Friday, July 27, 2007
The following is a very disturbing article from the current, August 2007 issue of OUT magazine, written by James Gavin.
Baring the Truth
After decades of scrupulous condom use, bareback porn is proliferating—with a corresponding rise in HIV infections. The collective silence is deafening.
The sticker on the video box was as chilling as a skull and crossbones: bareback. It was 1998, and an HIV-positive couple from Palm Springs, Calif., had just begun videotaping bareback orgies and releasing the tapes under the company name Hot Desert Knights. After a decade of scrupulous condom use in gay porn, after all the deaths from AIDS complications and the struggle to curb HIV, these films seemed to betray everyone who had fought the fight. Chi Chi LaRue, the hefty cross-dressing porn director, who entered the industry in 1987, recalls his response to those first bareback videos: “Shock. Anger. Sadness. I thought, Why?”
Today, by various estimates, the bareback genre accounts for up to 30% of the gay porn industry’s output. On MaleDVD.net, the Netflix of that field, about half of the top 20 rentals at any given time are condomless. “The consumer has spoken,” declares Sam Dixon, a ’90s porn star now directing bareback films. “This is what people want to see.”
Shot like home movies, most of these videos are cheap to make and easy to profit from. Their casts include “real people” along with a growing wave of aging HIV-positive porn actors. Bareback porn is also a playground where boys barely out of high school frolic without condoms as though AIDS doesn’t exist. Many of these films fetishize semen so graphically that the message is unmistakable: a loud “fuck you” to the plague that once terrified us all.
Why has bareback sex proliferated, on- and off-camera? Many reasons are given: safer-sex burnout; medications that have made HIV seem like “the new diabetes,” as an HIV-positive character on Nip/Tuck called it; the scourge of crystal meth, a destroyer of inhibitions. Then there’s the allure of sexual taboos, which bareback video exploits. I really don't buy this shit. It's just a crutch.
To former porn actor Will Clark, the trend “reflects our need to be edgy and defiant in a world where being gay used to be edgy and defiant and every day has become more and more commonplace.” Clark, whose AIDS fund-raising and safer-sex advocacy have earned him broad respect in the industry, feels that a key effect of these films is to give permission to—and eroticize—what guys are already doing, or long to do.
Many performers, like ’90s porn regular Dino Phillips, a newcomer to bareback, insist these films are harmless fantasies. “Otherwise,” he says, “every movie that shows gunslinging and murder would have to use a disclaimer saying, ‘Duh, this is just for entertainment, we’re not really advocating this.’ ”
The comparison is disingenuous. While most people don’t aspire to mimic murderers, they do want to have hot sex. And on-screen depictions of violence are fake; bareback porn is not. “These films may stage a fantasy, but these are real people having unsafe sex,” says veteran filmmaker Gino Colbert. “They’re not using special effects here.” Will Clark calls the fantasy explanation “a cop-out given by these people so they can sleep at night and not think their actions have any consequences to their gay brothers. Porn is tremendously influential.”
That’s hard to deny. From the hairy-chested blue-collar style to the pumped-up gym bod, porn has helped promote every dominant look in gay culture. Positions, leather, sexual swagger, dirty talk—porn teaches them all. And to Chi Chi LaRue, that brings a responsibility. “People have called me a condom Nazi,” he says. “Fine! I think sex is fantastic. You can still do it the right way.” You go girl.
Nearly all the top-tier studios maintain a strict condom-use policy. But many are feeling outmoded as well as outsold, and the strain shows. The once-forbidden oral come shot—less risky than raw anal penetration—has become fairly common. So has bare-boned prodding without full insertion—at least in the finished edits. Bel Ami, the twink-glorifying Czech company, offers bareback video on demand as a Web site exclusive rife with familiar “do as we say, not as we do” disclaimers: “We fervently hope that in your private life you act responsibly and take every precaution to keep yourself healthy.” Previously, the majors took a supposed moral high road—some called it a power play—by barring actors who’ve done bareback films. That rule has faded; some of their names mean money, with or without rubbers.
Undisputed by all who were interviewed for this article is the fact that safer-sex practices are on the wane—far beyond the scope of porn. “A lot of people, stupidly, think the AIDS epidemic is over,” says LaRue. HIV and AIDS statistics, imperfect (and dated) as they are, bear out the rise in unsafe sex among men who have sex with men (MSM). Recently the American Journal of Public Health announced that between 2001 and 2004, HIV diagnosis rates among men who have sex with men from the ages of 13 to 24 had grown by approximately 14%. Other studies have found jumps in new HIV diagnoses among some groups of MSM over the age of 25.
