HO!HO!HO! Merry Xmas to everyone

Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.

May Daddy Santa bring you everything you desire: love, peace and joy.

Being Green is HOT!!!

The following is a celebration of Earth Day, April 22, 2008. Be green by recycling your outgrown jocks, leathers, so that all hot men can enjoy them. After all, that's really what Craig's List is all about.

By Dave White
From The Advocate May 6, 2008

I read a lot of magazines. I know that’s not very green. But I have to know what’s going on. And I feel gross bringing my laptop into the bathroom. I especially read a lot of magazines about awesome (and usually expensive) furniture.

I used to love the design magazine Nest because the people in there would do stuff like wrap their staircases in electrical tape and then be all proud of it. It was a magazine less about being crazy-rich than being simply plain old crazy.

Anyway, Nest is long gone. So now I like Domino. It seems aimed at 23-year-old women, but I like it anyway. I especially like its feature about eco-people and their green lives, written as a daily timetable (“11 a.m.: Jet to Paris. To offset my carbon footprint I log on to a website that plants trees in your name and have Oregon personally reforested. Slide on Hermès sleep mask and slumber righteously.”). Here’s my own green day:

6 a.m.: Be kissed awake by the roar of garbage trucks. They say RECYCLING on the side, but I think they don’t mean it since it seems they dump all the recycling bin stuff right in with the other trash. Smell their exhaust through my open bedroom window. We have no air-conditioning. This already makes me way greener than almost all of you. How will you catch up to Eco-Me?

6:20 a.m.: Stand on my apartment balcony drinking green tea. I’d buy the fair-trade kind, but it doesn’t taste as good. And none of it tastes as good as grape soda. But that’s a sacrifice I make for the planet.

7 a.m.: Wash dishes from night before. Scrub the sink with environmentally friendly yet useless powder that is not as good as Comet. Feel despair over white enamel slowly turning brown.

8:30 a.m.: Morning walk with my husband/partner/whatever. My eco-suit = threadbare sweatpants, T-shirt my friend Lydia made for me that reads R. KELLY IS MAGIC, and most progressively, New Balance shoes that are not from Nike and therefore not glued together by child slaves. You’re welcome, child slaves.

10 a.m.: Commute to work—from the kitchen to my desk. Don’t hate me because I figured out a way to get paid for sitting around at home in my pajamas and never having to drive anywhere except to the grocery store that’s three blocks away.

11:30 a.m.: Drive to that grocery store. Bring own bags. While driving home think about how Godzilla vs. the Smog Monster is better than An Inconvenient Truth.
Noon: Eat lunch. Toss orange peel into the wrong trash can. Get berated by husband/partner/whatever. When he demands that I retrieve the peels, inform him I’ve already washed my hands and that to stick them into trash would mean rewashing them, and doesn’t he care about water, Mother Earth’s most precious resource? Watch as he sticks his own hands into the trash.

2:30 p.m.: Writer’s block. Need a snack. Organically harvested goji berries are gnarly, no matter how many antioxidants they have. Go to my local fancy bakery for some of those French macarons, like the kind Kirsten Dunst ate in Marie Antoinette. There’s nothing green about this except the color of the pistachio-flavored ones.

3:15 p.m.: Watch Oprah. She’s got a bunch of Dumpster-diving “freegans” on her show. Enjoy pausing TiVo each time she makes the “eww” face. Pay bills online while watching the show. Get tiny thrill at how superior and futuristic I am for not using paper or stamps.

5 p.m.: Go to a home store and spend a lot of money on one-of-a-kind shelves made from reclaimed wood. Bring them home and stack old issues of magazines on them.

Other than being dumpster freegans, there are some great ideas to live the "green" life in one's own way.

Gay men have been pioneers in recycling such items as used jock straps, leather, saliva and other stuff. So we don't have to buy the latest toy, trash stuff just because it isn't in style, follow the A gay crowd.

It is HOT to recycle. And I give my Mega Hairy Muscle Hug seal of approval to every guy who does so.

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Thanks for Defending Our Freedoms

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A very happy and safe Veterans Day to all my woofy buds.
Mega hairy muscle hugs of support to our gay military who gallantly defend our freedom to live in peace in the world, for our right to live openly, and who inspire us to love who we want, unconditionally.

Practice Does Make Perfect

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Me, ready for some deliveries. Getting in practice to play Daddy Santa's helper later this year.

