By now, you may have read or heard that the Boston Red Sox have won the 2004 World Series.
After 86 years, they have won the big one, which eluded them because the Team felt cursed after trading Babe Ruth away to the New York Yankees.
That happened long before anyone of us were around. But that's just the problem with society.
It holds on to stuff passed down generationally. People tend to believe passionately in it, even though it isn't true. The fact of the matter is, the Red Sox finally put together a winning team.
Things like that imbedded in culture are hard to change. We, as musclebears, daddies, muscle cubs, are perceived by some to be out of the mainstream of gay culture. We tend to follow a very different drummer than other gay men. So what? We are a subculture who loves who and what we are. But before we can convince other gay men of that, and society in general, we have to do some self examination.
I feel that there is nothing we can't overcome. We are natural motivators. We tend to think more with our heart, which isn't a bad thing. We may over rationalize situations. But we want to accomplish things. We sometimes can be very stubborn. And sometimes we get down on ourselves, which can be very unproductive.
So should we change? Hell NO. However we should continue to make life better for all gay men.
We know right from wrong. We don't want anyone to be unhappy. In our tender but forthright way, we can make a difference. I feel that other gay men are becoming both intrigued and someone jealous of who we are. We have to continue our growing presence in gay culture.
Personally, I find myself being more driven to this cause. I don't want to see any bearman unhappy. He has to find happiness under his pelt. Bears are very special gay men. So when you're not quite happy with who you are, embrace yourself and get motivated. Learn what gives yourself pleasure, sexually or otherwise. Take time for yourself before you can give yourself to another man.
We are not cursed. We are blessed. So next time you see someone in the bar or in the bookstore a little down, smile in his direction. If you know the guy and he seems not his usual self, give him a warm bear hug. Let's become change agents and let society know how wonderful we are.