tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post5567126804679320377..comments2023-09-10T07:34:26.310-07:00Comments on Buff's Tufftalk: Men Together. Should It Always Be about Sex?buffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14220404369676535957noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-18785611489714836742007-02-26T18:50:00.000-08:002007-02-26T18:50:00.000-08:00After the Sweat Lodge at the husband's place, we a...After the Sweat Lodge at the husband's place, we all hit the showers. There are two stall showers and a regulation tub with shower head on the wall. There are varying degrees of sexual activity both in and out of the showers, the stalls generally having two men in each in pleasantly extreme close quarters. <BR/><BR/>By definition, Sweat Lodge buddies are totally comfortable being naked with each other and engaging in a little grab-ass, having a guy start sucking them off, or playing with each-others' dicks. But part of our culture is that no man is ever made to feel he HAS TO engage in anything sexual in shower time if he doesn't want to. We've all known each other (pretty much in both senses of the word) for years--we're big boys who know the ropes (including totally safe play). We enjoy having newcomers and wouldn't dream of making them feel in any way uncomfortable. What usually happens is that the smart ones take a look around, realize what we've got going, and adapt to fit in and become part of the group ASAP. <BR/><BR/>One of the joys of life is that hot, bright gay men are an endlessly renewing resource.Willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14279473113628377106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-9735598606965551862007-02-23T06:49:00.000-08:002007-02-23T06:49:00.000-08:00I have never had a group shower but I imagine it c...I have never had a group shower but I imagine it could feel a little intimidating if one was not comfortable with their own appearance. But it should not be a concern if the sole reason your there is too cleanse. Naturally we are all curious & take a discreet peek at a few peckers. But then for some (gay) men it seems quite a task to remain dscreet. But I have to agree that a shower with a man is freeeeekin HOT!...xoxoSh@neyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16692779069013864205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-3268643478121903372007-02-22T13:15:00.000-08:002007-02-22T13:15:00.000-08:00Unless the shower is in a bathhouse it is not sexy...Unless the shower is in a bathhouse it is not sexy at all! I do not even like someone in the shower with me in my own home when I want to get clean. Unless the intent from the beginning is for sex then people stay away and let me do what I have to do!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-82530034010280866312007-02-20T22:11:00.000-08:002007-02-20T22:11:00.000-08:00Hmm...I never really thought about it. The shower ...Hmm...I never really thought about it. The shower in a gym is not a place where I want to meet the man of my dreams...it's where I need to clean my self and get the hell home. ;-) peaceLeonardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316840633581618626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-80162448733568223552007-02-20T02:52:00.000-08:002007-02-20T02:52:00.000-08:00Yes & Yes! If anything the group shower is complet...Yes & Yes! If anything the group shower is completely UNSEXY! Maybe I'm still scarred from the past (and we didn't have shower gym in school but I was on the swim team & in Boy Scouts summer camp) when everyone str8, gay or otherwise was terried about baring all in public. It's still a little weird if you think about it - some things just don't need to be seen right? That being said, I just mind my own biz in the gym shower. I'm not trying to look (even though men are all curious about each other, sad we can't express it) but if I see something interesting in the course of thingsI burn it into my photographic memory, file it away and remember it later ;-) I can't help it, I find the male anatomy fascinating!<BR/><BR/>On the flip side I have always loved showering with a guy... It's very erotic, getting to gently wash your partner etc. Shower hugs are the best! Of course in this case anything that pops up is fair game!<BR/><BR/>Good topic!TOShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469813847926175699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-4717374924500969192007-02-19T07:55:00.000-08:002007-02-19T07:55:00.000-08:00In high school, there wasn't much consideration gi...In high school, there wasn't much consideration given to the whole showering with other guys thing. We didn't have a whole lot of time to worry about that. I didn't know I was gay in hs, so that never really became an issue.<BR/><BR/>In college I played Lacrosse and showered with the guys. They knew I was gay and it didn't seem to phase most of them. We still talked and carried on in the shower. <BR/><BR/>One of my trips to visit a chapter of my fraternity, I was showering and another brother came in and showered and started talking to me.<BR/><BR/>Overall, I think the whole "big thing" is what people make of it. I don't think straight guys really think about it in the first place unless someone makes a big deal about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-92163529378039760802007-02-18T09:39:00.000-08:002007-02-18T09:39:00.000-08:00I guess it's the difference between washing yourse...I guess it's the difference between washing yourself in company, or washing <I>each other</I>...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-2588571816578063792007-02-17T15:31:00.000-08:002007-02-17T15:31:00.000-08:00I just found your blog. It is very interesting rea...I just found your blog. It is very interesting reading. I'll be back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-24689424745479397482007-02-17T11:25:00.000-08:002007-02-17T11:25:00.000-08:00I have showered like many guys as well in Jr. High...I have showered like many guys as well in Jr. High and High School in open showers and no one really cared what anyone else had. It was like a silent understanding that you did what you had to to get cleaned, toweled off and then got dressed. At the Gym as a grown up, plenty of guys walk around the shower and locker room naked, some guys have wood, most guy don't, and sometimes guys get wood while soaping up. I notice it, I don't comment on it, it natural...!!! There is nothing to be embarrassed about at all. I even sit in the sauna some times and chat with guys. and occasionally some one will get hard. We just continue chatting and go about our business. Nothing sexual at all. <BR/><BR/>ErikAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-47911344029268234092007-02-16T17:28:00.000-08:002007-02-16T17:28:00.000-08:00Absolutely agree. In all the years I showered aft...Absolutely agree. In all the years I showered after gym class - jr hi thru college - or in the communal shower of the dorm - I never sprang wood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189024.post-10040857744577420292007-02-16T17:14:00.000-08:002007-02-16T17:14:00.000-08:00I agree, it doesn't have to be sexual.I agree, it doesn't have to be sexual.johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16755439918003129391noreply@blogger.com