Yet Another Cry for Censorship. It Doesn't Take Much For These Critics To Get Their Panties All In A Bind

A whole new controversy is brewing over the poster below that will be used to promote Folsom Street Fair this year. Personally I find it full of hot leather dudes and a gal, sharing a common table, breaking "bread" and wine together, like I imagine, in the purest sense, what the ideal image of leather pride events such as this, is all about. Your thoughts?????

h.cassell@ebar.com
Folsom Street Fair's photograph has led Miller Brewing Company to ask that its logo be removed. Photo: FredAlert

The photograph resembling Leonardo da Vinci's famous painting of the Last Supper used on the Folsom Street Fair program and its promotional posters drew fire Tuesday, September 25 from Concerned Women for America.

The anti-gay group issued a news release stating that the Folsom Street Fair is "reminiscent of biblical Sodom and Gomorrah."

"The bread and wine representing Christ's broken body and life-giving blood are replaced with sadomasochistic sex toys in this twisted version of da Vinci's 'Last Supper,'" said the CWA's statement.

In response to pressure from CWA's constituents, Miller Brewing Company on Wednesday requested that Folsom Street Events remove its logo from the posters displaying the leather last supper image.

"While Miller has supported the Folsom Street Fair for several years, we take exception to the poster the organizing committee developed this year," the company said on its Web site. "We understand some individuals may find the imagery offensive and we have asked the organizers to remove our logo from the poster effective immediately."

[After the print edition of the Bay Area Reporter went to press, a Miller spokesman told the paper that the company would continue to support the event.

"We are and will continue to be supportive [of Folsom Street Fair and the LGBT community]," said Julian Green, director of media relations of Miller Brewing Company, Wednesday afternoon.

Miller has not requested a refund of any sponsorship money, Green said. Green said that Miller's decision was based on corporate policies.

"[It] has nothing to do with public pressure," said Green. Green said that the company's decision was based on marketing guidelines at the corporate level that don't allow use of its logo on any "creative design" depicting a "religious connotation."

Until CWA's call to action Tuesday, Miller's corporate office wasn't aware of the use of its logo on the poster, Green said. "Our corporate offices was not made aware of the artwork, however, there may have been some awareness at the local level," said Green. "If it had been reviewed at the corporate level it would not have been approved."]

Folsom Street Events Executive Director Demetri Moshoyannis told the B.A.R. late Wednesday morning that they weren't concerned about Miller's request to remove its logo from the posters. When asked if they thought that they might lose Miller's sponsorship, Moshoyannis said, "Not to our knowledge."

People commenting on the Joe.My.God blog called for support of Miller rather than a boycott, stating that the beverage company has been supportive of the LGBT community for many years.

According to CWA, "Scripture says that God is not mocked, yet it doesn't stop people from trying," Matt Barber, policy director for cultural issues with CWA, said in the release. "As evidenced by this latest stunt, open ridicule of Christianity is unfortunately very common within much of the homosexual community."

"I guess it wouldn't be Folsom Street Fair without offending some extreme members of the global community," said Andy Copper, board president of Folsom Street Events, in a statement issued Tuesday afternoon. "There is no intention to be particularly pro-religion or anti-religion with this poster; the image is intended only to be reminiscent of the 'Last Supper' painting."

Copper stated, "... many of the people in the leather and fetish communities are spiritual and that this poster image is a way of expressing that side of the community's interests and beliefs."
"The irony is that da Vinci was widely considered to be homosexual," Copper added.

Copper pointed to the diversity in the photo, stating that it is a "distinctive representation of diversity with women and men, people of all colors and sexual orientations" which is a part of San Francisco's values.

Local gay clergy also weighed in on the matter.

"I disagree with them I don't think that [Folsom Street Events] is mocking God," said Chris Glaser, interim senior pastor at Metropolitan Community Church – San Francisco. "I think that they are just having fun with a painting of Leonardo da Vinci and having fun with the whole notion of 'San Francisco values' and I think it's pretty tastefully and cleverly done."

Glaser added, "I think that oftentimes religious people miss out on things because they don't have a sense of humor. That's why being a queer spiritual person we can laugh at ourselves and laugh at other people."

Barber called the photo an action of lashing out in a "hateful manner toward the very people they accuse," referring to gay activists calling Christians "haters and homophobes." He said that taxpayers are being "forced" to pay for the fair that allows "'gay' men and women to parade the streets fully nude, many having sex – even group orgies – in broad daylight, while taxpayer funded police officers look on and do absolutely nothing."

