A new study published in last week's Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that nearly half of Gay Men who have HIV aren't aware of their status.
A recent Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) study on HIV prevalence among men who have sex with men concluded that 48 percent of gay and bisexual men had tested positive for HIV but did not know it.
The system is broken, concluded Michael Weinstein, President of AIDS Healthcare Foundation.
"We need to normalize HIV testing and incorporate testing as a routine part of healthcare screenings. Testing and outreach also needs to become more easily accessible to the public, particularly to those in high risk groups such as men who have sex with men (MSM)."
This sampling of HIV test gay men occurred in Baltimore, LA, Miami, New York City and San Francisco from June 2004 through April 2005. Of the 2,261 gay and bi men sampled who were tested, 1767 had one or more male sexual partners. Of these 1,767, 35 percent were white, 27 percent, hispanic, 25 percent, black, 7 percent multirfacial and 6 percent Asian/Pacific Islander.
Participants were recruited from bars, 30 percent, streat locations, 20 percent, dance clubs, 19 percent, gay stores, 10 percent, gay pride events, 6 percent, social organizations, 5 percents, gyms 5 percents, sex establishments, 3 pecents and parks 1 percent.
Of the 450 HIV infected MSM, 48 percent were unaware of their HIV infections. The authors of the stuy concluded that to decrease HIV transmission, MSM should be encouraged to receive an HIV test at least annually and prevention programs should improve the ways of reaching gay men unaware of their HIV status.
On the prevention end, no news here. The safer sex outreach needs to be expanded and include the realization that gay men need to be educated and reminded about HIV transmission and safer ways to have MSM. No getting around it. Knowing HIV status is important, but prevention is the key to lowering the 40,000 new cases of HIV developing each year.
Tuesday, August 16, 2005
Friday, August 12, 2005
Dougall Fraser Makes It All So Easy For All of US To Live Our Lives
I just got done reading the Dougall Fraser autobiography, "But You Knew That Already".
While he didn't grow up in such an insane environment as Augusten Burroughs, he did have more than the average childhood.
His dad was very supportive. His mother fizzled out of him early because of the divorce. His sister was always more than supportive and Dougall has been mystified by psychics for a very long time, though he is only in his early to mid twenties.
Dougall used the psychic world to deal with and understand being gay. It brought him the majority and helped him to use his gift to help others before eventually helping himself become a happy gay man.
Dougall calls himself a life coach. And I wouldn't argue with him. He became a full fledged psychic after leaving home in New Jersey and heading for Dallas, because he was hoping to be a
certified massage therapist. That didn't quite pan out, but his psychic powers did. Soon he was on local Dallas radio and was giving readings to powerful and monied members of Dallas society. Abut soon this wore him down and he decided to return to his home and try to make it in the Big Apple.
He struggled at first, living at his dad's house, but soon things came together. He arrived when he was featured on the John Walsh talk show. Now he is in the big leagues, partnered with his Jewish boyfriend, and on top of the world.
He gives a lot of advice, which I'd like to share with you. "When you are living the laws of attraction, what you want comes to you much more easily." He believes that" the main reason people come for a psychic reading is that they're in pain." His goal is not to give reading after reading, making people dependent on him or his guidance. His goal is to show the person that he/she has the answers. What makes a psychic reading so intense, is that he shows people that he can pick up these things of their lives, the painful issues, without them ever saying a word.
He feels that he can also teach them to see energy that's all around them. He feels that he can only kick start someone's life. It's what you do after the reading, not what is said during one, that is where your true destiny lies.
With that food for thought, just try sitting back, relax, and if you got a problem, explore other ways and not crutches like food, drugs and alcohol to approach it in a way that's best for you. We're here to help. That's what big hairy muscle hugs are for. They work a lot of magic, but only if you believe.
While he didn't grow up in such an insane environment as Augusten Burroughs, he did have more than the average childhood.
His dad was very supportive. His mother fizzled out of him early because of the divorce. His sister was always more than supportive and Dougall has been mystified by psychics for a very long time, though he is only in his early to mid twenties.
Dougall used the psychic world to deal with and understand being gay. It brought him the majority and helped him to use his gift to help others before eventually helping himself become a happy gay man.
Dougall calls himself a life coach. And I wouldn't argue with him. He became a full fledged psychic after leaving home in New Jersey and heading for Dallas, because he was hoping to be a
certified massage therapist. That didn't quite pan out, but his psychic powers did. Soon he was on local Dallas radio and was giving readings to powerful and monied members of Dallas society. Abut soon this wore him down and he decided to return to his home and try to make it in the Big Apple.
He struggled at first, living at his dad's house, but soon things came together. He arrived when he was featured on the John Walsh talk show. Now he is in the big leagues, partnered with his Jewish boyfriend, and on top of the world.
He gives a lot of advice, which I'd like to share with you. "When you are living the laws of attraction, what you want comes to you much more easily." He believes that" the main reason people come for a psychic reading is that they're in pain." His goal is not to give reading after reading, making people dependent on him or his guidance. His goal is to show the person that he/she has the answers. What makes a psychic reading so intense, is that he shows people that he can pick up these things of their lives, the painful issues, without them ever saying a word.
He feels that he can also teach them to see energy that's all around them. He feels that he can only kick start someone's life. It's what you do after the reading, not what is said during one, that is where your true destiny lies.
With that food for thought, just try sitting back, relax, and if you got a problem, explore other ways and not crutches like food, drugs and alcohol to approach it in a way that's best for you. We're here to help. That's what big hairy muscle hugs are for. They work a lot of magic, but only if you believe.
Wednesday, August 10, 2005
Nipples, Nipples Everywhere.
By now you have been familiarized or have heard of the new book circulating the airwaves,
"Why Do Men Have Nipples?".
I fuckin know the answer. Because they get turned on my male nipples. Well, I say that from experience.
Really, according to Mark Leyner and Dr. Billy Goldberg, while only females have mammary glands, we all start out in a similar way in the embryo. The embryo folls a female template until about six weeks, when the male sex chromosome kicks in. Thank God for that.
Nipples for me definitely have a function. They are to be proudly displayed whenever possible.
So when Details, in its August issue on newstands now, posed the question, "Should a Man Show Nipple?", I cried out, fuckin yes.
The article says that guys are just showing off their bodies more. A female quoted in the article states, "But I suppose if a guy has on a nice tight lycra blend T shirt with visible nips, I might have a hrd time not saring. As far as it being a turn on, that totally depends on the guy. She goes on to say, Guys wearing shirts tight enough to display their nips, wouldn't be the type of guys who wouldn't notice ours." So true lady, so very true.
So I say, proudly display your nips whenever you can. Never ignore or neglect them. Give them all the attention they deserve. And they will always stand at attention at a moments notice. Now that's what I call sexy.
"Why Do Men Have Nipples?".
I fuckin know the answer. Because they get turned on my male nipples. Well, I say that from experience.
Really, according to Mark Leyner and Dr. Billy Goldberg, while only females have mammary glands, we all start out in a similar way in the embryo. The embryo folls a female template until about six weeks, when the male sex chromosome kicks in. Thank God for that.
Nipples for me definitely have a function. They are to be proudly displayed whenever possible.
So when Details, in its August issue on newstands now, posed the question, "Should a Man Show Nipple?", I cried out, fuckin yes.
The article says that guys are just showing off their bodies more. A female quoted in the article states, "But I suppose if a guy has on a nice tight lycra blend T shirt with visible nips, I might have a hrd time not saring. As far as it being a turn on, that totally depends on the guy. She goes on to say, Guys wearing shirts tight enough to display their nips, wouldn't be the type of guys who wouldn't notice ours." So true lady, so very true.
So I say, proudly display your nips whenever you can. Never ignore or neglect them. Give them all the attention they deserve. And they will always stand at attention at a moments notice. Now that's what I call sexy.
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
Boys in the Buff On Stage. The Bard Would Have Approved
Male nudity on stage has had a well received reception for more than ten years.
Men getting naked during an onstage performance helps the play connect with its audience.
The lastest work to be presented with men in the buff is "Terrorism", an Off Broadway play by tghe Presnyakov Brothers, much of the male cast appearing nude.