For some, seroconversion can feel liberating—in the short term, anyway. (To me, this is pathetic. )Though himself negative, “Morningwood”—the assumed name of a San Francisco–based 24-year-old member of the Radical Faeries—has seen the “reward” claimed by so many who contract HIV, including one of his past lovers. “A surrender of fear happens,” he says, “and the sense that now you’re free to have whatever kind of piggy bareback sex you want.”
Michael Brandon, a partner in the studio Raging Stallion, might say yes. He dotes on fans who worship his porn persona: a lanky, bearded, horse-hung embodiment of his company’s name. At home he’s in a long-term condomless relationship. “We’ve been tested, and we’re comfortable with each other’s health issues,” he explains, but on-screen is another matter. “I feel I have a huge responsibility. If one of my fans or a teenager sees Michael Brandon fucking without a condom, they may think, Michael Brandon does it, so why can’t I?”
That’s not Sam Dixon’s concern. Dixon runs 1 Distribution, a Los Angeles–based DVD distributor, along with Tipo Sesso Productions, which produces cut-rate bareback video. Doesn’t he feel that porn filmmakers have some obligation to promote safe sex? “We’re an adult industry,” he states with nonnegotiable firmness. “We’re not an educational industry. I think the best you can do is try to put a little PSA at the beginning of your films. Beyond that, I truly believe that one’s sexual practices are cemented by the time they’re watching porn.” As for his actors, he says, “If they don’t do it for me, they’ll do it for somebody else. It’s not my position to chastise them. That’s censorship.” Blame the rise in barebacking not on porn but on crystal, he says, and on neglectful parents. “Way before someone’s watching adult films, the education has to start: Here are the facts. Be responsible. And save bareback sex for your life partner.” Who’s communicating those messages today? “No one.”
Certainly not the Bush administration, which preaches abstinence and insists that condoms are unreliable. “We have this government that’s so sex-phobic it’s destroying safe-sex education all over the world,” says Howard Grossman, an eminent HIV specialist. Ignorance also pervades the bareback porn world, as Tim Valenti knows. As cofounder of NakedSword.com, a Shangri-la of gay video on demand—none of it bareback—Valenti has met lots of the subgenre’s young models. “I found them to be extremely naive about what they were doing. Young people were being pushed into participating in something without having a clear understanding of the ramifications. I didn’t want to be part of it.”
In the Czech Republic, where bareback rules the industry, both gay and straight actors undergo regulated HIV screening. In the United States testing of gay actors is sketchy. Some producers do only quick screenings for antibodies, which may not appear until six weeks after infection. But if gay porn were to shut out HIV-positive performers, as straight porn does, the business would crash. “You’re looking at an industry where easily 50% of the actors are HIV-positive,” says Michael Stabile, NakedSword.com’s marketing director. “I’ve talked to some of them, and they say, ‘The only time I ever have sex with a condom is on-screen.’ So bareback isn’t any huge fall from grace for them.”
Sometimes it’s a merit badge. THIS IS SO FUCKING STUPID,IT IS ALMOST UNBELIEVEABLE
On the sprawling third floor of a building off Folsom Street in San Francisco, a dozen or so workers go about their duties as busily as Santa’s helpers. Welcome to Treasure Island Media, whose notorious films exploit some of the darkest gay sex taboos—and create a few new ones. Dawson’s 20-Load Weekend and Dawson’s 50-Load Weekend star a soft-spoken, attractive young employee of a scientific firm in his on-screen guise as “world-class cum dump.” He enjoys cattle-call gang-banging, piss enemas, and penetration with a “devil’s dick”—a condom filled with the frozen loads of multiple anonymous men.
To Treasure Island’s reclusive middle-aged owner Paul Morris, sex and homosexuality are meaningful only if they’re transgressive, unreined, risky. (He calls HIV-negativity “the new virginity.”) “To me, sex is a religion,” he says, and Morris—an ex-hustler with the rugged air of a ’70s trucker—wields the eerie charisma of a cult leader. He has laser-beam eyes and a voice that keeps one off balance; its drawling cadences can convey fatherly concern or sarcasm, seduction or intimidation. “Dawson” waxes as rhapsodic of him as did Susan Atkins of Charles Manson. “Paul is a wonderful, wonderful man, a brilliant man. He’s this idol figure that I always looked up to and wanted to please,” he says. He even dreams of having impetuous sex with him: “That’s not played out, unfortunately.”