CWA called on California's elected officials, including House Speaker Nancy Pelosi (D-San Francisco), Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger (R), and Democratic Senators Dianne Feinstein and Barbara Boxer to "publicly condemn this unprovoked attack against Christ and His followers."

Pelosi was mocked for her "San Francisco values" in a Saturday Night Live skit last year that poked fun at right-wing attacks that she would bring "left of center" values to Congress.
Tuesday afternoon, Pelosi downplayed the right's uproar.

"As a Catholic, the speaker is confident that Christianity has not been harmed," said Drew Hammill, Pelosi's press secretary.

Barber urged the media to "cover the affront to Christianity with the same vigor as recent stories about cartoon depictions of Mohammed and other items offensive to the Muslim community."

Moshoyannis would not comment beyond the organization's news release sent out on Tuesday.

Copper stated that the leather last supper was the first FSF poster inspired by cultural classics in a series of posters forthcoming from FSE including "American Gothic" by Grant Wood, Edvard Munch's "The Scream" and even The Sound of Music.

Photographer FredAlert, who produced the staged leather last supper, declined to comment.

I admire Fred for his creativity and hot composition. WOOOF.

It has been too long, (5 years), since I've been to Folsom. Got to get my barebutt and chaps back out there some time in the future.

Mega hairy muscle leather pride hugs. Hoping all the guys attending Folsom have a great time. Party hardy and play safe.

If Michael Musto Wrote About It, It Must Be True

Fellow gay boy and all around great guy, Michael Musto, the celebrated columnist for the Village Voice, has something to say about the scarcity of guys who identify themselves as bottoms:

The weird news in gay land is that no one's a bottom anymore (except for a certain downtown Manhattan promoter with a flair for double penetration). Tragically enough, a whole generation of bottoms passed on some time ago, and then came a whole new generation that learned from day one that being a wide-end receiver is risky, so they've always been testy and squeamish about it. That's perfectly understandable, but as a result, virtually every gay on the market today is a versatile top—or "vers top," if you prefer—"though I'll bottom for the right guy," they always add with a noble flourish. So unless you happen to have pulled up in a golden coach and have 300 condoms rubber-banded to your crotch, no one's gonna bottom for you and sex will undoubtedly consist of twiddling thumbs and bumping pussies and being more frustrated than if you'd stayed home alone with your fleshlight (the male sex toy whose site generously invites you to "select an orifice"). Somebody take it up the ass, please!

I totally agree with what Michael writes. No one seems to want to be a bottom anymore. How many times have we come across that double talk phrase, "bottom for the right guy"? I think bottom boys must reassess their fear of being fucked safely. There has to be gay public education showing how the top guy can coaks the squimish bottom guy into be fucked, and really liking it. I say, give 'em some buddy bonding. Be it in a pup tent under two zipped together sleeping bags, or in a secluded hallway, we guys have the responsibility to reverse perceptions that guys can fuck each other, and do it pleasurably, without fear. While I rather see guys having some fears about being fucked, hell, you can be a fuck pig and do it safely. Think condoms, guys.

Mega hairy muscle hugs of fucking til the cows cum home.

Just Chillin Out

Not much going on with me today. But I'm looking forward to another great summertime weekend.

Seeing this pic reminds me how much I enjoy nipples. I return to this topic, from time to time, but it's worth repeating.

There is nothing more enjoyable to me that man to man nipple play. It just gets me aroused big time.

The response of the nipple to touch is pure pleasure, almost like an out-of-body experience. Tweaking another guy's nips connects me with his pleasure. It seems like nipple play is the ties that bind some guys together. It's just a big fuckin turn-on.

Hoping you guys are having a super day and are gearing up for a great weekend. These lazy days of summer don't last long. So enjoy some shirtless pleasures. Hey, I'm going to do just that.

And I couldn't think of any better summertime pleasure than to lick some creamy chocolate flavored Readi-Whip cream off a hot guy's hairy muscled pec and filling up my beard with yummy pleasure. Now, that's nipple lickin good.

2007 GAY PRIDE Events, A Partial List

Show your pride this year. And if some guy comes up to you bearing hairy muscle hugs, embrace him. That's the best way to celebrate pride.