The undressing room definitely has its supporters in the theater these days. In the last fifteen years, there have been 25 play with full frontal nudity with men's role being the overwhelming majority, 40 to 10 female roles. So what is this obsession about the male nude body performing on stage?
Some feel that the gay revolution of the 90's and so many gay authors and performers acceleratored the scope and variety of the productions. Theaters began to produce plays that took a full-frontal view of sexuality. Terrence McNally's 1994 play, "Love!,Valour!,Compassion!
exposed the lives and relationships of six gay men and contained a memorable scene in which the cast went skinny dipping.
Jame Nicola is quoted as saying, "I think you could say that gay people coming out of the closet has paralleled the arrival of the penis onstage."
Jason Butler Harner, a hot actor, has appeared nude onstage five times, including his most recent effort in Jon Robin Baitz's "Paris Letter". It fills the seats, says Harner.
Nicola says, "I think an artist who chooses to use male nudity is tring to communicate something." "And I think a penis is more theatrical."
But for some audiences, the elderly and students, male nudity is the kiss of death. So it has to be used for a target audience, one who understands and appreciates the message as presented onstage.
I recently saw the excellent play, "Take Me Out", based on a story about a ballplayer who announces after he signed a multi-year multi million dollar contract that he is gay. Baseball and the locker room and the showers. Images that go together, where ballplayers congregate most of the time off the field in the clubhouse.
"Take Me Out" has a 10 minute all-male shower scene where the players talk about their play on the field and other things. Is is necessary to tell the story? Hell yea. Why you ask? Because the play is about coming out, being excepted by your teammates, and in the nude, the players bare not only their bodies but their souls.
A very graphic scene later on involves the gay baseball star and the player who is homophobic.
The gay player confronts the homophobe who is showering. The gay player both shows his masculinity and puts the homophobe in his place as he tackles the guy in the showers, knocks him to the floor and holds him down, showing him that he isn't going to take any more shit from him. Being the top guy, the gay player portrays his dominance over the homophobe. This positioning is key to showing that the gay player is equal to his teammates.
Without the nudity, "Take Me Out" wouldn't have the same impact. So if you enjoy gay theater and male nudity, check out "Take Me Out" and the other gay male musical revues touring the country. Prime beef never looked or acted so good.
Men getting naked during an onstage performance helps the play connect with its audience.
The lastest work to be presented with men in the buff is "Terrorism", an Off Broadway play by tghe Presnyakov Brothers, much of the male cast appearing nude.
The undressing room definitely has its supporters in the theater these days. In the last fifteen years, there have been 25 play with full frontal nudity with men's role being the overwhelming majority, 40 to 10 female roles. So what is this obsession about the male nude body performing on stage?
Some feel that the gay revolution of the 90's and so many gay authors and performers acceleratored the scope and variety of the productions. Theaters began to produce plays that took a full-frontal view of sexuality. Terrence McNally's 1994 play, "Love!,Valour!,Compassion!
exposed the lives and relationships of six gay men and contained a memorable scene in which the cast went skinny dipping.
Jame Nicola is quoted as saying, "I think you could say that gay people coming out of the closet has paralleled the arrival of the penis onstage."
Jason Butler Harner, a hot actor, has appeared nude onstage five times, including his most recent effort in Jon Robin Baitz's "Paris Letter". It fills the seats, says Harner.
Nicola says, "I think an artist who chooses to use male nudity is tring to communicate something." "And I think a penis is more theatrical."
But for some audiences, the elderly and students, male nudity is the kiss of death. So it has to be used for a target audience, one who understands and appreciates the message as presented onstage.
I recently saw the excellent play, "Take Me Out", based on a story about a ballplayer who announces after he signed a multi-year multi million dollar contract that he is gay. Baseball and the locker room and the showers. Images that go together, where ballplayers congregate most of the time off the field in the clubhouse.
"Take Me Out" has a 10 minute all-male shower scene where the players talk about their play on the field and other things. Is is necessary to tell the story? Hell yea. Why you ask? Because the play is about coming out, being excepted by your teammates, and in the nude, the players bare not only their bodies but their souls.
A very graphic scene later on involves the gay baseball star and the player who is homophobic.
The gay player confronts the homophobe who is showering. The gay player both shows his masculinity and puts the homophobe in his place as he tackles the guy in the showers, knocks him to the floor and holds him down, showing him that he isn't going to take any more shit from him. Being the top guy, the gay player portrays his dominance over the homophobe. This positioning is key to showing that the gay player is equal to his teammates.
Without the nudity, "Take Me Out" wouldn't have the same impact. So if you enjoy gay theater and male nudity, check out "Take Me Out" and the other gay male musical revues touring the country. Prime beef never looked or acted so good.
Monday, August 08, 2005
Hillsborugh County "Pride in Exile "Days cumming to Key West
Key West community Leasders will host a Pride in Exile celebration this cumming weekend to mark their disapproval of the Hissborough County Commissions ban on acknowledging, promoting or participating in gay pride recognition or events.
Because Key West never needs an excuse for celebrating anything, Key West is hold festiviities with include a "Dragged from Tampa" drag show. a march and parade down DuVal street and a gender bending re-enactment of June's Hillsborough commission's meeting in whch the ban was approved.
Several chartered buses will be descending upon Key West from the Tampa Bay area.
Pride in Exile falls more than a month after Key West's own gay pride celebration and organizers say that this event is part protest, part economic boost, since the area has slower summer business this time of year because of hurricane season and the heat factor.
Key West's moto is "One Human Family". So they didn't hesitate a second about hosting this weekend's event.
Greg Needham, an organizer and owner of the local newspaper said, "We wanted people to come down and experience pride in a community where residents and officals fully support it."
The spoof will have a drag queen play Hillsborough Commissioner Ronda Storms, who proposed the gay pride ban. Organizers noted that Storms has a perfect name ofr a drag queen, and they said her character will end up in a swimming pool before the end of the production, an ode to the Alexis Carrington and Kyrstle Carrington drag outs from Dynasty. Should be a laugh riot as well as sending a message to Hillsborough County that such hatred of gay men and lesbians is an embarrassment to them. An Anita Bryant clone we don't need now. And look what happened to her once some angry drag queens got through with her.
Because Key West never needs an excuse for celebrating anything, Key West is hold festiviities with include a "Dragged from Tampa" drag show. a march and parade down DuVal street and a gender bending re-enactment of June's Hillsborough commission's meeting in whch the ban was approved.
Several chartered buses will be descending upon Key West from the Tampa Bay area.
Pride in Exile falls more than a month after Key West's own gay pride celebration and organizers say that this event is part protest, part economic boost, since the area has slower summer business this time of year because of hurricane season and the heat factor.
Key West's moto is "One Human Family". So they didn't hesitate a second about hosting this weekend's event.
Greg Needham, an organizer and owner of the local newspaper said, "We wanted people to come down and experience pride in a community where residents and officals fully support it."
The spoof will have a drag queen play Hillsborough Commissioner Ronda Storms, who proposed the gay pride ban. Organizers noted that Storms has a perfect name ofr a drag queen, and they said her character will end up in a swimming pool before the end of the production, an ode to the Alexis Carrington and Kyrstle Carrington drag outs from Dynasty. Should be a laugh riot as well as sending a message to Hillsborough County that such hatred of gay men and lesbians is an embarrassment to them. An Anita Bryant clone we don't need now. And look what happened to her once some angry drag queens got through with her.
Thursday, August 04, 2005
Augusten X. Burroughs' Family Gets Snippy Over Their Film Portrayal
Augusten Burroughs is the kind of interesting guy you'd like to meet in a gay bar. He is funny, period, and cute.
Augusten wrote a hilarious book several years ago, titled, "Running With Scissors." That great book has now been made into a movie and all of a sudden, his "family" is up in arms and is suing Burroughs, who is gay.
Their lawsuit, filed in Massachusetts claims that Burroughs "mercilessly and repeatedly" defamed family members "so as to sensationalize his past to make the book marketable while knowingly causing harm and humiliation" to the Turcotte family, with whom Burroughs lived after his disturbed mother turned guardianship of Augusten over to her pyschiatrist, Dr. Turcotte.
The book came out in 2002. Where have these people been all these years.