In his office Morris recalls a plea from queer theorist David Halperin that he start his videos with the pledge “No gay men were harmed in the making of this film.” Morris’s response? “To a certain extent my job is setting up a zone in which those questions don’t appear—a sexual cloud of unknowing.”
He explains his philosophy further. “I want to make porn that comes from a place even I don’t understand. Porn from a place that’s wild, forbidden, that’s absolutely secret. That to me is gay. Not filtered through what the government says you should be. Not according to what the industry says you should or should not do.”
Intellectually tantalizing as his battle cry may seem, what about practical concerns, like infection? Don’t such Treasure Island productions as Breeding Season and Plantin’ Seed fetishize HIV? The filmmaker’s eyes harden. “I see them as fetishizing unalloyed and pure sex among men,” he says bluntly.
Perhaps it’s true for some viewers, as Morris claims, that watching extreme behavior can purge us of similar urges. But “Morningwood” experienced no catharsis from Dawson’s 50-Load Weekend. “It totally overwhelmed me,” he says, and he went on his own mini barebacking spree. Playing safe has been a challenge ever since: “Now that I know what I’m missing, I have to find that inner strength to make the right decision every time.”
The bareback field’s former poster boy has made a life-changing decision of his own. “Hi, I’m Sean Lockhart,” says the slender, sweet-faced lad of 20 who greets me, hand extended, near the Amtrak station in downtown San Diego. As “Brent Corrigan” (as Lockhart now prefers to be called), he starred in such twink classics as Take It Like a Bitch Boy. He’s the twink-lover’s dream: a deliciously piggy boy-next-door type who’ll submit to the kinkiest fantasies, then nestle in your arms like a little lamb. The fact that he was under 18 when he entered the industry had some nasty consequences. So did his involvement with a producer who was killed early this year in one of the most notorious murders in porn history.
He talks about it all at an outdoor café. By his side is Grant Roy, his older Texan boyfriend, father figure, and “protector,” as Corrigan calls him. Roy is his partner in BrentCorriganInc.com, an Internet candy store of pay-per-view sex scenes along with the actor’s revealing blog.
His is the story of a sexually precocious but naive boy with a dysfunctional mother, an absentee father, and painfully low self-esteem. Strapped for funds, he let his then-boyfriend falsify his proof of age (Corrigan was 17) and sell his services to Bryan Kocis, owner of Cobra Video. Kocis—who’d been nabbed for videotaping himself having sex with a minor—became Corrigan’s substitute father and lover; Corrigan became Kocis’s cash cow. But when the actor fled and publicly revealed the age violation, a livid Kocis sued him for fraud and threatened anyone who employed him. Along the way, he made enemies. On January 24, someone entered Kocis’s small-town Pennsylvania home, slashed his throat, stabbed him 28 times, and set the house afire. (On May 15, porn stars and video-on-demand Webmasters Harlow Cuadra and Joseph Kerekes were arrested in Virginia and charged with the crime. Investigators believe the two allegedly committed it in part because the duo wanted to clear the way to work with Brent Corrigan.) In an earlier blog post, I followed this murder. I will try to keep you posted of any developments in future blogs.
This excruciating tale has at least one bright spot. “Thankfully, at this time, I’m HIV-negative,” he says. And he has since become a safe-sex champion. “I strongly believe that condoms in porn are important. It’s not necessarily the end of the world if you get HIV, but it’s still gonna affect who you can and cannot date, who you can and cannot have sex with.” Last year he appeared in his first mainstream gay porn film, Falcon Studio’s The Velvet Mafia. (Due to pressure from Kocis, who claimed ownership of the name “Brent Corrigan,” the actor was billed as “Fox Ryder.”)
All the scenes on Corrigan’s site employ condoms; he plans a series of PSAs in which he’ll demonstrate “fun ways” of using them. “I think it’s time for some of us youthful types to come out and say, ‘This is what you should be doing and this is the way I do it.’ ” Bareback, he feels, is the “crutch” of the unimaginative pornographer. Good for you, Brent.
Condomless porn, of course, isn’t going away. “I want to shout from the mountaintops, ‘It’s just sex!’ ” says Dino Phillips. “Then I think, Should it be just sex? The decision to play safe, he adds, is “ultimately going to have to rest on people’s sense of self.”
