In the age of cyberspace, a lot of gay men hook-up over the Net. Always a word of caution, when deciding your first rendezvous point, never suggest your place or his. It is always better to meet in a neutral place. But where?
If you have been going hot and heavy with him in chat rooms, etc, then you may want to meet at a place where you can continue your conversations. Restaurants are always good places to meet. You'll have to decide about the atmosphere, casual or classy. You'll want a place where the both of you can make googly eyes at each other and can hear each other in conversation.
But I wouldn't rule out concerts except for Cher concerts, sporting events, matches, or even a place like the public library or museum. These places can be barometers in deciding if he is really the man of your dreams or just a one night stand.
For those of us who had plenty of first dates, I, for one, always bought roses or other flowers to give to him when we first met. It always broke the ice, no matter the venue. And I kissed him first as I gave him the flowers. That approach always seemed to work. While the relationships sometimes didn't last much longer than the flowers, I did make a very good first impression.
I always felt since I was the one to walk away, I always did so knowing that I gave it my best shot.
So guys, if you have other suggestions about places to go on first dates, let it rip. There are a lot of young guys out there in cyberspace who don't have a clue about going about arranging and carrying out a first date. Your expert advice will help them a lot. That's why we're here in the first place, to help.