Below are some of the places and dates when various cities are celebrating Gay Pride.

Partial List of Pride Events

Happy Pride to You and Yours!
Get out and celebrate your pride!

This is a Partial Listing.
There are more events that are not on this list.

Toronto Digital Queeries has been listing Pride events for free since 1996. Michael is the founder of Gay Toronto's - Queer West Village and Gay West Community Network (a GLBTQ community centre) in the queer west-end of Toronto, Ontario
Canada - Pride by Provinces, cities 2007 (updated May 11, 2007)Calgary, Alberta - Single day events June 1, 8, 10 and 16, 2007 Edmonton Alberta, June 15-24, 2007 Halifax, Nova Scotia, Date not set, 2007
Saint John, New Brunswick August 12-19, 2007 Montreal - Divers/Cité et la Fierté August 1-5, 2007Okanagan Valley, Date not set, 2007 Ottawa Pride - August 17-26, 2007Prince George , June 30 to July 8, 2007Vancouver B.C.Pride Parade, August 5, 2007Winnipeg, Manitoba, Sunday June 1 to 10, 2007Yellowknife , North West Terrorities No Pride event, 2007
Pride Events - Province of Ontario, Canada 2007 (update May 11, 2007)
Barrie, Ontario, Simcoe County - No Pride events since 2004?Cambridge , Kitchener and Waterloo, Ontario, Pride postponed until June 2008. Cornwall Ontario - September 1-2, 2007
Durham Region, Durham Pride Weekend, June 8 to 10, 2007Guelph, Saturday May 26, 2007Halton, Ontario, Milton, Oakville, Georgetown - Fall Pride for Halton on September 8th, 2007 Hamilton , Burlington, Niagara Region, Ontario - June 9th to 17th, 2007 London,Strafford, Woodstock area, Ontario - July 19 until July 29, 2007. Peel. (Mississauga, Ontario) No Dates set for 2007 Peterborough, ON No date set for 2007 Sarnia-lambton, Ontario - No pride day plans 2007Sudbury, Ontario- July 16 to 22, 2007 (new website) Sault Ste. Marie , ON No pride day plans 2007Toronto ON - (old gay village) Pride Parade on Yonge St., June 24, 2007 2 pm.Queer West Village - Toronto Home to largest queer festivals in North Ameica - Queer West June 15-22. & International Q Fest Oct.
Windsor Ontario - July 23-29, 2007
United States of America -Pride Events by city and state 2007 (Completed Saturday June 2,)Allentown PA Saturday June 16Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA - June 8-9 Annapolis, MD, USA - Wednesday August 25Arizona, USA Phoenix - April 14 & 15 Atlanta, Georgia USA - June 23-24Austin Pride, TX, Austin Pride Parade June 2ndBaltimore , MD, USA - June 17 & 17Bangor Maine, USA - Southern Maine Pride Saturday June 16 Birmingham, Alabama, USA - Central Alabama Pride June 1-10 Boise, Idaho, USA Boise Idaho Pride (nothing planned since 2004)
Boone North Carolina, June 8 & 9 Brooklyn , New York , June 9Boulder Col, USA (no event planned 2007) Boston, Mass., USA - June1-10Buffalo, N.Y. Burlington, Vermont - Parade June 3rdCape Cod - August 25 - Location: Mallory Dock/Club 477 Cedar Rapids PrideFest, Iowa, June 2Charlotte, North Carolina, USA - Charlotte Pride (no date set, 2007) Chicago, Illinois, USA - 38th Annual Parade, Sunday June 24Cincinnati, Ohio, USA - June 9 & 10Cleveland, Ohio, USA - Cleveland Pride Saturday June 16Columbus, Ohio Columbus Pride June 22-24 Columbia, South Carolina, USA September 22-24 Connecticut Pride
- Saturday June 30Delaware Pride , Delaware - Saturday September 15Dallas Texas - Sunday September 16 ParadeDenver, Colorado, Denver Pride June 23 & 24 Des Moines, Iowa - June 3-10Detroit, Michigan, USA Motor City Pride June 2 & 3Duluth , MN, USA Duluth Pride Festival - Labor Day Weekend September 1st, 2007Erie, Pennsylvania, Pride Picnic - June 2, 2007 Flagstaff , Arizona, USA - June 8 & 9Florida, South, USA - March 3, 2007Ft. Lauderdale, Florida - March 10-11, 2007Fredericksburg, Virginia, USA (no glbt pride since 2005) Gainesville. Florida, USA Gainesville Pride (no date set 2007)
Harrisburg , Pennsylvania, USA - Harrisburg Pride, Saturday July 28Hartford, Connecticut, USA - Hartford Pride Saturday June 30 Honolulu, Hawaii, USA - Honolulu Pride Sunday, May 27th thru Saturday, June 2nd Houston, Texas, USA - Houston Pride Saturday June 23Jacksonville, Florida, USA - Jacksonville Pride, Saturday July 28Jersey City , NJ - Jersey City Pride, Saturday August 25 Las Vegas, Nevada, USA - (server down?)Long Beach, California, USA Long Beach Pride May 19 & 20, 2007
Long Island, New York USA- Huntington, Long Island Pride Rally, Parade, and Festival Sunday, June 10, 2007 http://www.liprideparade.com/index2.html Los Angeles-West Christopher Street June 8, 9 and 10, 2007
,Mankato, Minnesota South Central Pride Festival - Saturday, September 8, 2007 Memphis Pride, Tenn., Mid-South Pride June 10Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA Milwaukee Pride June 8, 9 and 10Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA Minneapolis Pride June 15 to 24 Monterey, California July 13 & 14Nashville, Tennessee, USA PrideFest - June 1-3New Haven, Connecticut, USA - New Haven Connecticut Pride Saturday June 30 New Jersey, USA New Jersy - Sunday June 3rdNew Orleans , Louisiana, USA - Southern Decadence August 29 to September 3rdNew York City New York City, central pride - New York City Pride Week - June 17 to 24
North Carolina, USA NC Pride will take place on Saturday, September 29, 2007 at Duke University Oklahoma City , Oklahoma, USA Oklahoma City Pride -June 15 to 24Omaha, Nebraska, USA Omaha Gay Pride - June 8 & 9 Orlando, Florida, USA Orlando Gay Days - May 29 to June 4Palm Springs, California, USA - Palm Springs Pride Festival - November 3 & 4Pasadena, California, USA - Sunday September 17 Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA -Philadelphia Pride - Sunday June 10th.Phoenix, Arizona , USA - Phoenix Pride Parade & Party In The Park - April 14 & 15Pine City, Minnesota. 3rd year to celebrate "Pride in the Park" on Sunday, June 3rd from Noon to 5:00 P.M 2007Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA Pittsburgh Pride - June 16, 2007

