Friday, July 20, 2007

How Sad Is This?



The Life and Death of A Young Gay American

By: PAUL SCHINDLER
07/11/2007


In October 2003, Michael Glatze, then 28, sat in Manhattan's Union Square Virgin Megastore, enthusiastically explaining Young Gay America, the organization he helped launch with a mission to "save lives by educating and informing queer youth about their importance to society."




With his co-founder and boyfriend Benjie Nycum, (That's Benji on the left, and Michael, in the middle) Glatze had made an award-winning film and launched a Web site, both of which enabled queer youth across the U.S. to tell their stories. They would later start a magazine bearing the group's name. But, the heart of Young Gay America was a series of five, two-week road trips Glatze, Nycum, and several others took across the U.S. and Canada, in which they met with scores of queer youth, almost all of them remote from major urban areas. Detailed interviews and photos from those encounters were posted on the group's Web site, and served as the model for the stories other youths submitted themselves. In a tribute of sorts to their efforts, a right-wing Christian group named younggayamerica.com one of the nation's "Ten Most Dangerous Websites."




Glatze and Nycum met working at XY magazine in San Francisco, but hoped to move beyond that publication's slick appeal to urban gay youth, and reach LGBT young people in small town America who had the least resources and support. "I'm talking about the ones who are not going to send us e-mail," Glatze said of those most isolated and in need of outreach. "They are not going to show up at the doorstep of a halfway house or a home. They are not going to e-mail anyone. They are stuck."




The Michael Glatze who devoted his life's work to help those gay youth is no more. At some point in the past three years, he had "a born-again experience," which he announced to the world in a July 3 confessional on WorldNetDaily.com, a Christian-right Web site that has long been a forum for extreme anti-gay views.




In a 90-minute telephone interview with Gay City News the evening of July 9, Glatze talked in detail about the crisis he said led to his Christian rebirth, how that experience motivated him to reject his self-identification as a gay man, his feelings of "repulsion" at the thought of sex with another man, and his conclusion that his work at Young Gay America was all about "peddling homosexuality to youth."




But Glatze's story is not simply one of rejecting his own homosexuality. It is also about the mission he feels today - one he termed "evangelical" - to alert society that "the homosexual mindset is that they always want to find more homosexuals."




Most startlingly, Glatze said that America needs to "examine whether homosexuality should be legal" or if gay sex should instead be punished by "imprisonment."It is of course child's play to point out the contradictions across the board between the Michael Glatze of 2003 and the 2007 model.




He remains impressively articulate, precise in his choice of words, passionate, amiable, even gentle, despite his harsh words about what he calls the "false gay identity." In fact, he emphasized not the discontinuity apparent to almost everyone else, but instead the seamlessness of his transformation.




"This is a fruition of all that I have believed in my life," Glatze said of his current thinking on God and homosexuality. He explained that his rethinking began with an unexplained illness he feared might be the same heart condition that killed his father suddenly when Glatze was only 13.Curiously, though, it was disillusionment with his father, even as a young boy, that he said led to his embrace of "the gay identity" as a teenager.




His father flagrantly cheated on his mother, Glatze said, and as a boy he became her comforter and protector, and also vowed to never hurt a woman in the same way. By the time of his father's death, Glatze was experiencing his burgeoning sexuality, but he claims that energy was free-floating, "not focused on any object." It was only when a friend told him at age 14 about people who live their lives as gay that he connected his feelings to same-sex desire. "I was already shy and introverted," he said. "I thought, 'Well, that's what I am.' It sealed my fate. I wanted that masculinity and my sexuality was there. And it crystallized into gay identity."




In a WorldNetDaily.com posting accompanying his essay, Glatze was quoted referring to his "darkest days of late-night parties, substance abuse, and all kinds of things when I felt like, 'Why am I here, what am I doing?'" Even then, he said, "There was always a voice there." But in this week's interview, he conceded that was a reference to years earlier when he was a raver in San Francisco, before he and Nycum moved to Halifax, Nova Scotia, where his ex-partner's family lives.




The voice Glatze says he heard didn't fully reveal itself until his health scare passed and he said, "'Thank God,' and it was the first time the word God made sense to me." What resulted he said was "freedom." Studying the Bible, "came to open my mind to ideas I had not looked at before... I was making peace with my God instead of him being my enemy."As a result, he explained, "I was seeing how powerful sexuality was and that I should not take it flippantly."




Yet Glatze and Nycum were in a long-term relationship, and though he would not discuss their intimate life and whether they were monogamous, he acknowledged that he loved Benjie and that their union was, in his view, "divinely inspired." So what was flippant about that love?"




In the homosexual desire, there is a craving that has a sense of need and along with it the sense that we are doing something wrong," Glatze responded. "That comes from the knowledge of right and wrong and of life. That is different from what I am calling a normal relationship." The potential for procreation is critical in appropriate sexual relationships, Glatze now believes. "If I tried to have sex with a guy, it would steal his sexuality," he argued.




"We have within us the power and important ability to create life." Asked about all the heterosexual coupling that has nothing to do with procreation, Glatze conceded that there is considerable "lust-based" straight sex. He was not able, however, to articulate precisely why then his new Christian right allies focus their ire so disproportionately on homosexuality.




His experience is his past homosexuality, Glatze said. "I can only tell my own story."Glatze's decision to speak out after several years of evolution in his beliefs was, he said, "The obvious thing. I had already come to the conclusion that not everyone who has same-sex desires has to have a gay identity. I got rid of both and I felt more true to myself. Anyone else could do it."