The book's publisher, St. Martin's Press, at the insistance of their legal advisors, renamed the characters. Dr. Turcotte became Dr. Finch, who looks like Santa Clause and acts more like Alfred Kinsey. His household is in shambles, a Christmas tree stays up until summer, an electrochock therapy machine is displayed under the stairs, and a pedophile lives in a shed in the back yard who molests the young Augusten. When Augusten doesn't feel like going to school, Dr. Finch helps him fake a suicide. Lots of valium keeps this circus going in all three rings.
The moive version, to be released next year by Sony TriStar, stars Gwyneth Paltrow as Augusten's mother, Annette Bening and ALec Baldwin and Dr. and Mrs. Finch and Vanessa Redgrave as the deranged aunt.
Howard Cooper, the Turcotte's attorney is quoted as saying, "With the forthcoming movie, the family is living in fear that there will be utter devastation to their reputations and the invasion of the privacy will be complete." Hey, they could turn all of this into a reality series. So why all the fuss and fuming?
The suit, in addition to seeking damages for libel, defamation, fraud, invasion of privacy and emotional distress, asks the court to order public retractin and a public statement taht the book is fictional, and requests that distinction be made in all future publishing runs, paperback versions of the book.
When reading fiction or an autobiographical work, there is some fiction in the non-fiction and fact in the fiction. The genres are blurred.
For the sake of interesting reading, I believe that Burroughs used the truth and expanded upon it, plain and simple. This family was a bunch of wild, wide eyed lunatics who lived in squalor or great clutter, however you see it, and probably did commit criminal acts, innocently or ignorant of the law and let other unlawful conduct get by under their noses.
If you haven't read the book, do so. If not, do wait to see the flick. It should be a gem.
Augusten wrote a hilarious book several years ago, titled, "Running With Scissors." That great book has now been made into a movie and all of a sudden, his "family" is up in arms and is suing Burroughs, who is gay.
Their lawsuit, filed in Massachusetts claims that Burroughs "mercilessly and repeatedly" defamed family members "so as to sensationalize his past to make the book marketable while knowingly causing harm and humiliation" to the Turcotte family, with whom Burroughs lived after his disturbed mother turned guardianship of Augusten over to her pyschiatrist, Dr. Turcotte.
The book came out in 2002. Where have these people been all these years.
The book's publisher, St. Martin's Press, at the insistance of their legal advisors, renamed the characters. Dr. Turcotte became Dr. Finch, who looks like Santa Clause and acts more like Alfred Kinsey. His household is in shambles, a Christmas tree stays up until summer, an electrochock therapy machine is displayed under the stairs, and a pedophile lives in a shed in the back yard who molests the young Augusten. When Augusten doesn't feel like going to school, Dr. Finch helps him fake a suicide. Lots of valium keeps this circus going in all three rings.
The moive version, to be released next year by Sony TriStar, stars Gwyneth Paltrow as Augusten's mother, Annette Bening and ALec Baldwin and Dr. and Mrs. Finch and Vanessa Redgrave as the deranged aunt.
Howard Cooper, the Turcotte's attorney is quoted as saying, "With the forthcoming movie, the family is living in fear that there will be utter devastation to their reputations and the invasion of the privacy will be complete." Hey, they could turn all of this into a reality series. So why all the fuss and fuming?
The suit, in addition to seeking damages for libel, defamation, fraud, invasion of privacy and emotional distress, asks the court to order public retractin and a public statement taht the book is fictional, and requests that distinction be made in all future publishing runs, paperback versions of the book.
When reading fiction or an autobiographical work, there is some fiction in the non-fiction and fact in the fiction. The genres are blurred.
For the sake of interesting reading, I believe that Burroughs used the truth and expanded upon it, plain and simple. This family was a bunch of wild, wide eyed lunatics who lived in squalor or great clutter, however you see it, and probably did commit criminal acts, innocently or ignorant of the law and let other unlawful conduct get by under their noses.
If you haven't read the book, do so. If not, do wait to see the flick. It should be a gem.
Wednesday, August 03, 2005
Giddy Up: The Gay Rodeo Circuit Hits the Big Time
It's summer and the smells of the rodeo lay heavy over the outdoor arena. It's gay rodeo time again and the living is easy.
I love the gay rodeo. It has something for just about everyone. The events, the cowboys, the excitment of competition, the cowboys. Oh well, you can't say I have a one track mind.
Details Magazine has made the gay rodeo cool to guys who read the publication. In the August 2005 issue, Sonny Koerner, Mr. Atlantic States Gay Rodeo Association 200 proundly sits on his horse bare butt and loving it. This guy is what makes the International Gay Rodeo Association what it is today, the third largest rodeo association in the world with 20 scheduled events annually. One of the biggest is Cowtown Rodeo in Dallas Fort Worth. While I haven't been to the Cowtown Rodeo, I've been to several others, and I always left the weekend with a smile on my face.
The gay rodeo community, like other communities, can be clickish, but it gets down to business to host these annual events. The turnouts are large and while PETA loves to picket, these rodeos are very animal friendly. It's more about raw skill and determination in events such as the barrel run, pole bending and flag race, and the crowds really get into the action.
I loved one quote in the article about how to wear your Wranglers or Levi's 517's which almost all rodeo guys subscribe to: "They should be tight enough to show what religion you are." Now that's some kind of form fitting jeans.
Some find the drag events entertaining. I usually tolerate them, because they give the cowboys a rest from the main competitions. The drag queens compete annually for the title of Miss IGRA. These events combine camp and athletic prowlness and show gay strength in a Stonewall kind of way. These guys take the competition seriously and the winnings go to worthy gay causes.
Sonny Koerner, one of the champions on the circuit, was a kid growing up loving horses and the rodeo. He was skeptical at first, but later realized, while attending a gay rodeo one weekend, that this is the real thing and embraced it.
One of the fun and frustrating events is the goat dressing competition. Putting on a pair on underpants or udderpants, (oh brother, I couldn't resist) on a goat is harder than it looks. Cowboys like to mix up their competions and compete in both the stock events such as steer riding, bull riding and chute dogging and the goat dressing competitions.
Sonny has won many a buckle. While not on the circuit, Sonny is employed as a counterterriorism expert in Washington, DC.
The article concludes with a funny confrontation between Sonny and one of the patrons of a local DFW gay C&W bar. The dude tries to grab Sonny's ass. Sonny responds, "Do you realize that you can't (grab my ass) this time?" The troll responds, "What do I have to do to get a belt buckle?" Sonny replies, " I typically don't give my buckles away. I earn them and they mean something to me". The troll pouts and stamps out of the bar area. Sonny concludes, "Now of course, the real story is that those goat dressing buckles and stuff, I might have given a few of them away." Yea, Sonny, I know a few hot guys that would love strutting one of your buckles.
So if you got a little spare time the rest of the summer, check out the gay rodeo circuit. For more info, click on, http://www.igra.com
I love the gay rodeo. It has something for just about everyone. The events, the cowboys, the excitment of competition, the cowboys. Oh well, you can't say I have a one track mind.
Details Magazine has made the gay rodeo cool to guys who read the publication. In the August 2005 issue, Sonny Koerner, Mr. Atlantic States Gay Rodeo Association 200 proundly sits on his horse bare butt and loving it. This guy is what makes the International Gay Rodeo Association what it is today, the third largest rodeo association in the world with 20 scheduled events annually. One of the biggest is Cowtown Rodeo in Dallas Fort Worth. While I haven't been to the Cowtown Rodeo, I've been to several others, and I always left the weekend with a smile on my face.
The gay rodeo community, like other communities, can be clickish, but it gets down to business to host these annual events. The turnouts are large and while PETA loves to picket, these rodeos are very animal friendly. It's more about raw skill and determination in events such as the barrel run, pole bending and flag race, and the crowds really get into the action.
I loved one quote in the article about how to wear your Wranglers or Levi's 517's which almost all rodeo guys subscribe to: "They should be tight enough to show what religion you are." Now that's some kind of form fitting jeans.
Some find the drag events entertaining. I usually tolerate them, because they give the cowboys a rest from the main competitions. The drag queens compete annually for the title of Miss IGRA. These events combine camp and athletic prowlness and show gay strength in a Stonewall kind of way. These guys take the competition seriously and the winnings go to worthy gay causes.
