Tuesday, November 30, 2004

My Favorite Female Vocalists: Brassy, Sassy Ladies with Golden Pipes

I've always had a fondness for female vocalists. To me, they sing lyrics that I can relate to.

Some of my absolute favorite female vocalists are Linda Ronstadt, Dusty Springfield, Norah Jones, Shelby Lynne, Anne Murray, Joss Stone, Diana Krall, and Aretha Franklin.

You've read my review of Joss Stone's latest CD. She can belt out tunes with the best of them.

Linda is a remarkable songstress. I had the pleasure of seeing her in concert twice in the past year and she can hit notes that most singers only dream about. She's awesome.

Another talented songstress is Anne Murray. I had the priviledge of seeing her perform last evening in Baltimore. I'm still groggy after the long night, but it was well worth it. With her 6 piece band and the Baltimore Symphony, she sang all her hit songs of the 60's and 70's including Snowbird and Daydream Believer. And that was the first half of the concert.

The second half was devoted to Christmas and Holiday music. Her deep lush voice is a Canadian treasure and her voice is as full and rich as ever. She is a very gracious entertainer. Since she now plays various casinos across the country, her stage presence tends to flow towards getting the audience's attention. Her charming delivery of stories, emails from her fans posted to her web site, was especially amusing.

The evening ended with an gold record award for her "Country Croonin" CD. Her label, EMI, arranged for their US representative for their easy listening music division to present her with the award. She was genuinely surprised and very pleased.

These ladies are unique unto themselves. They have given me countless hours of pure listening pleasure. I grew up listening to some of them, and now appreciate them even more.

If you're thinking about gifts for the holidays that give entertainment value, check out these special ladies for their CD's. They make great stocking stuffers. More about stuffing pleasures in future blogs. Have a great day and big bear hugs, always.

Monday, November 29, 2004

According to someone: The 100 Greatest This or That Lists

It must be that time of year again.

If you scroll down your TiVO programing title list, there are a bunch of 100 greatest titles being broadcasted.

An interesting one is the 100 greatest movie lines. From 400 lines, 100 will be chosen.

Some of the lines being considered are:

"Don't knock Masturbation. It's sex with someone I love" Annie Hall
That has some truth.

"OK, but I get to be on TOP" BIG
Something you have to say with first time sex.

"You aren't too bright. I like that in a man." Body Heat
A criteria for certain guys.

"Why don't you go outside and jerk yourself a soda? BUGSY
A nice way of showing a guy that you care.

"Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your live extraordinary" DEAD POETS SOCIETY
My goal for each and every one of you.

This lists goes on and on. Occasionally I'll refer back to it. To get the entire list, log on to http://www.afi.com

BRAVO, not to be outdone, is also into lists. The 100 greatest TV characters was recently revealed. And as always, there were plenty of surprises.

No way, "That Girl" and Ann Marie would be #27. Mick Belker, #56. The injustice goes on and on. I do agree with #1. Check it out yourself at http://www.bravotv.com/The_100_Greatest_TV_Characters/

As a sidenote, Cree got bumped out of the house on "He's a Lady". This show is very lame, but I still watch it.

Hoping you guys had a great Thanksgiving and if you traveled, you arrived back safely to big muscle bear hugs. Have a great day.

Wednesday, November 24, 2004

Giving Thanks

I'd like to focus attention in this blog on things we as gay men are thankful for.

We're thankful for being as tolerant of each other and of others, whatever the challenges we face.

We're thankful for having love in our hearts to cope with such adversity.

We're thankful that we are more intelligent than the average schmo and schmuck.

We're thankful that we have spirit and fortitude to see the best in people around us.

We're thankful that we can be bitchy at times. We need this "no shit" attitude to send a message that we won't ever be going back into the cave or closet.

For me, personally, I'm thankful for being a part of a community that is all inclusive and proactive.

So guys, don't blow your wad, not that wad, but your credit card on Black Friday. We got to show the Reds that we can also vote with our wallets. Boycot consumerism and hopefully we can send a message that if our relationships won't be legally recognized, then the rest of society shouldn't be able to benefit from our buying and creative power. GROOOOOOOWL.

