Friday, September 22, 2006

Tell-All Gay Sex Sells Books, But Is It Really Necessary?

Two gay men are stomping the talk show circuit, hawking their tell-all books.

Jim McGreevy, former NJ governor, has been making the talk show rounds promoting his book, Confessions.

In it, he tells how, quoting him, " The closet is a sick place. Every day, every hour, every minute, every interaction, I lied, I hid," McGreevey told Winfrey. "That's not where you find love, in the back of a booth. That's where you fulfill a physical need. But that's not being godly, that's not finding love."

A very demeaning outlook on life, according to him. He seems to have mistaken sex for love. So he was messed up. It seems that being gay makes you tortured.

It's not being gay that does it, it's how you handle it. Coming and cuming to terms with it is the only way to be happy. You accept the fact and move on with your life. Living as a gay man, with its benefits as well as its challenges, is what we are. Embracing it, finding how we fit in, and really, being there for each other if something does go wrong, that's the best way to live.

I don't buy his argument that gay sex was shameful. That's bull shit. We all know that man sex is the best sex. We are sexual, and we like sex. As long as straights continue to judge us, and we, somehow, feel that gay sex is dirty and isn't normal, then we will forever be burdened by their views and force ourselves into believing it. We guys know that gay sex is fucking better than hetero sex. It feels better, with all its passion and tension. WOOF.

Then there is Rupert Everett. His quote flooding the blogs and newswires is something worthy of self flogging. Rupert is quoted as saying, "Unfortunately, I am single, yes, but I'm too exhausted for anything else and being gay is a young man's game. Now no one wants me. Being gay and being a woman has one big thing in common, which is that we both become invisible after the age of 42. Who wants a gay 50- year-old? No one let me tell you. I could set myself on fire in a gay bar, and people would just light their cigarettes from me."

Blah, blah. What's up with Rupert? I guess he hates rejection from every twink he hits on. I used to like Rupert as an actor, but I am tired of such whining. He sounds like he is getting into character to play Quentin Crisp, the queen's queen, the Naked Civil Servant, sometime in the future. Gosh, if ever two guys were meant for each other, George Michael and Rupert would be a perfect match.

So Rupert, if you are reading this, just grow up. Pouting isn't becoming nor cute , especially for a grown, middleaged man. If you liked to get fucked, explore leather and get yourself a hunky master. Take a cue from McGreevy, be realistic, come to terms with being older, and leave the drama to the drama queens. You'd be doing both yourself and your fans a big favor.

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow! They both have a theme. They are both shallow totally brain dead mouth flappers. Does either of these people present someone who you would consider courageous?

Conor Karrel said...

Wow, I had heard that from Rupert, funny, I think you hit the nail on the head "Who wants a 50 year old gay guy?" indeed! My last LTR was with a 60 year old (I'm 31), my last boyfriend now best friend is 49, and I'm hoping to be dating two 54 year olds in the near future, one of which gave me such a raucous evening I couldn't keep up with him (his score 4, FOUR!!! mine 2, a pathetic two, at 31!) So Rupie, sounds like your self hatred is really just self prophecy!

*Side note, my word verification, and no lie here, started with i bad, hehehe, that made me laugh.

Scott Parsons said...

Isn't America over with the coming-of-age drama of coming out? Sheesh.
Like, who cares anymore. Lance Bass's story in People was more uplifting. He said something like "I'm not just gay, I'm a musician that's also gay." That was something to be proud of.
Scott

Scott Parsons said...

Oh, and for Pete's sake.. straight or gay, we always perceive the world as "for the young." It's too bad; downright discraceful. However, ageism is the one bias we overcome... cause we all get old. It's always better than the alternative (dead). Nevertheless, I, personally, favor the older men. Even as I get older, I still fancy them. If not for their bods, but for their maturity. Here's to over 35!
Scott

Scott Parsons said...

Oh god... I have a daddy complex. Worse yet, twinks are starting to view *me* as a daddy. Oh jesus!
Scott

Anonymous said...

Ouch! You tell 'em, Buff!

Tony said...

Oh Buff...

There are more sexy 40 plus year olds out there than you can imagine. I'm with ya Damien. I'm still single at 46 but have to admit, I've come across some pretty hot men as old and older than me. And I have had a sufficient amount of stares that have made me fill like a piece of 'swiss cheese' if you know what I mean. Probably the hardest thing is placing yourself in the right situation. We all have our comfort levels with various environments, but there is someone out there for all.

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Robguy said...

No one is attractive when they're whining. Sure it can get you attention, just like people gawk at a car wreck, but it's not sexy.

Anonymous said...

I know a way to stop Everett's whining, and he'll have sex too. He's not too hard on the eyes.

I know what Rupert Everett means though, especially in the "fabulous" circles. It is a young man's game, in that arena. Still I wonder if Tom Ford is single? There I go, matchmaking again.

Kathleen... said...

I agree, Mr. Buff! I can't stand any of the tell-all's with the bedroom scenes. If I'm not asking, don't tell......[ugh]

Anonymous said...

i think rupert is sexy as hell! but my opinion dont count...im 45!! egads!!!