Portland , OREGON, USA Lesbian/Gay/Bi/Trans Parade and Festival - June 16 & 17 Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina, USA Raleigh Pride - September 29th. Rochester- New York State - July 14, 2007St. Louis, Missouri, USA St. Louis - PrideFest 2007 will be June 23-24,San Antonio, USA San Antonio Pride - June 16 St. Petersburg , Florida, USA June 30thSan Diego, California, July 15, 21 and 22San Francisco San Francisco 37th Annual Pride June 23 & 24 San Luis Obispo, county California, USA San Luis Obispo Pride July 4 to 8San Jose, California, USA San Jose Pride - June 9 & 10Santa Barbara, California, USA Santa Barbara Pride June 5 to 12 Santa Cruz, California, USA June 3rd
Savannah, Georgia, USA - Saturday, September 15th, 2007Seattle, Washington, USA June 24th.South Carolina, City of Columbia, Black Pride June 18 to 24 Tucson, Arizona, USA Tucson Pride - October 13 Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA Tulsa Pride - June 2 to 8Utah , USA Pide June 1 to 3Washington DC, USA 32 Annual Pride celebration June 9 and 10Virginia State, USA - September 29th 2007
More:
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There Goes The Gayborhood

Community activists worry that "gayborhoods" are losing their relevance as gays win legal rights and greater social acceptance.

"Thirty years ago, if I lived in the Midwest and I was gay, my thought was I would go to San Francisco or New York," says Gary Gates, a demographer for the Williams Institute, a think tank at UCLA that specializes in sexual orientation and the law. "Now, a person can go to Kansas City and find a fairly active and open gay community."

In fact, from 2000 to 2005, the 10 states with the biggest increases in the percentage of gay couples were all in the Midwest, Gates said. Sandy Sachs, a nightclub owner in gay-friendly West Hollywood, has started promoting special dance nights for straight Iranians, Israelis and Russians because her gay clientele has fallen off. Sachs said that many gay men and lesbians now prefer to meet potential partners on the Internet.