Have a great Thanksgiving, guys. Big hairy muscle hugs to each of you. And the only sensible way to break the wishbone is to arm wrestle for it.

Tuesday, November 23, 2004

A Dad's Demeanor. . . A Daddies' Devotion

This time of year for me is one of reflection.

We find nature going through changes, a change from production to rest.

I can remember my own dad guiding me, through what I considered to be a life or death challenge, to make my own decisions. His direction was always considerate of my feelings. However I had to live with my decisions and face whatever consequences evolved.

I look back now at how much he said without ever saying anything. I admired him for that. His advice was never dictorial, never harsh. It was even balanced and remarkably on target.

In our role as top men, we too are in a position of leadership. We are required to make decisions that determine committment, sexual pleasure, and toleration. It is a role that we should not take lightly.

When you've found your life partner, you accept the whole man, the whole committment. It's not half ass, picking and choosing; it's the whole shebang.

The only way I've found to make this work is devotion. Daddies need to provide stability in the relationship. They must gently guide and think about the "we". Self serving motivation is not part of a daddies' demeanor, unless it benefits both men.

We can all learn from our dads as we evolve as daddies. Be the best daddy you can be, and everything else will fall into place.

Monday, November 22, 2004

Hunter gets captured in the "Manhunt" Gaymes

I know guys, this is old info. I seem to be getting behind in my reports about Manhunt. I guess I am losing interest and Kevin Peake is really trying my patience, man boobs and all.

I liked Hunter. Being one of us, I found an attraction. This sort of mixed up kid really exposed himself in the latest installment.

He bumped and grinded with the best of them. His gay strip bar experience was paying off, a little too much so.

So Hunter got eliminated mainly because of his exuberence. Since that taping, I'm sure he's gotten plenty of offers of work. I'm not worried that much about our stud boy. He's a survivor.

I see Playgirl in this future and International Male and Undergear modeling gigs. Unfortunately, we'll be seeing even more of Peake as long as we continue to get IM and Undergear catalogs. Ugh.

On a lighter note, I had the opportunity to travel to the DC Eagle over the weekend and have some fun during the Mr. DC Eagle contest. Manboobs and flexed pecs played a big part in picking the new Mr. DC Eagle. Nice hairy pecs and a great personality should take him far at IML. Congratulations.

You men will always be studs to me. Make everyday great. Big hairy muscle hugs. Love ya.

Friday, November 19, 2004


No, this isn't some screem headline from the National Enquirer.

Ananova.com reports that a Bulgarian farmer has gone to court to demand substantial dmaages after claiming the prize-winning pedigree pig he bought from a breeder is gay.

The farmer told the court "It's a disgrace, all he is interested in are other male pigs." The farmer took incriminating photos of the pig.

Well, fellow gay pigs, be you potbellies or bearded, we have to come to the rescue of our fellow pig.

He shouldn't have to be treated this way. Just because he's an overachiever and likes other males, he should be able to live his life in dignity.

I haven't read his fate. But I hope some gay farm couple adopts him.

This being the season that gay leather/biker clubs raise money for good causes, I urge the clubs to consider financially adopting our guy. Pigs have feelings too.

So let's rally around our fellow pig. Let him know that he is cared for and loved.

Guys, I'm really serious about this. I'm hoping that some enterprising bearman can raise some money to help take care of our brother in his time of need. Think of the commercial possibilities, pig cards, posters, the pig pen's the limit. Let's harness our resources and make this happen.

Thursday, November 18, 2004

Barmy Bitching

Yesterday I stumbled across a new work, Barmy.

The experts say if you want to remember a new word to incorporate in your vocabulary, you must use it.

So the word, barmy, which means, "soft in the head, crazy, stupid" will be the word du jour.

I am not a fan of rushing the holiday season. As soon as the pumpkin is cut out and the leaves have fallen, it seems that retailers are pushing the envelope to start the holiday season earlier and earlier each year. This blatent consumerism is hard to tolerate during these struggling economic times. So show constrant, men. Try to limit your list to one or two gifts and don't go overboard. You'll only have yourselves to blame when January roles around and that mountain of bills fills your mailbox.