Sonny Koerner, one of the champions on the circuit, was a kid growing up loving horses and the rodeo. He was skeptical at first, but later realized, while attending a gay rodeo one weekend, that this is the real thing and embraced it.
One of the fun and frustrating events is the goat dressing competition. Putting on a pair on underpants or udderpants, (oh brother, I couldn't resist) on a goat is harder than it looks. Cowboys like to mix up their competions and compete in both the stock events such as steer riding, bull riding and chute dogging and the goat dressing competitions.
Sonny has won many a buckle. While not on the circuit, Sonny is employed as a counterterriorism expert in Washington, DC.
The article concludes with a funny confrontation between Sonny and one of the patrons of a local DFW gay C&W bar. The dude tries to grab Sonny's ass. Sonny responds, "Do you realize that you can't (grab my ass) this time?" The troll responds, "What do I have to do to get a belt buckle?" Sonny replies, " I typically don't give my buckles away. I earn them and they mean something to me". The troll pouts and stamps out of the bar area. Sonny concludes, "Now of course, the real story is that those goat dressing buckles and stuff, I might have given a few of them away." Yea, Sonny, I know a few hot guys that would love strutting one of your buckles.
So if you got a little spare time the rest of the summer, check out the gay rodeo circuit. For more info, click on, http://www.igra.com
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
Gay Marriage Featured at New York Fringe Festival
Howdy guys. Been playing the role of handyman at my Mom's house. Sorry to be away from the computer for so long. But like everything else, it's easy to pick up where you left off. Missed you guys.
Read in the NY Blade that the GayCo productions of Chicago is going to present, Weddings of Mass Destruction, a satire with songs and sketches about same-sex marriage in America, to be held August 12-28,2005 at the Lucille Lortell Theatre on Christopher Street in lower Manhattan.
This how is sescribed as a "satirical atack on the state of our union: political, poignant, and heartbreakingly hilarious, (someone must have paid off the reviewer)". It goes for the jugular, as the Queer Eye guys transform into pink-faced minstrels, Alyssa Milano hets her lesbian toruch song hommage, stuff like that.
It is billed as the revue that boasts comedy scenes and satirical songs that explore America as a land where everyone, struggles equally to connect or get laid. Sounds like my kind of revue.
In the meantime, have a great day and big hairy muscle hugs. Glad to be back.
Read in the NY Blade that the GayCo productions of Chicago is going to present, Weddings of Mass Destruction, a satire with songs and sketches about same-sex marriage in America, to be held August 12-28,2005 at the Lucille Lortell Theatre on Christopher Street in lower Manhattan.
This how is sescribed as a "satirical atack on the state of our union: political, poignant, and heartbreakingly hilarious, (someone must have paid off the reviewer)". It goes for the jugular, as the Queer Eye guys transform into pink-faced minstrels, Alyssa Milano hets her lesbian toruch song hommage, stuff like that.
It is billed as the revue that boasts comedy scenes and satirical songs that explore America as a land where everyone, struggles equally to connect or get laid. Sounds like my kind of revue.
In the meantime, have a great day and big hairy muscle hugs. Glad to be back.
Wednesday, July 20, 2005
We Have Just Begun To Fight
His name is John G. Roberts, Jr. and you will be seeing and hearing alot about this man who will decide our future, if nominated as a justice on the U.S. Supreme Court.
He is a conservative wrapped in a pretty bow. He is youngish, 50, and ifapproved by the U.S. Senate, will be able to shape our Nation's laws for many years to come.
What we know about this man is that he is a Washington insider who clerked for William Rehnquist when Rehnquist was an associate justice and worked in Bonzo's and Daddy's administrations.
He is a long-standing member of the Republican National Lawyers Association who gave little brother Jeb private legal advice during the 2000 presidential election recount.
He is no friend of gays or gay marriage. He was the one who convicted a young girl who was caught eating french fries on the Washington DC metro system where eating food is prohibited.
This guy likes to send a message, his message and interpertation of the law.
Some parts of his record contradicts itself when it is useful to do so. He is quoted as saying that a women's right to choose was "wrongly decided and should be overruled". When he was up for a judgeship, he played down that earlier statement, explaining that he made the administration's case against Roe V. Wade only because that was his responsibility as its lawyer.
So what we have is a guy that can speak from both sides of his mouth when it serves his purpose.
I am not personally surprised by the nomination. But the battle lines are already drawn. Look for a long and vigorous battle waged from both sides.
He is a conservative wrapped in a pretty bow. He is youngish, 50, and ifapproved by the U.S. Senate, will be able to shape our Nation's laws for many years to come.
What we know about this man is that he is a Washington insider who clerked for William Rehnquist when Rehnquist was an associate justice and worked in Bonzo's and Daddy's administrations.
He is a long-standing member of the Republican National Lawyers Association who gave little brother Jeb private legal advice during the 2000 presidential election recount.
He is no friend of gays or gay marriage. He was the one who convicted a young girl who was caught eating french fries on the Washington DC metro system where eating food is prohibited.
This guy likes to send a message, his message and interpertation of the law.
Some parts of his record contradicts itself when it is useful to do so. He is quoted as saying that a women's right to choose was "wrongly decided and should be overruled". When he was up for a judgeship, he played down that earlier statement, explaining that he made the administration's case against Roe V. Wade only because that was his responsibility as its lawyer.
So what we have is a guy that can speak from both sides of his mouth when it serves his purpose.
I am not personally surprised by the nomination. But the battle lines are already drawn. Look for a long and vigorous battle waged from both sides.
Wednesday, July 13, 2005
Don't Get Stung By Someone Behind the Bushes or the Stall Who Appears to Be Too Good To Be True
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Tuesday, July 12, 2005
Hola, the First Gay Couple Weds in Spain
The first gay couple to wed under Spain's new gay marriage law are Emilio Menendez and Carlos Baturin German who were smiling broadly as they exchanged thir vows.
The ceremony took place in Tres Cantos, a town outside Madrid. Spain is the third country after the Netherlands and Belguim to grant full legal recognition to same sex couples.
The ceremony was presided over by a town councilor from the United Left Party.
The law gives gay couples the same rights as heterosexual ones. Besides getting married, they can adopt children and inherit each other's property. Truly remarkable in this overwhelming Catholic country.
Since the law took effect on July 3, 2005, about 50 couples are believed to have filed papers seeking to get married. With the gay population estimated to be about 4.3 million in Spain, there will be plenty of "Si" exchanged. I wish all of these couples the best of lives. Of course, big hairy muscle hugs of congratulations are in order. Salut!!!
The ceremony took place in Tres Cantos, a town outside Madrid. Spain is the third country after the Netherlands and Belguim to grant full legal recognition to same sex couples.
The ceremony was presided over by a town councilor from the United Left Party.
The law gives gay couples the same rights as heterosexual ones. Besides getting married, they can adopt children and inherit each other's property. Truly remarkable in this overwhelming Catholic country.
Since the law took effect on July 3, 2005, about 50 couples are believed to have filed papers seeking to get married. With the gay population estimated to be about 4.3 million in Spain, there will be plenty of "Si" exchanged. I wish all of these couples the best of lives. Of course, big hairy muscle hugs of congratulations are in order. Salut!!!
Monday, July 11, 2005
Michael Cunningham, A Gay Author for Our Times
I am a big fan of Michale Cunningham's work. He has spellbound me when reading "The Hours" with all its interwined time capsules. He has pleasured me while reading his fantastic interplay of characters in "A Home At the End of The World" and writes from the heart in "Flesh and Blood"
Now Michael is at it again. His latest novel, "Specimen Days" , which I have ordered and not read yet is a collection of 3 linked novells that takes the form a ghost story, a thrillr and a science fiction tale all wrapped up in a neat bowtie.
Michael is really a cool guy. He likes long walks, his favorite East Village New York City book store haunts and peaceful times with his partner in P-Town.