But to Grant Roy, that’s a lonely way to live. “Any community should be taking care of its own,” he says. “I think that as gay men, we’ve developed this strange complex of, ‘I have it hard, so I’m gonna bulldoze the fuck over you too.’ There aren’t very many of us out there. If we take care of each other, we’ll be much better off.” To Grant and other guys, who would like to change things, we support you.
I have commented about this insane form of unsafe sex more than once over the years since I've been blogging. I can't for the life of me, rationalize the behavior of these fucking stupid guys. To me, it's a no brainer, fuck, your eyes out, but do it with a condom. Why is this so hard, for guys to understand.
I admire a porn star like Brent Corrigan who wants to spread the gospel of safer sex. On his web site, http://www.brentcorriganonline.com, he wants to show young guys and those who like their men, on the chicken side, ways to demonstrate fun ways of having safer sex. While Brent is definitely, not my type, I give him credit for leading the way in showing guys that safer sex is really more fun. You don't have that fuckin fear hanging over your head, the Russian roulette thing, about if you've been infected or not after unprotected sex. It just makes damn common sense to use a condom ever time you fuck another guy. It is the top man's responsibility, plain and simple.
Why can't gay guys show each other some, what I like to call, buddy bonding? Buddy bonding to me is unconditional protected sex, done in imaginative and hot scenerios.
If a guy likes sex, he has to take fantasy all the way. Whether it be role playing, uniforms, leather, other fetish, doing it well and doing it passionately, will make any guy, I guarantee, a convert to safer sex. And those who can't be pursuaded, are lost causes. If they value their lives as worthless, who am I to say otherwise.
To all the hot men out there, mega hairy muscle hugs and endless nights of buddy bonding.
Friday, July 20, 2007
The Life and Death of A Young Gay American
By: PAUL SCHINDLER
By: PAUL SCHINDLER
In October 2003, Michael Glatze, then 28, sat in Manhattan's Union Square Virgin Megastore, enthusiastically explaining Young Gay America, the organization he helped launch with a mission to "save lives by educating and informing queer youth about their importance to society."
With his co-founder and boyfriend Benjie Nycum, (That's Benji on the left, and Michael, in the middle) Glatze had made an award-winning film and launched a Web site, both of which enabled queer youth across the U.S. to tell their stories. They would later start a magazine bearing the group's name. But, the heart of Young Gay America was a series of five, two-week road trips Glatze, Nycum, and several others took across the U.S. and Canada, in which they met with scores of queer youth, almost all of them remote from major urban areas. Detailed interviews and photos from those encounters were posted on the group's Web site, and served as the model for the stories other youths submitted themselves. In a tribute of sorts to their efforts, a right-wing Christian group named younggayamerica.com one of the nation's "Ten Most Dangerous Websites."
Glatze and Nycum met working at XY magazine in San Francisco, but hoped to move beyond that publication's slick appeal to urban gay youth, and reach LGBT young people in small town America who had the least resources and support. "I'm talking about the ones who are not going to send us e-mail," Glatze said of those most isolated and in need of outreach. "They are not going to show up at the doorstep of a halfway house or a home. They are not going to e-mail anyone. They are stuck."
The Michael Glatze who devoted his life's work to help those gay youth is no more. At some point in the past three years, he had "a born-again experience," which he announced to the world in a July 3 confessional on WorldNetDaily.com, a Christian-right Web site that has long been a forum for extreme anti-gay views.
In a 90-minute telephone interview with Gay City News the evening of July 9, Glatze talked in detail about the crisis he said led to his Christian rebirth, how that experience motivated him to reject his self-identification as a gay man, his feelings of "repulsion" at the thought of sex with another man, and his conclusion that his work at Young Gay America was all about "peddling homosexuality to youth."
But Glatze's story is not simply one of rejecting his own homosexuality. It is also about the mission he feels today - one he termed "evangelical" - to alert society that "the homosexual mindset is that they always want to find more homosexuals."
Most startlingly, Glatze said that America needs to "examine whether homosexuality should be legal" or if gay sex should instead be punished by "imprisonment."It is of course child's play to point out the contradictions across the board between the Michael Glatze of 2003 and the 2007 model.
He remains impressively articulate, precise in his choice of words, passionate, amiable, even gentle, despite his harsh words about what he calls the "false gay identity." In fact, he emphasized not the discontinuity apparent to almost everyone else, but instead the seamlessness of his transformation.
"This is a fruition of all that I have believed in my life," Glatze said of his current thinking on God and homosexuality. He explained that his rethinking began with an unexplained illness he feared might be the same heart condition that killed his father suddenly when Glatze was only 13.Curiously, though, it was disillusionment with his father, even as a young boy, that he said led to his embrace of "the gay identity" as a teenager.