Another barmy bitch I have is halogen head lamps. These give off a glaring white light which enables the driver to see better. Well, duh, how about the opposing car whose driver is blinded by the white light? He or she, obviously, can't see better. And it seems to be these huge SUV's which are equiped with them. Go figure. They already stand taller over regular vehicles and now they come barreling down the road beaming headlamps and blinding your vision. Another example of "hooray for me, the hell with you" mentality.

I seem to be on a roll. But why stop? What other barmy things would you like to sound off about? Feel free to post your barmys. Get it off that hairy muscle chest of yours. You'll feel better for it.

Wednesday, November 17, 2004

Kaizen: Streamline Your Life

As we approach the holidays, there seems to be this human desire to acquire everything in site.
We tend to stuff ourselves silly around the holiday table. We need self control.

I've found that Kaizen is the key to self control and life organization.

Its principals are simple. Follow the 5 s's and become a better organized person.

SORT: Eliminate everything not required.
This can mean a number of things. Stuff laying around the house that you no longer need or use.
Recycle these things. Give them new homes.
It can also mean nonmaterial things like hangups and no longer relevant friends and boyfriends.

SET IN ORDER: efficient placement and arrangement.
For instance, in your kitchen, where is the upper dish cabinet located? If it's located above the dishwasher, then it is easier to unload the dishwasher and place these items above. Also the glassware should be conveniently located nearby, next to the sink.
Likewise you can apply this to your leathers and uniforms. Have the complete outfit located together, with the corresponding hat on the shelf directly above the hung uniform or leather.
The boots, of course, should be positioned below the leather/uniform.

SHINE: Tidiness. This is the key to efficiency and maintaining order. Every thing has a place.
Assign it that place. This goes for both animate and inanimate objects. Your favorite CD's and DVD's should be in cubies arranged with their title side facing you. They shouldn't be haphazardly placed on the shelf or slanting.

STANDARDIZE: You have to keep things simple. You don't need six nearly empty bottles of shampoo lying around the shower area. Consolidate and integrate.

SUSTAIN: Always follow the first four. Assess your situation and apply these principals when necessary.

Allow yourself the pleasure of following a system that works. It keeps you orderly and hell, you'll never have to need the Fab Five barging into your home and slicing and dicing your life.

Let me know how this works for you. And if you need any help, I might show up at your door sometime booted and jockstraped with a big smile carrying my tools of the trade for a successful Kaizen makeover, daddy style.

Tuesday, November 16, 2004

Random Acts of Kindness

While you may have outgrown your Boy Scout uniform, you are still that kind, thoughtful boy at heart.

So to make the world around you just a little nicer, consider these gestures.

A warm fuzzy smile costs you nothing. And what benefits it reaps. Try smiling to strangers while walking on a busy sidewalk or riding the bus or subway. Hell, if some stud catches your eye, isn't he worth a big shining grin?

How about a warm bear hug greeting next time you see an acquaintance? Be spontaneous. Hugs can be customed fitted for the recipient and occasion. They send the right message and never grow old.

Don't air kiss. It isn't becoming. This is a silly queen gesture that I wish would go away of the tiara. You're a man. Air kissing is for sissies.

A combination hug and hand shake is appropriate with someone you may not know intimately, but do want to know better. Always complete the gesture, never do it half ass. One arm must grip firmly around the receivers waist or shoulders while the other hand is extended.

ELLEN has chronicled these forms of greetings on her show. It can be hilarious getting the right greeting to work. Don't aim too high; you don't want to knock someone's eye out.

If you must kiss, do a half European. Kiss on the cheek, but peck with contact. Don't slobber, but make it count.

If you really want to go out on a limb, pick up your neighbor's mail or papers as you are heading up to your condo or apartment. If you are home and your neighbor is not and the UPS/FEDEX hunk is delivering, please be gracious and accept the package. This is an especially kind gesture this time of year when so many people have ordered holiday gifts over the Internet.

