Monday, November 15, 2004

We Are Who We Love

We, as gay men, have been fortunate to have talented gay writers who have been writing about our lives, our sexual identity, and our lust for over thirty years.

Writers such as John Rechy and Edmund White have been writing since Stonewall. They have been chronicling our sexual behavior in sizzling and emotional fiction. Through their eyes, their words bind gay men together.

I've recently been reintroduced to Edmund White through his latest work, "Arts and Letters"
This collection of essays reads like a who's who of gay lives. Men like Michel Foucault, Knut Hamsun, Jame Merrill, James Baldwin and current celebraties, Sir Elton John and David Geffen.

For bearmen who are not familiar with these gay icons, the collection is worth the time to read.
These men have experienced sexual and physical desire in its most painful forms. They write about the fear of rejection. That emotional roller coaster alone could take millions of blogs to explore thoroughly.

They also write about the tragicomedy of courtship. I feel that after being sure of yourself and mature within your own skin, courtship is the most important obstacle gay men face. It takes an outreach, a pimping, so to speak, to get over this ritual. If anything I hope to accomplish in these writings, I would like to expose the hurdles and pitfalls of courtship. I promise more in future blogs on this topic.

We are fortunate to have our same sexual desires. As these men write, gay sex is a wonderful, emotional event. But it doesn't come guilt free and it evolves by trial and error. It has enormous consequences. But it has almost infinite rewards.

You, my hunky reader, are living a great life. You have the ability to make love and sexual desire a reality. You will become a whole man both emotionally and sexually, once you learn how to love. Finding true, committed love takes courage, compassion and determination.
You don't need to go it alone. I can help sort out the roadblocks and make your experience less painful and more pleasurable. We can do this together.


Greg said...

For me, the hardest part is making the inital contact. Lots of hesitation and second-guessing. It sometimes surprises me how easy writers make it appear.

buff said...

Greg. Thanks for your post. Yea, queer writers tend to over simplify the mating process. It does take courage and balls to make that difficult first step. But hell, what do you have to lose? It can be awkward at first, but you don't know unless you approach the guy. Give it a try. Let me know how it goes. Take care, stud.