The title, "Specimen Days" is borrowed from a collection of Walt Whitman autobiographical writings, beginning with a Victorian ghost story set in a rapidly industrializing, grit and dirty mid 19th century Manhattan. He next links us to New York after September 11, 2001. Then he ends it with a futuristic flare where thrill-seeking tourist pay to be mugged in a theme park called "Old New York" and where the masters of the universie use alien lizards as nannies. I kid you not.
This is an experiment in writing. He needed to top himself after his "the Hours" achievement.
And he does it with writings that stretch out over two centuries. This work may be flawed, but you can't fault the guy for exploring new territories in his writing.
He is a gay author first and foremost, but he doesn't make it the forcus of his work. I feel that this frees him to write creatively from the soul and take risks in doing so.
This won't be an easy summer read, but you'll come away with a deeper sense of awe and respect for this accomplished gay author for our times.
Now Michael is at it again. His latest novel, "Specimen Days" , which I have ordered and not read yet is a collection of 3 linked novells that takes the form a ghost story, a thrillr and a science fiction tale all wrapped up in a neat bowtie.
Michael is really a cool guy. He likes long walks, his favorite East Village New York City book store haunts and peaceful times with his partner in P-Town.
The title, "Specimen Days" is borrowed from a collection of Walt Whitman autobiographical writings, beginning with a Victorian ghost story set in a rapidly industrializing, grit and dirty mid 19th century Manhattan. He next links us to New York after September 11, 2001. Then he ends it with a futuristic flare where thrill-seeking tourist pay to be mugged in a theme park called "Old New York" and where the masters of the universie use alien lizards as nannies. I kid you not.
This is an experiment in writing. He needed to top himself after his "the Hours" achievement.
And he does it with writings that stretch out over two centuries. This work may be flawed, but you can't fault the guy for exploring new territories in his writing.
He is a gay author first and foremost, but he doesn't make it the forcus of his work. I feel that this frees him to write creatively from the soul and take risks in doing so.
This won't be an easy summer read, but you'll come away with a deeper sense of awe and respect for this accomplished gay author for our times.
Friday, July 08, 2005
This Guy May Have All the Answers You've Been Looking For
Who knew? There is a gay psychic out there and he's HOT.
Dougall Fraser is the new psychic on the block who just happens to be gay.
For starters, he doesn't talk to dead people. That's a load off my mind.
He says that's boring. He's more interested in human dynamics and why we are here on this planet.
He say, "People want the mysteries of the unvierse unlocked instantly." His job, he says, is to ponto out where a guy is missing out in life. Truth being told, if everything were great, he says, why would anyone bother to come see him? Good point.
He stress self-reliance and introspection and he isn't afraid about being open about his sexual orientation.
He got a new book out called, "But You Knew That Already", published by Rodale Press.
The book is not excusively about gay issues, but a large part of it deals with is coming out process and life as a gay man.
He wants to show the public what it's like for a gay man trying to blend being spiritual and bieng human at the same time.
His book is also reported to be uplifting, with its insights into the basic life questions that so many people want answered, all written with a quirky sense of humor.
He says that the books main message is that people need to learn to trust their own hearts when confronting life's daily obsticles.
He seesy gay people as often able to achieve that more easily than straights. But gay or straight, he says the message is the same: "Worry less about trying to look into the future and focus more on applying intuition to get the most out of today." Now that's really heavy and deep.
For whatever it's worth, Dougall might be onto something. If you're looking for a beach read, this just might be what the Gay Sun God ordered. I'm going to order it and give a future review.
For anyone traveling this weekend or going/returning from vacation, wishing you the best of travels. Big hairy muscle hugs to keep you safe and happy.
Dougall Fraser is the new psychic on the block who just happens to be gay.
For starters, he doesn't talk to dead people. That's a load off my mind.
He says that's boring. He's more interested in human dynamics and why we are here on this planet.
He say, "People want the mysteries of the unvierse unlocked instantly." His job, he says, is to ponto out where a guy is missing out in life. Truth being told, if everything were great, he says, why would anyone bother to come see him? Good point.
He stress self-reliance and introspection and he isn't afraid about being open about his sexual orientation.
He got a new book out called, "But You Knew That Already", published by Rodale Press.
The book is not excusively about gay issues, but a large part of it deals with is coming out process and life as a gay man.
He wants to show the public what it's like for a gay man trying to blend being spiritual and bieng human at the same time.
His book is also reported to be uplifting, with its insights into the basic life questions that so many people want answered, all written with a quirky sense of humor.
He says that the books main message is that people need to learn to trust their own hearts when confronting life's daily obsticles.
He seesy gay people as often able to achieve that more easily than straights. But gay or straight, he says the message is the same: "Worry less about trying to look into the future and focus more on applying intuition to get the most out of today." Now that's really heavy and deep.
For whatever it's worth, Dougall might be onto something. If you're looking for a beach read, this just might be what the Gay Sun God ordered. I'm going to order it and give a future review.
For anyone traveling this weekend or going/returning from vacation, wishing you the best of travels. Big hairy muscle hugs to keep you safe and happy.
Thursday, July 07, 2005
He's So Close and You Want It So Bad
In my pursuit of the ultimate safer sexual experience, I am a firm believer in intimacy exercises.
On the surface, this might sound like a bunch of crap, but don't knock them if you haven't tried them.
Woody who writes a column for the Window Media gay paper chain, has a very interesting weekly column. Here is some exerpts from last week's column. It can be found at http://www.washblade.com. Click on Eclipse and scroll down to "Need Wood"
Anyway, Woody shares these exercises with his readers.
First step, always get naked. That is definitely my kind of instruction.
Then you and your partner, sex buddy, whatever, sit cross-legged, face to face with your partner, knees touching. Your hands are resting on his knees, palm up. He puts his hands on your hands, palms down.
Then you look into each other's eyes for a few minutes with the intention of studying them. Make mental notes but don't break the silence or the eye contact.
Now take a break and cover your eyes with your hands for about a minute. Then place your hands in the same position as b efore and stare into each other's eyes. But this time, don't study your parnter. Instead, let him look at you. Receive his gaze. Let yourself be look at, undressed if you will. With this exercise, you are evaporating barriers. You are closer to him. After this experience, hard and horny, you can strap on that condom and pound him into pleasureland.
Another one is called the star crossing. Lie down on a rug and spread your arms wide. Your legs should be spread about shoulder width apart. Your partner stands over your crotch, sits his butt down on the ground between your legs and mashes his cheeks agains your crotch.
He then lays back like you did and spreads his arms out next to your feet. He puts his hands on your feet and keeps them there. He spreads his legs over yours so that his feet are next to your hands. Hold his feet. From above you both have formed a star. Your genitals are facing his but not touching. Your sexually vulnerable but emotionally connected, symbolized by the toching of each other's feet. This exercise brings up different feelings depending on where your legs are over or under your lover. Now you are again in the position to put on that condom and plug his ass silly. WOOF.
For the heck of it, try it when you and your partner feel the need to try something different. It worked for me. I felt constrained and held back, with made the sex even more enjoyable. Afterall, a little variation never hurt the experience. Try it, you might just like it.
On the surface, this might sound like a bunch of crap, but don't knock them if you haven't tried them.
Woody who writes a column for the Window Media gay paper chain, has a very interesting weekly column. Here is some exerpts from last week's column. It can be found at http://www.washblade.com. Click on Eclipse and scroll down to "Need Wood"
Anyway, Woody shares these exercises with his readers.
First step, always get naked. That is definitely my kind of instruction.
Then you and your partner, sex buddy, whatever, sit cross-legged, face to face with your partner, knees touching. Your hands are resting on his knees, palm up. He puts his hands on your hands, palms down.
Then you look into each other's eyes for a few minutes with the intention of studying them. Make mental notes but don't break the silence or the eye contact.
Now take a break and cover your eyes with your hands for about a minute. Then place your hands in the same position as b efore and stare into each other's eyes. But this time, don't study your parnter. Instead, let him look at you. Receive his gaze. Let yourself be look at, undressed if you will. With this exercise, you are evaporating barriers. You are closer to him. After this experience, hard and horny, you can strap on that condom and pound him into pleasureland.
Another one is called the star crossing. Lie down on a rug and spread your arms wide. Your legs should be spread about shoulder width apart. Your partner stands over your crotch, sits his butt down on the ground between your legs and mashes his cheeks agains your crotch.
