into tourism and bucks for local merchants.


We are always looking for events to bring to Springfield. This would be one controversial event, but an event just the same. Last time I checked, a gay person's dollar was worth 100 cents, same as a straight person's dollar.


Cunningham foresees a couple of problems with having the rodeo in Springfield. Most of the rodeo's sponsors are in Chicago, for example. And then there is travel.


"Logistically it would be difficult," he said. "People come from all over the U.S. and Canada to compete. It would be a challenge to get people to the rodeo in Springfield."
But, I said, the high schoolers manage to get here from all over the country, and farther.


"That's true," Cunningham said. "And the great thing is the facility there is world class."
Humane treatment of the animals is always a concern at a rodeo. The ILGRA has adopted guidelines that it (hopefully) adheres to. They are on its Web site. But anytime you have a rodeo, animal welfare will be an issue for some.


As for local protesters coming out to tell the gay cowboys and cowgirls they will burn in hell, Cunningham says that is not a concern. It's true, he said, that the Chicago area is more diverse than Springfield, and as a result, more accepting of a gay rodeo. But he believes his hometown would be all right with it.


Events in the gay rodeo virtually are the same as in a straight rodeo - bull and bronc riding, roping, barrel racing and bulldogging, for example. There also are special "camp events." Those include a timed event in which competitors put underwear on a goat, a three-person team (one of whom must compete in drag) herding a steer, and "steer deco" in which competitors attempt to tie a ribbon on a steer's tail while teammates remove a rope from its horns.


"The camp events are the most competitive events," Michael said, "because a lot of people enter those, and so the prize money can be substantial."


The Illinois Gay Rodeo Association is part of the International Gay Rodeo Association. The international's finals rodeo is huge. This year it will be held in Denver in October. It has been held in Las Vegas many times. Springfield might be too small for that one. Anyway, the IGRA's bylaws specify that its finals must be held in an indoor arena.


Look, you don't have to agree with the lifestyle to support bringing the gay rodeo to Springfield. That expensive rodeo arena at the fairgrounds sits empty most of the year. Why not try to get something/anything out there that will make some money?


They are going to hold Illinois' gay rodeo somewhere. It might as well be here.


Well, my heart goes out to Michael Cunningham for fighting the good fight. I, myself, love the IGRA circuit and try to support it every chance I get. It is a great event, plenty of fun and lots of hot cowpokes. WOOOF, who could want anything else?


Friday, July 27, 2007

EDGY MY ASS. Barebacking Is Just " FUCKING STUPID' !!!


The following is a very disturbing article from the current, August 2007 issue of OUT magazine, written by James Gavin.

Baring the Truth

After decades of scrupulous condom use, bareback porn is proliferating—with a corresponding rise in HIV infections. The collective silence is deafening.

The sticker on the video box was as chilling as a skull and crossbones: bareback. It was 1998, and an HIV-positive couple from Palm Springs, Calif., had just begun videotaping bareback orgies and releasing the tapes under the company name Hot Desert Knights. After a decade of scrupulous condom use in gay porn, after all the deaths from AIDS complications and the struggle to curb HIV, these films seemed to betray everyone who had fought the fight. Chi Chi LaRue, the hefty cross-dressing porn director, who entered the industry in 1987, recalls his response to those first bareback videos: “Shock. Anger. Sadness. I thought, Why?”

Today, by various estimates, the bareback genre accounts for up to 30% of the gay porn industry’s output. On MaleDVD.net, the Netflix of that field, about half of the top 20 rentals at any given time are condomless. “The consumer has spoken,” declares Sam Dixon, a ’90s porn star now directing bareback films. “This is what people want to see.”


Shot like home movies, most of these videos are cheap to make and easy to profit from. Their casts include “real people” along with a growing wave of aging HIV-positive porn actors. Bareback porn is also a playground where boys barely out of high school frolic without condoms as though AIDS doesn’t exist. Many of these films fetishize semen so graphically that the message is unmistakable: a loud “fuck you” to the plague that once terrified us all.


Why has bareback sex proliferated, on- and off-camera? Many reasons are given: safer-sex burnout; medications that have made HIV seem like “the new diabetes,” as an HIV-positive character on Nip/Tuck called it; the scourge of crystal meth, a destroyer of inhibitions. Then there’s the allure of sexual taboos, which bareback video exploits. I really don't buy this shit. It's just a crutch.