Another factor contributing to the decline of gay neighborhoods: Many young gays feel comfortable mixing with people of different genders and sexual orientations. "We don't want to ostracize ourselves," said Matty, 20, who moved to San Francisco's diverse Mission District from nearby Petaluma three years ago. Activists agree it is a good thing that gay people no longer feel confined to the Castro, but some fear younger generations will overlook their history. "We have Chinatown and Japantown and so forth, and that's important for minority communities in this country, to have a place where they can get a sense of being the majority," said Joe Curtin, an architect who serves as president of Castro Area Planning Action. "But if you took those away, you would still have China and Japan. If the Castro goes away as a gay neighborhood, there is nowhere else. "

With ever rising real estate prices, maybe it is time for gay men to find other "gayborhoods" away from the main urban core. Older suburbs have many of the same features of larger downtown clusters. Maybe opening a bar in a community where there is cheap housing and access to jobs in the urban area, may be the new gay frontier. This exodus may already be happening. With a conservative figure of around 300,000 unmarried cohabitating male households and growing, this may well be the trend. Just think of the all male eye-candy landscaping the front lawns of suburbia as hunky guys tend to mowing and working in their yards. WOOF.

Sorry to Keep Revisting This Story, But It's Definitely Worth Repeating

Why Can't Guys Learn that "Tina" is a BITCH, and get her out of their lives?

The following is from a news item posted on the Washington Blade web site.

The Atlanta Meth Task Force convened the forum at Outwrite after several recent deaths of local crystal meth users. The emotional forum included testimony from Josh Williams’ brother, one of guys who recently died of an overdose in the Atlanta area, as well as from Tommy Varnador, who wept as he talked about the November overdose death of his partner, Joseph Myska.

“This drug fills a void in people — a sense of guilt, a sense of shame,” said Brian Dew, a professor at Georgia State University who leads the Atlanta Meth Task Force. “It’s seen as a perfect short-term solution to the feelings that are there.”Drawing attention to the harmful effects of meth is particularly challenging among gay men, Dew said.“I think that the gay community has been reluctant to address our own pitfalls, and I think we’re seeing it with drug use,” Dew said. “But we can no longer sit back because of what it’s doing and the impact that it’s having.”

Russell Beasley talked about how he and Josh Williams had a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” attitude in many parts of their friendship, including drug use. But instead of being inspired by a desire not to appear judgmental, the informal policy was a manifestation of both men’s fears that if his friend knew the truth about him, he would no longer love him and would leave.

Gay men can no longer afford to mask their insecurities through drugs or indifference, Beasley said.“In the old days, when we were fighting HIV, we were going out and we were doing AIDS education and we were fighting to save lives — it’s kind of the same thing,” Beasley. “We all need to go out, spread the word, let everybody know that meth equals death, and that there is healing that can be achieved from everything.”

Also participating in the Outwrite forum was Mark White, who talked about how he had a staunchly conservative disdain for drug use most of his life before going through a difficult break-up.Crystal meth use, however, led to White landing in jail on Thanksgiving Day as well as Tina-fueled sex romps that led him to becoming HIV positive.“I became very lonely, I began to shy away from some of the things that I never really dealt with — for example, being comfortable being gay,” White said. “I’m a shy person by nature, but on crystal I became very sociable, I felt very powerful, very confident and very sexual.”

Guys have to have will power. Can't they realize that a guy can be sexual without the so called enhancement of fatal drugs? Is it too much to ask that guys interact more with their brains than with the lure of drugs? Can't guys get a woody by just taking in the "woofyness" of another guy's pleasure?

Drugs just fuck up the pleasures of the sexual experience. If guys invested some time for foreplay, they'd realize that great sex and staying power can come naturally. Drawing this from within, can make sex between two men real, and rememberable.

I know you guys have strong opinions on the subject. I can't accept the fact that guys can be so lonely that their only recourse is to use crystal. We've already seen these cries played out daily by Britney and look what happened to Anna Nicole. So why are guys who can have it all, killing themselves for instant, at the moment, pleasure? Self esteem seems to be at an all time low.

Happy Groundhog's Day.

So Punxsutawney Phil says spring is on its way. Wishful thinking but I'm sure all of us are ready for some shirtless weather.