He then lays back like you did and spreads his arms out next to your feet. He puts his hands on your feet and keeps them there. He spreads his legs over yours so that his feet are next to your hands. Hold his feet. From above you both have formed a star. Your genitals are facing his but not touching. Your sexually vulnerable but emotionally connected, symbolized by the toching of each other's feet. This exercise brings up different feelings depending on where your legs are over or under your lover. Now you are again in the position to put on that condom and plug his ass silly. WOOF.
For the heck of it, try it when you and your partner feel the need to try something different. It worked for me. I felt constrained and held back, with made the sex even more enjoyable. Afterall, a little variation never hurt the experience. Try it, you might just like it.
Wednesday, July 06, 2005
The Devil and his Temptations Wrapped Up With a Pretty Bow
Anyone condoning unsafe sex is a fuckin asshole, plain and simple.
I came across some quotes from the gay guru and HIV+ poster boy, Andrew Sullivan last week.
Old Andy writes that he has never felt better. "HIV transformed my life, made me a better and braver writer, prompted me to write the first big book pushing marriage rights, got me to take better care of my health, improved my sex life and deepened my spirituality."
Well, a ringing endorsement for unsafe sex unlike anything I have read before. Doesn't it just want to make you walk around with a sign, saying, "Bareback me, please".
While he glamorizes HIV, old Andy mocks HIV prevention efforts for using fear to promote safe sex. The guy just wants to have fun.
He quoted as writing, "Young negative men need to see more of us keeling over in the streets, or they won't be scared enough to avoid the disease that may, in the very distant future, kill them off."
He further states, "They, (young negative gay men) may even stop believing that this is a huge, escalating crisis, threatening to wipe out gay life on this planet. But the bottom line is that HIV is fast becoming another diabetes."
So soothing Andy. Thanks for sharing. True, that HIV is no longer the immediate death sentence for wealthy gay men, but hell, it can and does kill with horrible side effects and a constant dependence on drug therapy.
So Andy is the Good Humor guy, spreading the news that HIV and AIDS are no big deals. He takes "only" five pills a day and gives the feeling as if "AIDS meds were nothing more than taking Flinstones' vitamins."
But thank goodness there are others who don't buy this candy coated bullshit. The safer sex message is even more important today because of the "I don't care" mentality of many younger gay men.
The last thing younger gay men need to hear and read today that it is OK to ignore warnings about the dangers of contracting HIV and to find sexy alternatives to unprotected sex.
As we have discussed here numerous times, safer sex is a pleasurable alternative to barebacking. This reckless attitude fostered by Sullivan and others will no doubt lead to more HIV infected gay men.
The cycle continues because there are not enough of us to prove Sullivan and the others wrong.
Sullivan has this platform and it is too bad that he couldn't use it to promote something good, like safer sex.
That message is clear. Safer sex is the only sexual option, period. I guess it just has to be repeated and repeated over and over again.
I came across some quotes from the gay guru and HIV+ poster boy, Andrew Sullivan last week.
Old Andy writes that he has never felt better. "HIV transformed my life, made me a better and braver writer, prompted me to write the first big book pushing marriage rights, got me to take better care of my health, improved my sex life and deepened my spirituality."
Well, a ringing endorsement for unsafe sex unlike anything I have read before. Doesn't it just want to make you walk around with a sign, saying, "Bareback me, please".
While he glamorizes HIV, old Andy mocks HIV prevention efforts for using fear to promote safe sex. The guy just wants to have fun.
He quoted as writing, "Young negative men need to see more of us keeling over in the streets, or they won't be scared enough to avoid the disease that may, in the very distant future, kill them off."
He further states, "They, (young negative gay men) may even stop believing that this is a huge, escalating crisis, threatening to wipe out gay life on this planet. But the bottom line is that HIV is fast becoming another diabetes."
So soothing Andy. Thanks for sharing. True, that HIV is no longer the immediate death sentence for wealthy gay men, but hell, it can and does kill with horrible side effects and a constant dependence on drug therapy.
So Andy is the Good Humor guy, spreading the news that HIV and AIDS are no big deals. He takes "only" five pills a day and gives the feeling as if "AIDS meds were nothing more than taking Flinstones' vitamins."
But thank goodness there are others who don't buy this candy coated bullshit. The safer sex message is even more important today because of the "I don't care" mentality of many younger gay men.
The last thing younger gay men need to hear and read today that it is OK to ignore warnings about the dangers of contracting HIV and to find sexy alternatives to unprotected sex.
As we have discussed here numerous times, safer sex is a pleasurable alternative to barebacking. This reckless attitude fostered by Sullivan and others will no doubt lead to more HIV infected gay men.
The cycle continues because there are not enough of us to prove Sullivan and the others wrong.
Sullivan has this platform and it is too bad that he couldn't use it to promote something good, like safer sex.
That message is clear. Safer sex is the only sexual option, period. I guess it just has to be repeated and repeated over and over again.
Wednesday, June 29, 2005
Big Companies That Support Gay Events Are Under Attack Again by the American Family Association Windbags
Two corporate giants, Kraft Food Co. and Harris Bank, both Chicago institutions, have come under fire from the American Family Association for sponsoring the 2006 Gay Games.
More than 80 percent of Fortune 500 companies include sexual orientation in their anti-discrimination policies. Illinois is one of only 16 states that prohibits discrimination based on sexual orientation.
But because these companies provide such protections, they are becoming targets of groups such as AFA.
But having this protection in the workplace fosters eventual acceptance from fellow workers and makes the workplace a better place to work for everyone.
Quoting the source for this report, the Chicago Tribune, one of the openly gay employees of Harris Bank, Larry Passo, a vice president and branch manager, has spearheaded the bank's initiative targeting affluent gay and lesbian customers.
"It's important not to apologize" for who you are, he said. "If you're doing a good job at work, they (fellow workers and management) will respect you."
So again the ugly head of discrimination against gay men and lesbians in corporate America is raised, condemning our lifestyle and right to marry and live happily ever after.
So to combat this personal attack and counteract their boycott, if you buy Kraft products, continue to do so. If you don't, fight these crafty evil bastards by buying Kraft products.
This is one of many ways to show them that we won't stand for this attack on our lives anymore.
More than 80 percent of Fortune 500 companies include sexual orientation in their anti-discrimination policies. Illinois is one of only 16 states that prohibits discrimination based on sexual orientation.
But because these companies provide such protections, they are becoming targets of groups such as AFA.
But having this protection in the workplace fosters eventual acceptance from fellow workers and makes the workplace a better place to work for everyone.
Quoting the source for this report, the Chicago Tribune, one of the openly gay employees of Harris Bank, Larry Passo, a vice president and branch manager, has spearheaded the bank's initiative targeting affluent gay and lesbian customers.
"It's important not to apologize" for who you are, he said. "If you're doing a good job at work, they (fellow workers and management) will respect you."
So again the ugly head of discrimination against gay men and lesbians in corporate America is raised, condemning our lifestyle and right to marry and live happily ever after.
So to combat this personal attack and counteract their boycott, if you buy Kraft products, continue to do so. If you don't, fight these crafty evil bastards by buying Kraft products.
This is one of many ways to show them that we won't stand for this attack on our lives anymore.
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
A New Gay Cable TV Channel Has Begun Broadcasting Programs 4 Your Viewing Pleasure
From the folks that bring youMTV, CMT and VH1 comes Logo TV.
Brian Graden, an openly gay man, is responsible for this gay channel that caters to our gay sensibilities.
He grew up in rural Illinois, attended Oral Roberts University. Hey, we can't hold the ORU thing against him. I guess he liked the clean cut boys.
Anyway, Logo is here, to be broadcast first and seen in homes with digital cable. And it isn't pay-per-view, so anyone getting digital cable can receive it, according to the press release.
Gay and lesbian themed movies and documentaries will fill many of Logo's first programming hours. A future scripted series called "Noah's Arc" about a black gay man and his friends in LA along with a reality series about opening a gay bar and for cutting edge programming, a stand-up comedy series called "Wisecrack" are slated for airing sometime in the fall.
