Comments on Buff's Tufftalk: Taking the Risky Out of Being Frisky

I can understand the concern regarding sex venues,...

2008-06-26T17:41:00.000-07:00

I can understand the concern regarding sex venues, while the hosts may promote safety, it is not always the case.

I am guessing we have all changed with times. For me sex is more than just a good time, it has to be the right time. I want more than a drained nutsack at the end of it. Most of the time I fiond foreplay much more desirable & quite often nate & I will not take it any further. (though I think he would more often than I - LOL)

Sex in public, well I must say of the one encounter I had as a youngster, it sure was one of the hottest times I can recall, but certainly not the most fulfilling.

This is a really hard topic to put thoughts too! Your Tough Buff! *winks*

The sex venues here are dreadful, old and tired buildings with no appeal. I for one would not venture into them in the hope of getting down & dirty.

I don't think it is such a bad thing that gay men are wanting more than a hot encounter.

Hope you are well my friend.
big hugs

Buff, GREAT blog man!!!! Thanks for all the info...

2008-06-23T12:59:00.000-07:00

Buff,
GREAT blog man!!!! Thanks for all the info. I put a link to your blog on mine. Hope that cool.Feel free to do the same.

Fuzzy

In Boston there are almost no places any more, Alt...

2008-06-22T09:39:00.000-07:00

In Boston there are almost no places any more, Although it isn't particularly local government pressure that closed them, but shifting cultural and residential patterns among gay men.

Gay life is very different now. There's so much less pressure to get off and get out. Men are interested in different things, they're out and comfortable in mainstream society. I remember the massive isolation, drug, alcohol and tobacco abuse and the paranoia of gay men when I was growing up. Great, wonderful and valuable men were being destroyed by the furtiveness caused by fear of the persecutions all around.

I know militants say that assimilation is the end of gay. But I was just coming of age 40-45 years ago and and was very observant--in so many ways, what we have today is incredibly healthier.

Oh, and I have sex a lot. It can be done even if it isn't done in a smoky bar in public.

I've never been to a sex club, I've never had any ...

2008-06-20T20:09:00.000-07:00

I've never been to a sex club, I've never had any desire to seek out public or semi-anonymous sex. I've always imagined it was primarily the domain of closeted or the (not so) straight men who were looking for a place to bust a nut because they couldn't take anyone home. If that's true, then the earlier and easier coming out might explain some of it.