You not only are doing something meaningful, but just knowing that you have helped someone, will give you a warm feeling inside. It are these small gestures which could lead to something more meaningful. Small things have a way of producing unexpected and pleasant rewards.
Go for it. Niceness is catchy. So make an effort to spread your love today and everyday, and make your Mom and 1st grade teacher proud.

Monday, November 15, 2004

We Are Who We Love

We, as gay men, have been fortunate to have talented gay writers who have been writing about our lives, our sexual identity, and our lust for over thirty years.

Writers such as John Rechy and Edmund White have been writing since Stonewall. They have been chronicling our sexual behavior in sizzling and emotional fiction. Through their eyes, their words bind gay men together.

I've recently been reintroduced to Edmund White through his latest work, "Arts and Letters"
This collection of essays reads like a who's who of gay lives. Men like Michel Foucault, Knut Hamsun, Jame Merrill, James Baldwin and current celebraties, Sir Elton John and David Geffen.

For bearmen who are not familiar with these gay icons, the collection is worth the time to read.
These men have experienced sexual and physical desire in its most painful forms. They write about the fear of rejection. That emotional roller coaster alone could take millions of blogs to explore thoroughly.

They also write about the tragicomedy of courtship. I feel that after being sure of yourself and mature within your own skin, courtship is the most important obstacle gay men face. It takes an outreach, a pimping, so to speak, to get over this ritual. If anything I hope to accomplish in these writings, I would like to expose the hurdles and pitfalls of courtship. I promise more in future blogs on this topic.

We are fortunate to have our same sexual desires. As these men write, gay sex is a wonderful, emotional event. But it doesn't come guilt free and it evolves by trial and error. It has enormous consequences. But it has almost infinite rewards.

You, my hunky reader, are living a great life. You have the ability to make love and sexual desire a reality. You will become a whole man both emotionally and sexually, once you learn how to love. Finding true, committed love takes courage, compassion and determination.
You don't need to go it alone. I can help sort out the roadblocks and make your experience less painful and more pleasurable. We can do this together.

Saturday, November 13, 2004

Obsessive Possessive

Guys like to acquire things. Some guys have a wardrobe full of shoes, boots, and leather.
Other guys collect watches, sunglasses, friendship pins.
Other guys collect conquests. They never get enough of sex and men.

Collecting is both good and bad. You got to know when you've collected your limit.

Having stuff never proved to make a guy happy. It's quality and not necessarily quantity.

So your toybox is full of fun stuff. You have the latest computer games like Halo. You got yet again some 3rd row tickets for another Cher farewell concert. You got the latest IM knit or Undergear brief. Is all this acquisition making you any happier?

We approach another self indulging season, the Holidays.

After this past election, we shouldn't drown in our sorrow by acquiring even more stuff.

Cherish what you have. We aren't on this Earth forever. Make the most of small things. Value life, love, and good health. Make the world better, one day at a time.

Not only material goods can make you feel good, if only temporarily. Be good to your self by being a better person to others. You are a stud. Let others know what it's like to be with a stud.

It's not about how large your toy box is. It's all about you use the toys you have. Use them wisely and you will enjoy life as it's meant to be. Love conquers all. So make love, not trips to the mall. Be happy and prosper.

Friday, November 12, 2004

My, What a Big Leaf Blower You Have

Ah, the sounds of autumn. Cul-de-sacs and neighborhoods in deciduous tree zones are abuzz with the sucking sounds of leaf blowers.

These essential multi-tasked instruments are loved by both straight men and gay men alike.
Who can resist pivoting these long powerful tools against the hip and being able to rein in thousands of leaves, controlling their destiny into seas of large plastic lawn refuse bags.

One feels this rush as you master these leaves into submission. The roaring sound itself is quite macho. Guys seem to compare leaf blowers. Their girth and length is measured a lot like dick size. And these virtuoso members can be expanded or contracted as the need arises. How delightful.

Who says size and power doesn't matter. In the world of leaf blowers, the bigger the engine, the more the thrust. Gas powered blowers seem to be the preferred choice. They can go anywhere and make the loudest noise.