Everything is about Brian, according to various reports on the AP wire and elsewhere. He is responsible for torturing us with the Osbournes, Jackass and Pimp My Ride. He has been responsible for putting between 200 and 300 programs on the air. Should we whip his ass for subjecting us to such mindless entertainment? He might think of that as a show of appreciation.
So here we are, and during the last week of Gay Pride Month, we have our own cable TV channel. But where are the gossip shows, the news programming about this year's coverage of Gay Pride across the county, the continent and the world? I guess they haven't found the right on-air reporters yet. Some nude news would bring in the viewers and hype the ratings.
Whether or not LOGO will live up to its hype and ground breaking attempt to cater to our varied tastes, only time will tell. Hopefully they will broadcast a wide variety of shows including travel and fitness. And thank goodness they won't be rebroadcasting "Queer Eye" marathons since this is Viacom and not NBC/Universal. The gay gods must be with us.
Brian Graden, an openly gay man, is responsible for this gay channel that caters to our gay sensibilities.
He grew up in rural Illinois, attended Oral Roberts University. Hey, we can't hold the ORU thing against him. I guess he liked the clean cut boys.
Anyway, Logo is here, to be broadcast first and seen in homes with digital cable. And it isn't pay-per-view, so anyone getting digital cable can receive it, according to the press release.
Gay and lesbian themed movies and documentaries will fill many of Logo's first programming hours. A future scripted series called "Noah's Arc" about a black gay man and his friends in LA along with a reality series about opening a gay bar and for cutting edge programming, a stand-up comedy series called "Wisecrack" are slated for airing sometime in the fall.
Everything is about Brian, according to various reports on the AP wire and elsewhere. He is responsible for torturing us with the Osbournes, Jackass and Pimp My Ride. He has been responsible for putting between 200 and 300 programs on the air. Should we whip his ass for subjecting us to such mindless entertainment? He might think of that as a show of appreciation.
So here we are, and during the last week of Gay Pride Month, we have our own cable TV channel. But where are the gossip shows, the news programming about this year's coverage of Gay Pride across the county, the continent and the world? I guess they haven't found the right on-air reporters yet. Some nude news would bring in the viewers and hype the ratings.
Whether or not LOGO will live up to its hype and ground breaking attempt to cater to our varied tastes, only time will tell. Hopefully they will broadcast a wide variety of shows including travel and fitness. And thank goodness they won't be rebroadcasting "Queer Eye" marathons since this is Viacom and not NBC/Universal. The gay gods must be with us.
Monday, June 27, 2005
Sex on the First Date: Does it Lead to a Romp in the Sack or a Meaningful Relationship?
I found an interesting article on the Washington Blade web site main page, http://www.washblade.com
It proclaims, "Gay sex is everywhere these days." The TV is a mainstain of this, including "Queer as Folk", "Six Feet Under" and even "Desparate Housewives".
It's often promiscuous sex that is depected on these programs. But to gay men believe that this is always the case? From the results of a survey conducted by the Washington Blade, it runs the spectrum from promiscuity to long-term relationships to personal codes of conduct based on a variety of complex factors?
So is screwing around on the first date, the norm for gay men? According to those guys surveyed, it all depends.
A psychologist and sex therapist interviewed for the article, Michael Hendricks, says that when "two people have sex too soon, the relationship is more likely to be based on fantasy". But what is so bad about that? A respondent to the survey said that it can be "fun to just go at it becuase you find the other person "hot" and the feeling is mutual".
According to those in the know, sex lives are influenced by emotional and supeficial factors, such as race, age, level of comfort with being gay, how drunk or high you might be at a particular moment, your relationship history, a broken heart and health status. So being on the rebound has some influence on how you take that first encounter, easy and slow, or ramping it to the extreme.
One of the respondents, Mike, wrote that he would "only engage in bondage, role-playing and spanking with men he has an emotional connection with". But he concluded that relationships for him take priority over casual sex.
This other guy who completed the survey, "Dan", said that he assumed in his 20's that a sexual attraction meant "happy ever after". But he knows better now than to, at the drop of a pin after the first dates, to rent the U-Haul and " order his and his mongrammed towels".
Also, obviously, HIV status also plays a role in making decisions about sex, for rational gay men, anyway.
Mike Hendricks, the psychologist interview for the article, concludes that "sexual freedom with no rules ultimately leaves gay men with the right to choose a sex life that makes them feel comfortable and says that it's an important extension of their personalities".
The Dan man also feels that God gave him this wonderful ability to have sex, and by God, "it would be a sin not to use it". Now that's putting the most positive spin on having gay sex that I have ever read. I absolutely agree with him.
So what are your feelings about sex on the first date? And taking this one step further, is kinky sex healthy or harmful to a gay man, whether or not he's in a relationship? I feel that a little sleaze as long as it's protect sex, can only lead to more pleasurable sex and who knows, a long term commitment. You won't know if you don't try.
It proclaims, "Gay sex is everywhere these days." The TV is a mainstain of this, including "Queer as Folk", "Six Feet Under" and even "Desparate Housewives".
It's often promiscuous sex that is depected on these programs. But to gay men believe that this is always the case? From the results of a survey conducted by the Washington Blade, it runs the spectrum from promiscuity to long-term relationships to personal codes of conduct based on a variety of complex factors?
So is screwing around on the first date, the norm for gay men? According to those guys surveyed, it all depends.
A psychologist and sex therapist interviewed for the article, Michael Hendricks, says that when "two people have sex too soon, the relationship is more likely to be based on fantasy". But what is so bad about that? A respondent to the survey said that it can be "fun to just go at it becuase you find the other person "hot" and the feeling is mutual".
According to those in the know, sex lives are influenced by emotional and supeficial factors, such as race, age, level of comfort with being gay, how drunk or high you might be at a particular moment, your relationship history, a broken heart and health status. So being on the rebound has some influence on how you take that first encounter, easy and slow, or ramping it to the extreme.
One of the respondents, Mike, wrote that he would "only engage in bondage, role-playing and spanking with men he has an emotional connection with". But he concluded that relationships for him take priority over casual sex.
This other guy who completed the survey, "Dan", said that he assumed in his 20's that a sexual attraction meant "happy ever after". But he knows better now than to, at the drop of a pin after the first dates, to rent the U-Haul and " order his and his mongrammed towels".
Also, obviously, HIV status also plays a role in making decisions about sex, for rational gay men, anyway.
Mike Hendricks, the psychologist interview for the article, concludes that "sexual freedom with no rules ultimately leaves gay men with the right to choose a sex life that makes them feel comfortable and says that it's an important extension of their personalities".
The Dan man also feels that God gave him this wonderful ability to have sex, and by God, "it would be a sin not to use it". Now that's putting the most positive spin on having gay sex that I have ever read. I absolutely agree with him.
So what are your feelings about sex on the first date? And taking this one step further, is kinky sex healthy or harmful to a gay man, whether or not he's in a relationship? I feel that a little sleaze as long as it's protect sex, can only lead to more pleasurable sex and who knows, a long term commitment. You won't know if you don't try.
Thursday, June 23, 2005
The PRide Parade: Marching or Just Mingling in the Crowd
The three biggest Gay pride parades and celebrations in the U.S. take place this weekend in NYC, San Francisco and Chicago.
These events cap off a great Gay Pride month. Hundreds of cities have already celebrated Pride in their own way. Now the big three get to strut their stuff, bare butt, bare chested and all that.
I fondly remember marching in the 1993 March on Washington as well as Stonewall 25.
These were giddy times. We were fighting for our lives. AIDS and discrimination were killing us. They still are. It seemed the best of times and the worst of times. Don't ask, Don't Tell, a still friendly Congress and optimism galore.
But we got ahead of ourselves. The gay bashing Republicans took over Congress and we were back at square one.
Fast forward to 2005. The under 30 crowd thinks it is uncool to go to the parade, yet alone march in it. We marched squirting each other with water pistols. Hey, who says that we can't have some good clean fun every once in a while.
The Human Rights Campaign Fund and their blue and yellow equal signs still florish at parade time. Safe sex messages and condom tossing is still in vogue along the parade route.
But our parades have become overly commercial. This float sponsored by Bacardi, the Absolut Vodka drag kings, the Bud Light beefcake, you get my drift.