To former porn actor Will Clark, the trend “reflects our need to be edgy and defiant in a world where being gay used to be edgy and defiant and every day has become more and more commonplace.” Clark, whose AIDS fund-raising and safer-sex advocacy have earned him broad respect in the industry, feels that a key effect of these films is to give permission to—and eroticize—what guys are already doing, or long to do.

Many performers, like ’90s porn regular Dino Phillips, a newcomer to bareback, insist these films are harmless fantasies. “Otherwise,” he says, “every movie that shows gunslinging and murder would have to use a disclaimer saying, ‘Duh, this is just for entertainment, we’re not really advocating this.’ ”

The comparison is disingenuous. While most people don’t aspire to mimic murderers, they do want to have hot sex. And on-screen depictions of violence are fake; bareback porn is not. “These films may stage a fantasy, but these are real people having unsafe sex,” says veteran filmmaker Gino Colbert. “They’re not using special effects here.” Will Clark calls the fantasy explanation “a cop-out given by these people so they can sleep at night and not think their actions have any consequences to their gay brothers. Porn is tremendously influential.”

That’s hard to deny. From the hairy-chested blue-collar style to the pumped-up gym bod, porn has helped promote every dominant look in gay culture. Positions, leather, sexual swagger, dirty talk—porn teaches them all. And to Chi Chi LaRue, that brings a responsibility. “People have called me a condom Nazi,” he says. “Fine! I think sex is fantastic. You can still do it the right way.” You go girl.

Nearly all the top-tier studios maintain a strict condom-use policy. But many are feeling outmoded as well as outsold, and the strain shows. The once-forbidden oral come shot—less risky than raw anal penetration—has become fairly common. So has bare-boned prodding without full insertion—at least in the finished edits. Bel Ami, the twink-glorifying Czech company, offers bareback video on demand as a Web site exclusive rife with familiar “do as we say, not as we do” disclaimers: “We fervently hope that in your private life you act responsibly and take every precaution to keep yourself healthy.” Previously, the majors took a supposed moral high road—some called it a power play—by barring actors who’ve done bareback films. That rule has faded; some of their names mean money, with or without rubbers.


Undisputed by all who were interviewed for this article is the fact that safer-sex practices are on the wane—far beyond the scope of porn. “A lot of people, stupidly, think the AIDS epidemic is over,” says LaRue. HIV and AIDS statistics, imperfect (and dated) as they are, bear out the rise in unsafe sex among men who have sex with men (MSM). Recently the American Journal of Public Health announced that between 2001 and 2004, HIV diagnosis rates among men who have sex with men from the ages of 13 to 24 had grown by approximately 14%. Other studies have found jumps in new HIV diagnoses among some groups of MSM over the age of 25.

For some, seroconversion can feel liberating—in the short term, anyway. (To me, this is pathetic. )Though himself negative, “Morningwood”—the assumed name of a San Francisco–based 24-year-old member of the Radical Faeries—has seen the “reward” claimed by so many who contract HIV, including one of his past lovers. “A surrender of fear happens,” he says, “and the sense that now you’re free to have whatever kind of piggy bareback sex you want.”

Michael Brandon, a partner in the studio Raging Stallion, might say yes. He dotes on fans who worship his porn persona: a lanky, bearded, horse-hung embodiment of his company’s name. At home he’s in a long-term condomless relationship. “We’ve been tested, and we’re comfortable with each other’s health issues,” he explains, but on-screen is another matter. “I feel I have a huge responsibility. If one of my fans or a teenager sees Michael Brandon fucking without a condom, they may think, Michael Brandon does it, so why can’t I?”

That’s not Sam Dixon’s concern. Dixon runs 1 Distribution, a Los Angeles–based DVD distributor, along with Tipo Sesso Productions, which produces cut-rate bareback video. Doesn’t he feel that porn filmmakers have some obligation to promote safe sex? “We’re an adult industry,” he states with nonnegotiable firmness. “We’re not an educational industry. I think the best you can do is try to put a little PSA at the beginning of your films. Beyond that, I truly believe that one’s sexual practices are cemented by the time they’re watching porn.” As for his actors, he says, “If they don’t do it for me, they’ll do it for somebody else. It’s not my position to chastise them. That’s censorship.” Blame the rise in barebacking not on porn but on crystal, he says, and on neglectful parents. “Way before someone’s watching adult films, the education has to start: Here are the facts. Be responsible. And save bareback sex for your life partner.” Who’s communicating those messages today? “No one.”