So if you are having a lousy day and lying around your yard are a few thousand defenseless leaves, try exerting some control, bring out your leaf blower and rev it up. You get your jollys, your partner gets a leaf free yard, and you'll be able to continue your prowlness in the bedroom later. Just don't try to emulate that buzzing sound. You might not be able to measure up.

Wednesday, November 10, 2004

Odds N' Ends

. . . Last week's "He's a Lady" was cool because Dan aka Giselle got booted off by the judges. Yeah. I couldn't stand that back stabbing lying bitch.

. . .Last week's "Manhunt" was particularly cruel. Pablo among 4 others got booted off. He was the hottest remaining guy, but old Kevin Peake is jealous of him. Now there are 4 left. Boohoo.

. . .There really is half a loaf of bread. A baker in the Midwest is selling a half a loaf of bread. While it costs more per ounce than a 22 ounce loaf, it is really the right size for today's bread consumers. How many times do you find yourself with four or five stale slices remaining in the loaf, and throwing it out for the birds?

. . .Have you noticed how many flu medicine commercials have hit the airwaves in the last week replacing the political ads? I think that the flu vaccine shortage was a conspiracy by the drug manufacturers to hawk their products.

. . .Being sweeps month, there seems to be a more than usual amount of barechested beefcake being displayed on the airwaves. Did you catch the two part, Crossing Jordan/Las Vegas shows on Sunday and Monday? Viewers got a treat seeing Jerry O'Connell's bare chest several times as well as that hunky Josh Duhamel. How about those two stun gun scenes. I realize that some of you already have had that experience during playtime. Sweeps can be both informative and arousing.

. . . Finally, guys, remember to sterilize that turkey baster you've been keeping in your toy chest. Thanksgiving is coming and you may need it to baste your turkey. Guys, what you do after eating Thanksgiving dinner is your own business.

Tuesday, November 09, 2004

Going it alone: Self prescribed release therapy, 24/7

Masturbation has always been a form of sex that I could always do on my own terms.
It doesn't require much prepping and it has the convenience of being on demand.

Each guy has his own way of jacking off. For me, it's plain and simple. No lubes, except for an occasional squirt of Citre Shine when I want to smell like I'm jacking off in an orange grove, no other props, just my hand and my cock.

Nipple attention is a fundamental part of stimulation. I found my nipples responsive early on.
They are really connected to my cock, a lot like spark plugs to an engine. The light brushing gets my cock stirring and at attention in seconds. What a rush. WOOOF.

Other guys I know have their own techniques. Whether it's toys, boots, instruments, dildos, etc. whatever you bring to the "party" depends on your mood. Cock rings, for some, are required accessories in the process. You have to experiment to know what feels right at that moment.
Sometimes you don't have much time to prep. Your cock really does have a mind of its own.

Guys are attached to their cocks. Some give them names. Mine was given the name, SuperSquirt, by an ex. Others have names such as Ramrod, Spurt, Soaker,LongDong, Old Faithful etc. Give him a name. He deserves recognition for being there when you need him.

Position is another fundamental part of mastrubation. Some guys love doing it squatting. Others find doing it lying back brings them to the quickest climax. Others, like myself, love doing it sitting on a bench or upright on a folding chair. Still others swear by positioning their La-z-boys in a comfortable position. Whatever works for you, go for it.

You can jack off almost everywhere. Outdoors is a cool place. The pool and hot tube also are stimulating settings to do the deed. The overwhelming water theme choice is one's own shower.
Guys today can have the feel of an outside waterfall or Amazon rainforest right in their own personal showers. I built a custom shower with optional rain forest ceiling shower head along with two shower heads one on each end. Others like sprays and jets strategically placed on various parts of the shower walls. If you got the time and money, think about upgrading your shower into something personal and refreshing. Having one shower head positioned at your cock while the other is teasing your butt crack can provide refreshing release. You're feel exhausted after the climax, but your body will be cleansed both inside and out.

I've purposely left technique to last. Again it all depends on the individual and particular mood at the moment. Some guys love to stroke their cock long and stretch the head. Others prefer to cup the balls with one hand and stroke with the other. Some like short quick strokes. Some like a combination of all of the above. Of course, if you use lubes, you know that only waterbased, water soluable kinds are the best. Some guys swear by J&J baby oil gel, others, KY, others the varieties sold online or available at circuit parties. Whatever makes you feel really good, go for it.