You used to see dollars stamped with pink triangles, currency reminding us that the best way to get our issues addressed is my spending our money at gay owned businesses and letting the large straight corporate America that we have spending power.
But the marriage issue eludes us today. Quoting Mike Albo in the Village Voice's queer issue, "The fuel of anger behind the event of gay pride has gradually turned into a marketing technique." Our tight ass opponents and enemies can just sit back and laugh, because we have lost that fire in our gut.
I, for one, welcome the younger guys to stand up and be counted, instead of crystalizing their life on the endless party circuit. These GoodTime Charlies need to get with the program and march for our right to marry, to live a life no different and every much as equal as straights.
So as we enter our final weekend of Gay PRide, let us reflect upon the past and regroup for the future fights. We have only just begun. Big Hairy Muscle hugs of Pride to each of you.
These events cap off a great Gay Pride month. Hundreds of cities have already celebrated Pride in their own way. Now the big three get to strut their stuff, bare butt, bare chested and all that.
I fondly remember marching in the 1993 March on Washington as well as Stonewall 25.
These were giddy times. We were fighting for our lives. AIDS and discrimination were killing us. They still are. It seemed the best of times and the worst of times. Don't ask, Don't Tell, a still friendly Congress and optimism galore.
But we got ahead of ourselves. The gay bashing Republicans took over Congress and we were back at square one.
Fast forward to 2005. The under 30 crowd thinks it is uncool to go to the parade, yet alone march in it. We marched squirting each other with water pistols. Hey, who says that we can't have some good clean fun every once in a while.
The Human Rights Campaign Fund and their blue and yellow equal signs still florish at parade time. Safe sex messages and condom tossing is still in vogue along the parade route.
But our parades have become overly commercial. This float sponsored by Bacardi, the Absolut Vodka drag kings, the Bud Light beefcake, you get my drift.
You used to see dollars stamped with pink triangles, currency reminding us that the best way to get our issues addressed is my spending our money at gay owned businesses and letting the large straight corporate America that we have spending power.
But the marriage issue eludes us today. Quoting Mike Albo in the Village Voice's queer issue, "The fuel of anger behind the event of gay pride has gradually turned into a marketing technique." Our tight ass opponents and enemies can just sit back and laugh, because we have lost that fire in our gut.
I, for one, welcome the younger guys to stand up and be counted, instead of crystalizing their life on the endless party circuit. These GoodTime Charlies need to get with the program and march for our right to marry, to live a life no different and every much as equal as straights.
So as we enter our final weekend of Gay PRide, let us reflect upon the past and regroup for the future fights. We have only just begun. Big Hairy Muscle hugs of Pride to each of you.
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
Playing With Your Food Takes On A Whole New Meaning
I only wish that the Food Network would devote some airtime to the true pleasures of food.
Did you know that bubble gum is America's Number 1 snack food? It's true. Bubble gum is a $3.3 billion industry. At the National Confectioners Association trade show in Chicago earlier this mopnth, 86 new gums were introduced, including ones that help people lose weight or that taste like chocolate. Yummy.
However gum chewers are fickle, with 60 percent changing flavors and brands regularly. The No. 1 reason people chew gum is to freshen their breath. Wrigley's even has a patent that covers a Viagra gum. Say, isn't that handy, freshening breath and keeping a hard on all at the same time.
I love chewing bubble gum, but have to watch sometimes. I usually like to chew while working outdoors in the summer. Getting sweaty and working shirtless, I have on occasion blown quite a bubble which has burst all over my goatee and even on my chest. Removing chewing gum from these places can be fun or can be torture, depending on what you like.
Other fun foods gaining popularity are cream puffs. Now I like the pop in the mouth kind found in the frozen food case, but fresh bakery cream puffs are so gooooooooood. They ooze so deliciously. I love the vanilla cream puffs. And licking some of that cream off a guys fuzzy face is awesome. I have also indulged several of my buds by licking the cream puff filling off their nipples. Also ass cheeks are really cool places to hide some of the smaller puffs and have a guy lick the crack gives both the bottom and the top guy pure satisfaction during foreplay. There's even a company called sweetfountains.com that rents its chocolate dipping fountions to party givers for $299. Among the hottest dipping items, cream puffs. Talk about a fun idea for your next orgy. Pure pleasure in every lick.
Two items that I have tried lately which are really delicious and used in the right way, really erotic are Edys Dibs Ice Cream Snacks and Smuckers Sundae Singles. YUMMMMMMMMMY.
Dibs snacks are bite-sized ice cream. These munchable delights cum in the following flavors: Vanilla ice cream with chocolate and Nestle Drumstick cone coating, chocolate ice cream with chocolate coating, mint ice cram with chocolate coating, vanilla ice cream with chocolate coating and vinilla icecream with chocolate and Nestle Crunch candy coating. Being a drumstick kind of guy since childhood, I prefer the vanilla ice cram with the Drumstick coating. The coating keeps the balls hard and lying back and having several placed around the balls and then having them licked and getting sucked off is pure pleasure. This foreplay can last as long as there are dibs in the carton.
As a companion treat, try Smucker's microwavable sundae singles. Just make sure that the chocolate and carmel cool down a little after coming out of the microwave, but still liquid. Pour generously over your erection and have your play partner experience the best banana split ever. Do take turns, so that both of you can experience the pure pleasure of these erotic experience.
So guys, I leave it up to you to discover these new snack foods. When you find yourself bored with the ordinary foreplay and are in the mood for a little comfort food, give these snack treats a try.
Did you know that bubble gum is America's Number 1 snack food? It's true. Bubble gum is a $3.3 billion industry. At the National Confectioners Association trade show in Chicago earlier this mopnth, 86 new gums were introduced, including ones that help people lose weight or that taste like chocolate. Yummy.
However gum chewers are fickle, with 60 percent changing flavors and brands regularly. The No. 1 reason people chew gum is to freshen their breath. Wrigley's even has a patent that covers a Viagra gum. Say, isn't that handy, freshening breath and keeping a hard on all at the same time.
I love chewing bubble gum, but have to watch sometimes. I usually like to chew while working outdoors in the summer. Getting sweaty and working shirtless, I have on occasion blown quite a bubble which has burst all over my goatee and even on my chest. Removing chewing gum from these places can be fun or can be torture, depending on what you like.
Other fun foods gaining popularity are cream puffs. Now I like the pop in the mouth kind found in the frozen food case, but fresh bakery cream puffs are so gooooooooood. They ooze so deliciously. I love the vanilla cream puffs. And licking some of that cream off a guys fuzzy face is awesome. I have also indulged several of my buds by licking the cream puff filling off their nipples. Also ass cheeks are really cool places to hide some of the smaller puffs and have a guy lick the crack gives both the bottom and the top guy pure satisfaction during foreplay. There's even a company called sweetfountains.com that rents its chocolate dipping fountions to party givers for $299. Among the hottest dipping items, cream puffs. Talk about a fun idea for your next orgy. Pure pleasure in every lick.
Two items that I have tried lately which are really delicious and used in the right way, really erotic are Edys Dibs Ice Cream Snacks and Smuckers Sundae Singles. YUMMMMMMMMMY.
Dibs snacks are bite-sized ice cream. These munchable delights cum in the following flavors: Vanilla ice cream with chocolate and Nestle Drumstick cone coating, chocolate ice cream with chocolate coating, mint ice cram with chocolate coating, vanilla ice cream with chocolate coating and vinilla icecream with chocolate and Nestle Crunch candy coating. Being a drumstick kind of guy since childhood, I prefer the vanilla ice cram with the Drumstick coating. The coating keeps the balls hard and lying back and having several placed around the balls and then having them licked and getting sucked off is pure pleasure. This foreplay can last as long as there are dibs in the carton.
As a companion treat, try Smucker's microwavable sundae singles. Just make sure that the chocolate and carmel cool down a little after coming out of the microwave, but still liquid. Pour generously over your erection and have your play partner experience the best banana split ever. Do take turns, so that both of you can experience the pure pleasure of these erotic experience.
So guys, I leave it up to you to discover these new snack foods. When you find yourself bored with the ordinary foreplay and are in the mood for a little comfort food, give these snack treats a try.
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