But Glatze is interested in more than simply spreading the good news of his rebirth. He warns that homosexuality and heterosexuality cannot co-exist."The more homosexuality is accepted, the more homosexuals there are," he said. "The more we perpetuate the gay identity to children, the more homosexuals there are. The homosexual mindset is that they always want to find more homosexuals."




Asked to explain a statement at the core of traditional right-wing fear-mongering regarding homosexuality's threat to children, Glatze mentioned what he said was a common gay fantasy about seducing straight men, and his own determination as a younger man to "queer up the world."




Speaking of his youthful embrace of his homosexuality, Glatze asserted, "If it was a world where no gay identity existed and if you had same-sex behavior punished, then a) I would not have done it, b) I would not have had a gay identity that does not exist, and c) I would have seen myself as a normal heterosexual and sought the help of the numerous support groups to deal with my feelings." In mentioning the criminalization of gay sex,




Glatze amended his choice of words from "imprisonment" to "punishment" and then emphasized that he was not endorsing the idea, but only saying that America needed to discuss the question - that is, whether the freedom he has found might need to be enforced on others.




As for his success in dealing with his now-troublesome homosexual feelings, Glatze said the idea of having sex with a man makes him sick, and that he is attracted to women.




Still, he acknowledged, "I lived with the habits for so long, there are times when I can see habitual reactions. Something you might have looked at all your life, you can see yourself notice it, but it does not have the same result in terms of desire. I don't crave or want anymore."His attraction to women has not led him into a relationship, and Glatze emphasized he is not interested in any "lust-based sex." Asked how he will be drawn into a sexual relationship with a woman without lust, he responded, "It's part of the great mystery of life," and said that through prayer he had learned from God that a relationship is probably at least a year off.




Glatze - attractive, intelligent, and committed - could become a formidable anti-gay leader, but there are signs that after dipping his toe in the water, he has found it disagreeably cold.




Scheduled to appear this week on Paula Zahn's CNN program and the Sirius Radio show hosted by Michelangelo Signorile (whose producer passed on Glatze's current contact information to Gay City News), he backed out of both. "I've actually been trying to cut down on talking to people," Glatze said. "I had prayed about going on 'Signorile' and CNN and decided not to. Many people I've spoken to have been not so nice to me."




This guy is so messed up, it isn't funny. I only have pity for him. Again this is another case of a gay guy who somehow feels that turning straight will make his fucked up mind feel better. It's not his sexuality that is the matter, it's his mental state of health. I am so sorry that he feels that his life has been wasted. And now he is in the hands of the Christian Right to make him their latest ex-gay poster boy in their endless propaganda drive to turn the non gay American public against our cause for equal rights and the legal ability to marry.

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Ed said...

The moral religous right are not teaching the love that Jesus taught. The moral men of Jesus day were the ones who had him crucified. David King of Isreal was according to the word "a man after God's own heart." Yet he said of his love for Jonathan," it is greater than the love of a man for a woman." Jesus said of the rapture or taking away of the church: "In that day there shall be two men sleeping in one bed, one shall be taken and the other left behind." If homosexuality was a sin both men would have been left behind. I was forced to learn the Bible while growing up and now I'm glad I know what it really says.

BIGMallrat said...

Wow, now he's a textbook ex-gay. Allowing it causes it to spread. All of Canada must be gay by now. I almost feel sorry for the poor sap. He'll be struggling with sexual repression until it finally drives him crazy (if he's not already there). The theory that acceptance of gays somehow makes people gay holds no water. There is no proof and statistics would disagree.
What woman would ever want to marry a man who has "homosexual feelings"? Go figure.
I always love it when people use "homosexual" vs. "gay." It's an instant give-away to ones feelings on the matter.
The sad part is that some people will actually believe this moron. The message is to be who we think you should be, not what you are.
The good news is that he's not introducing anything new. All his puzzling concepts are reused and still don't make any sense.
Scott

JB said...

Say "Hello again" to the inside of the closet...

Lemuel said...

I predict he'll be back. Once the Taliban are done with him, once he is of no further use and they ignore him, his moment in that sun will be over and he will rediscover his gay self. Whether he will admit that to the world or commit suicide first is the question in my mind.

Albert said...

Passion and the mind will rule again eventually...you can only deny it for so long.

How have you been? It has been a long time!

IRV said...

It's a sad old story from yet another savvy media-whore! It's been done to death & frankly bores me to tears. I'd like to believe that educated people aren't still paying any attention to this crap.

Leonard said...

He sounds like my friend, the first person I ever had "sex" with. We were like 13, best friends and we messed around for years. Then he found God and Christianity and we lost touch for years. The last time I saw him he said he loves me, as a friend...but NOT THE SIN! Can you believe that?! I was like, um you loved sucking my dick and now you are going to say I'M the sinner? Anyways, we've recently made contact after about 10 years, awkward a bit...but at least we are still talking. I don't judge him, I'm not the type of Gay guy who has to shove their sexuality down someones throat...if they're cool, they're cool. ;-) peace

Sh@ney said...

That is a real shame that he is so confused & unable to feel proud of who he is. Trying to change that which cannot be undone only makes matters worse. But he isn't the first to fall into the deniability trap!
P.s You have been chosen for a Thinking Blogger Award!