By taking matters in hand, you are performing the oldest form of self expression. It's personalized and it feels good.

Guys, if you have other tips to share, please comment. Your suggestions might prove helpful to other studs and who knows, you may make a j/o buddy for life.

Monday, November 08, 2004

Cher Chugs Along

Like the Energizer bunny, Cher's Farewell Tour, now dubbed, the "Never Can Say Goodbye" tour marches on.

The tour began in June 2002 and will now extend into 2005. It is planned to end in Brisbane, Australia in March, 2005, a few months before Cher turns 59 years old.

The tour has stopped almost everywhere in the US that has a 10,000 plus size area. Red country, blue country, it doesn't matter. Cher appeals to all.

The tour will be returning to some cities for the third time, thanks to the NHL lockout. Her tour has become a finanical blessing for those arena operators who have to fill prime weekend dates.

Her appeal as an ageless diva lends hope to all of us. She brings her "I can do anything" attitude to the masses. Her message is universal, good songs and showmanship. She is what Liberace had always hoped to be, a real diva, but with more flair, more glitz, and no pretending.

Perhaps, her formula should be used to win over the masses to gay marriage. By example, Cher epitomizes gay society. She has a lesbian daughter; she cares about how she looks; she loves drama: and she looks stunning in white as well as black leather. So maybe we should be more like Cher.

Before I get too carried away, another living legend, Linda Ronstadt finally releases her new CD, "Hummin to Myself" this Tuesday. To Linda's fans, this could not have come at a better time.
While Cher is more low keyed (Cher and low keyed, in one sentence, Ugh!!!) in her politics, Linda has been known never to be shy about being a liberal Democrat. And this, if you have been reading over the summer, has gotten her into some delicate situations. Maybe a combined Linda and Cher tour could be the catalyst for getting out the gay marriage vote. Desparate times deserve taking desparate measures.

So remember to buy Linda's latest CD and enjoy this vocalist at her very best.

Let me leave you with big hairy muscle hugs to start the new work week. You look marvelous.

Saturday, November 06, 2004

Nifty Fiftieth

No guys, it isn't my birthday. I'm not 50 yet.

But I'm celebrating a milepost in personal blog history. This is my fiftieth blog.

I feel liberated and satisfied that I have achieved this accomplishment.

Looking back, I would admit that it is somewhat harder than I thought it would be.
Doing this, meeting a self imposed deadline, picking a topic, all of these actions have shown me that I have what it takes to write something constructive, meaningful and hopefully helpful to the reader.

I have shared what I thought are important issues in male relationships. I will continue that theme, sprinkling along the way, some humor, some pain and hopefully some gain.

I feel that I must celebrate the critical importance of the top man in the relationship. It rests on his shoulders and with his cock to provide the emotional stability, maturity and excitement of this ride through life.

Hop on my Harley and I'll take you down that road. We'll continue to explore what makes gay male relationships work and not work. We'll also celebrate the hairy beast in all of us. Musclebears, musclecubs, bearmen, daddies will continue to be featured.

Feel free to comment. I would like to hear your own personal experiences, be it as a top man or a bottom bear. Mor importantly, what do you find exciting about your role and what do you find challenging?

Together we can learn how to get it right from the start. Younger daddies and cubs don't have to reinvent the wheel. That's why the Gay God invented the buddy blog. He wants us to open up, learn from each other, be supportive of each other and love each other as true bear brothers.

We, as gay men, have been let down this past week by hatred, bigotry and lies. But we will continue the fight. We have the power, the financial resources and the time to win our fair share of the rights married couples have under the American legal system. How we chose to use that power and get the message out will decide our fate.

Our gentleness as gaymen and especially, bearmen may be the silent force that wins the other side over. Bitchiness can get our cause noticed, but it can also be destructful. So let's get off our butts, unite and get our relationships, our lives recognized. We can't let someone else dictate our future. We owe it to ourselves and to the gaymen who are yet to discover their sexuality.
We will make this happen, together, provided we get our own house in order, first.