While Phil, the groundhog is furry, he definitely could use a makeover. So how about any of these replacements? Perhaps there is a new reality show in the making.

Hoping you guys are having a super day.

Speaking of hotties, are you watching the Super Bowl on Sunday? I'll be rooting for the Bears. That's a no brainer.

Is There Such A Thing As A Gay Male Mid-life Crisis?

Seems that our friend, Dan Savage, has devoted a lot of his column this week to just such a question.

The guy writes about his hottie partner who is turning 40 and wants to celebrate at a clothing optional gay resort and have sex under the sky.

Been there, done that. And for me, it was just fun, and had nothing to do with time or space, for that matter.

I don't think wanting to be sexy, playing safely, and just being a guy has anything to do with a guy being a horndog. Enjoying leather, boots, jockstraps, play toys, whatever, do it if it feels good.

The partner shouldn't have a hang-up about it. But there are limits. Three ways are always best when all three players are consenual. And when all three are enjoying the playtime. That's why for three ways, the key player is the top guy who gives both his playguys equal attention.

It's winter now, and sure, it is the perfect time to snuggle and get real nice and cozy physically with your man. The sexiest thing this time of year is a pair of long johns with a nice button fly. Sure gives new meaning to the phrase, "Are you glad to see me?"

A healthy appetite for sex is nothing that should never be turnoff or dismissed, no matter how old a guy is. Channeling that energy into safe, sexy fun is something that should be enjoyed to the fullest.

Our man Dan, I feel, was right on with his advice, as usual. Explore, be adventurous, and consensual. The same old, same old, isn't who we are, sexually or otherwise. If sex becomes so routine, so mechanical, then something is missing.

I truly believe that you get out of something only by investing in the time and trouble of making your best effort. That goes with life and with sex.

New Years Resolutions that We can all share together for the common good

Yes, it is that time of year to make and in some cases, already break, New Year's Resolutions.

I thought that maybe we could share together some New Year's Resolutions that we wouldn't break, and that we could easily commit to.

You guys know how much I love to hug. That aside, you might assume that I would also be a "tree hugger". You'd be right again.

So how about we try this spring to plant a tree. If each of us would commit to planting a single tree, a seedling would do, and help to nuture it, we would be doing our collective share in making the air a little cleaner and the environment a little better.

Likewise, we all set personal goals for ourselves, be it losing weight, gaining muscle, etc. Let's pledge to help each other with these personal goals. That way, it won't feel so lonely trying to do it alone.

An idea I saw on Ellen during the holidays, about loose change, could also be something we could do collectively and give to a favorite charity, gay or straight. A lot of our biker buds out there have favorite charities which we could devote some of our loose change in helping others.

Feel free to add your own ideas. You make this a place great to hang because you guys are the best. Never forget that.

Hoping you all are having a great start to the New Year. Together we can make it fun and sexy.

Happy, Happy New Year Guys

Howdy guys. I just wanted to wish you guys the Very, Very Best of New Years.

Over the years you guys have always been there for me. And for that, I am very, very grateful.

So not to slack off, I give you some of my predictions for 2007, with a gay slant.

I predict that the new Lifetime TV show, "Gay, Straight or Taken" will air all its episodes and be a mild hit for the cable channel.

Also I predict that two Hollywood closeted celebs will be outed this year. And yes, Anderson Cooper does count.

Gay marriage will continue its uphill legal battles, but we will get closer to this being reality, at least in one state, hopefully California.

Also Rosie O'Donnell will put her big foot in her mouth at least once each weekday on the View.

You guys will continue to shine in my eyes.

And finally, drum roll please,

Continued BIG HAIRY MUSCLE HUGS. It wouldn't be the same without them.

Enjoy the day, guys.

My Annual Review of the Hottest Beefcake Calendars

Guys, as I have always done in the past, I am previewing some of the hottest male calendars for 2007.

The top ones are from Titan Men and Raging Stallions. Of the next four, two are from the Calendar Cops 2007, one from BearMen and the drawing from Michael Breyette.

Michael Breyette, an openly gay artist, is one of the best artists I have ever seen. His fantastic artwork about the nude male body shows passionate, uninhibited men enjoying each other to the fullest.

There are probably many more out there that I have missed. If you have favorites, let me know. If you live near an area that sells these calendars, wait until after Christmas. These calendars do go on sale for half price.

You guys are all my calendar men. Big hairy muscle hugs and WOOFS.