Certainly not the Bush administration, which preaches abstinence and insists that condoms are unreliable. “We have this government that’s so sex-phobic it’s destroying safe-sex education all over the world,” says Howard Grossman, an eminent HIV specialist. Ignorance also pervades the bareback porn world, as Tim Valenti knows. As cofounder of NakedSword.com, a Shangri-la of gay video on demand—none of it bareback—Valenti has met lots of the subgenre’s young models. “I found them to be extremely naive about what they were doing. Young people were being pushed into participating in something without having a clear understanding of the ramifications. I didn’t want to be part of it.”


In the Czech Republic, where bareback rules the industry, both gay and straight actors undergo regulated HIV screening. In the United States testing of gay actors is sketchy. Some producers do only quick screenings for antibodies, which may not appear until six weeks after infection. But if gay porn were to shut out HIV-positive performers, as straight porn does, the business would crash. “You’re looking at an industry where easily 50% of the actors are HIV-positive,” says Michael Stabile, NakedSword.com’s marketing director. “I’ve talked to some of them, and they say, ‘The only time I ever have sex with a condom is on-screen.’ So bareback isn’t any huge fall from grace for them.”

Sometimes it’s a merit badge. THIS IS SO FUCKING STUPID,IT IS ALMOST UNBELIEVEABLE

On the sprawling third floor of a building off Folsom Street in San Francisco, a dozen or so workers go about their duties as busily as Santa’s helpers. Welcome to Treasure Island Media, whose notorious films exploit some of the darkest gay sex taboos—and create a few new ones. Dawson’s 20-Load Weekend and Dawson’s 50-Load Weekend star a soft-spoken, attractive young employee of a scientific firm in his on-screen guise as “world-class cum dump.” He enjoys cattle-call gang-banging, piss enemas, and penetration with a “devil’s dick”—a condom filled with the frozen loads of multiple anonymous men.


To Treasure Island’s reclusive middle-aged owner Paul Morris, sex and homosexuality are meaningful only if they’re transgressive, unreined, risky. (He calls HIV-negativity “the new virginity.”) “To me, sex is a religion,” he says, and Morris—an ex-hustler with the rugged air of a ’70s trucker—wields the eerie charisma of a cult leader. He has laser-beam eyes and a voice that keeps one off balance; its drawling cadences can convey fatherly concern or sarcasm, seduction or intimidation. “Dawson” waxes as rhapsodic of him as did Susan Atkins of Charles Manson. “Paul is a wonderful, wonderful man, a brilliant man. He’s this idol figure that I always looked up to and wanted to please,” he says. He even dreams of having impetuous sex with him: “That’s not played out, unfortunately.”


In his office Morris recalls a plea from queer theorist David Halperin that he start his videos with the pledge “No gay men were harmed in the making of this film.” Morris’s response? “To a certain extent my job is setting up a zone in which those questions don’t appear—a sexual cloud of unknowing.”


He explains his philosophy further. “I want to make porn that comes from a place even I don’t understand. Porn from a place that’s wild, forbidden, that’s absolutely secret. That to me is gay. Not filtered through what the government says you should be. Not according to what the industry says you should or should not do.”


Intellectually tantalizing as his battle cry may seem, what about practical concerns, like infection? Don’t such Treasure Island productions as Breeding Season and Plantin’ Seed fetishize HIV? The filmmaker’s eyes harden. “I see them as fetishizing unalloyed and pure sex among men,” he says bluntly.


Perhaps it’s true for some viewers, as Morris claims, that watching extreme behavior can purge us of similar urges. But “Morningwood” experienced no catharsis from Dawson’s 50-Load Weekend. “It totally overwhelmed me,” he says, and he went on his own mini barebacking spree. Playing safe has been a challenge ever since: “Now that I know what I’m missing, I have to find that inner strength to make the right decision every time.”


The bareback field’s former poster boy has made a life-changing decision of his own. “Hi, I’m Sean Lockhart,” says the slender, sweet-faced lad of 20 who greets me, hand extended, near the Amtrak station in downtown San Diego. As “Brent Corrigan” (as Lockhart now prefers to be called), he starred in such twink classics as Take It Like a Bitch Boy. He’s the twink-lover’s dream: a deliciously piggy boy-next-door type who’ll submit to the kinkiest fantasies, then nestle in your arms like a little lamb. The fact that he was under 18 when he entered the industry had some nasty consequences. So did his involvement with a producer who was killed early this year in one of the most notorious murders in porn history.