Thursday, November 04, 2004

Logical Persuasion or How to effectively get the Wool pulled over your eyes

Seems like most voters on Tuesday had this done to them.

They voted to keep the status quo, without really knowing what they were voting for.

So the Shrub camp succeeded where as the Kerry campaign fell a little short.

I can't blame the Kerry/Edwards campaign. They sounded the right themes and tried to steer the electorate to consider change and new leadership.

Voters were hoodwinked. I don't have a better term to describe it.

They want to follow a course of action against terrorism which spends money without limitations.

They can't seem to recognize or want to recognize the broader picture. A strong America includes everyone.

So they were bamboozled and all of us will pay for their actions.

They feel for the line: Keep the status quo and everything will be ok.

But it will not be ok. Inflation and a sputtering economy will continue. Terrorist threats will continue. The war in Iraq will continue. Sounds like more of a bad thing to me.

We, as a country, by keeping the bums in office, will be reaping what we sow, discontentent and misdirection.

We have 3 years and 363 days to correct the situation. Next time, things will be different, I promise.

Wednesday, November 03, 2004

The Crying Game: When foul play determines the final outcome.

You know you've been had. You can see through the lies and it hurts. You feel cheated and used.

When these things happen in a relationship, it is time to make the break.

Breaking up is hard to do, but if the relationship isn't working, you have to make that clean break.

You feel defenseless, but in reality, you are empowered. It's your call and you have to make it.

Never feel forced into something you don't like. Don't let anyone guilt you into doing something you aren't comfortable with.

The hurt may never go away, but you will heal and you will survive.

Tuesday, November 02, 2004

Bitch Sessions: Letting the Fur Fly

BITCH: Guys who whine and never do anything about what they are whining about.

ANTIDOTE: Do something about it. If you know a guy who does this, let him know how you feel. Tell me to quit complaining and take action. Help him to get where he wants to be. Or show him alternatives.

BITCH: Guys who Want something someone else has.

ANTIDOTE: Sometimes you can't always get what you want. Simple as that. Envy is a trait that leads to bad things happening. Guys who visit underage chatrooms looking for young guys are a case in point. They will get caught. So just let it go and focus on someone your type. Youth is wasted on the young. Just don't go there.

BITCH: Drivers racing ahead of you at a traffic light.

ANTIDOTE: Besides wanting to get out of your car and punch his lights out, there's really nothing much you can do about it. You can laugh it off, you can give him the finger, you can try to ignore it.

Enough bitching for today. Live your life to the fullest. Be nice to everyone around you. Spread your hunkiness around and be happy.

Monday, November 01, 2004

Extra Hour in Bed

How did you spend that extra hour in bed this weekend?

I know that some of you bearmen had passionate sex, lovingly providing pleasure to your partner, making the most of the extra time. That's the way I put that extra hour to good use.

Some of you just were lazy ass and just slept that extra hour away.

Others never got that extra hour because they chose to stay up longer anyway and maybe, pursue the man hunt. I hope you guys were successful.

Whatever you did, I hope you made the most of it.

This change symbolizes more than just an extra hour in bed. The change signifies a variation in life activity for the next six months. Our environment around us will be in a different mode. There will less daylight and weather changes. We will be wearing more clothing. Our mood swings will vary. Some of us will be in hibernation mode. We will be less physically active.

Regardless it's time for change. And speaking of that, tomorrow is that first opportunity to make change. We will be voting for change. Change in this case, is a good thing. I urge you to vote for change tomorrow. The current environment for gaymen is not conducive to our quest for change. We want acceptance of our partnerships, we want equality in spousal benefits, we want to be able to live openly and without prejudice or retaliation. Change tomorrow can result in the beginning of change for us as gay bearmen. It's not something we can postpone. We have to act inorder for actions to occur.

Make change happen. And next time, I'll leave you alone to pull those covers over your head. If not, expect me to pounce on you and drag that ass of yours out of bed to face whatever life has to offer. It's your choice.