He talks about it all at an outdoor café. By his side is Grant Roy, his older Texan boyfriend, father figure, and “protector,” as Corrigan calls him. Roy is his partner in BrentCorriganInc.com, an Internet candy store of pay-per-view sex scenes along with the actor’s revealing blog.


His is the story of a sexually precocious but naive boy with a dysfunctional mother, an absentee father, and painfully low self-esteem. Strapped for funds, he let his then-boyfriend falsify his proof of age (Corrigan was 17) and sell his services to Bryan Kocis, owner of Cobra Video. Kocis—who’d been nabbed for videotaping himself having sex with a minor—became Corrigan’s substitute father and lover; Corrigan became Kocis’s cash cow. But when the actor fled and publicly revealed the age violation, a livid Kocis sued him for fraud and threatened anyone who employed him. Along the way, he made enemies. On January 24, someone entered Kocis’s small-town Pennsylvania home, slashed his throat, stabbed him 28 times, and set the house afire. (On May 15, porn stars and video-on-demand Webmasters Harlow Cuadra and Joseph Kerekes were arrested in Virginia and charged with the crime. Investigators believe the two allegedly committed it in part because the duo wanted to clear the way to work with Brent Corrigan.) In an earlier blog post, I followed this murder. I will try to keep you posted of any developments in future blogs.

This excruciating tale has at least one bright spot. “Thankfully, at this time, I’m HIV-negative,” he says. And he has since become a safe-sex champion. “I strongly believe that condoms in porn are important. It’s not necessarily the end of the world if you get HIV, but it’s still gonna affect who you can and cannot date, who you can and cannot have sex with.” Last year he appeared in his first mainstream gay porn film, Falcon Studio’s The Velvet Mafia. (Due to pressure from Kocis, who claimed ownership of the name “Brent Corrigan,” the actor was billed as “Fox Ryder.”)


All the scenes on Corrigan’s site employ condoms; he plans a series of PSAs in which he’ll demonstrate “fun ways” of using them. “I think it’s time for some of us youthful types to come out and say, ‘This is what you should be doing and this is the way I do it.’ ” Bareback, he feels, is the “crutch” of the unimaginative pornographer. Good for you, Brent.


Condomless porn, of course, isn’t going away. “I want to shout from the mountaintops, ‘It’s just sex!’ ” says Dino Phillips. “Then I think, Should it be just sex? The decision to play safe, he adds, is “ultimately going to have to rest on people’s sense of self.”


But to Grant Roy, that’s a lonely way to live. “Any community should be taking care of its own,” he says. “I think that as gay men, we’ve developed this strange complex of, ‘I have it hard, so I’m gonna bulldoze the fuck over you too.’ There aren’t very many of us out there. If we take care of each other, we’ll be much better off.” To Grant and other guys, who would like to change things, we support you.

I have commented about this insane form of unsafe sex more than once over the years since I've been blogging. I can't for the life of me, rationalize the behavior of these fucking stupid guys. To me, it's a no brainer, fuck, your eyes out, but do it with a condom. Why is this so hard, for guys to understand.

I admire a porn star like Brent Corrigan who wants to spread the gospel of safer sex. On his web site, http://www.brentcorriganonline.com, he wants to show young guys and those who like their men, on the chicken side, ways to demonstrate fun ways of having safer sex. While Brent is definitely, not my type, I give him credit for leading the way in showing guys that safer sex is really more fun. You don't have that fuckin fear hanging over your head, the Russian roulette thing, about if you've been infected or not after unprotected sex. It just makes damn common sense to use a condom ever time you fuck another guy. It is the top man's responsibility, plain and simple.

Why can't gay guys show each other some, what I like to call, buddy bonding? Buddy bonding to me is unconditional protected sex, done in imaginative and hot scenerios.

If a guy likes sex, he has to take fantasy all the way. Whether it be role playing, uniforms, leather, other fetish, doing it well and doing it passionately, will make any guy, I guarantee, a convert to safer sex. And those who can't be pursuaded, are lost causes. If they value their lives as worthless, who am I to say otherwise.

To all the hot men out there, mega hairy muscle hugs and endless nights of buddy bonding.