His father flagrantly cheated on his mother, Glatze said, and as a boy he became her comforter and protector, and also vowed to never hurt a woman in the same way. By the time of his father's death, Glatze was experiencing his burgeoning sexuality, but he claims that energy was free-floating, "not focused on any object." It was only when a friend told him at age 14 about people who live their lives as gay that he connected his feelings to same-sex desire. "I was already shy and introverted," he said. "I thought, 'Well, that's what I am.' It sealed my fate. I wanted that masculinity and my sexuality was there. And it crystallized into gay identity."
In a WorldNetDaily.com posting accompanying his essay, Glatze was quoted referring to his "darkest days of late-night parties, substance abuse, and all kinds of things when I felt like, 'Why am I here, what am I doing?'" Even then, he said, "There was always a voice there." But in this week's interview, he conceded that was a reference to years earlier when he was a raver in San Francisco, before he and Nycum moved to Halifax, Nova Scotia, where his ex-partner's family lives.
The voice Glatze says he heard didn't fully reveal itself until his health scare passed and he said, "'Thank God,' and it was the first time the word God made sense to me." What resulted he said was "freedom." Studying the Bible, "came to open my mind to ideas I had not looked at before... I was making peace with my God instead of him being my enemy."As a result, he explained, "I was seeing how powerful sexuality was and that I should not take it flippantly."
Yet Glatze and Nycum were in a long-term relationship, and though he would not discuss their intimate life and whether they were monogamous, he acknowledged that he loved Benjie and that their union was, in his view, "divinely inspired." So what was flippant about that love?"
In the homosexual desire, there is a craving that has a sense of need and along with it the sense that we are doing something wrong," Glatze responded. "That comes from the knowledge of right and wrong and of life. That is different from what I am calling a normal relationship." The potential for procreation is critical in appropriate sexual relationships, Glatze now believes. "If I tried to have sex with a guy, it would steal his sexuality," he argued.
"We have within us the power and important ability to create life." Asked about all the heterosexual coupling that has nothing to do with procreation, Glatze conceded that there is considerable "lust-based" straight sex. He was not able, however, to articulate precisely why then his new Christian right allies focus their ire so disproportionately on homosexuality.
His experience is his past homosexuality, Glatze said. "I can only tell my own story."Glatze's decision to speak out after several years of evolution in his beliefs was, he said, "The obvious thing. I had already come to the conclusion that not everyone who has same-sex desires has to have a gay identity. I got rid of both and I felt more true to myself. Anyone else could do it."
But Glatze is interested in more than simply spreading the good news of his rebirth. He warns that homosexuality and heterosexuality cannot co-exist."The more homosexuality is accepted, the more homosexuals there are," he said. "The more we perpetuate the gay identity to children, the more homosexuals there are. The homosexual mindset is that they always want to find more homosexuals."
Asked to explain a statement at the core of traditional right-wing fear-mongering regarding homosexuality's threat to children, Glatze mentioned what he said was a common gay fantasy about seducing straight men, and his own determination as a younger man to "queer up the world."
Speaking of his youthful embrace of his homosexuality, Glatze asserted, "If it was a world where no gay identity existed and if you had same-sex behavior punished, then a) I would not have done it, b) I would not have had a gay identity that does not exist, and c) I would have seen myself as a normal heterosexual and sought the help of the numerous support groups to deal with my feelings." In mentioning the criminalization of gay sex,
Glatze amended his choice of words from "imprisonment" to "punishment" and then emphasized that he was not endorsing the idea, but only saying that America needed to discuss the question - that is, whether the freedom he has found might need to be enforced on others.
As for his success in dealing with his now-troublesome homosexual feelings, Glatze said the idea of having sex with a man makes him sick, and that he is attracted to women.
Still, he acknowledged, "I lived with the habits for so long, there are times when I can see habitual reactions. Something you might have looked at all your life, you can see yourself notice it, but it does not have the same result in terms of desire. I don't crave or want anymore."His attraction to women has not led him into a relationship, and Glatze emphasized he is not interested in any "lust-based sex." Asked how he will be drawn into a sexual relationship with a woman without lust, he responded, "It's part of the great mystery of life," and said that through prayer he had learned from God that a relationship is probably at least a year off.
Glatze - attractive, intelligent, and committed - could become a formidable anti-gay leader, but there are signs that after dipping his toe in the water, he has found it disagreeably cold.
Scheduled to appear this week on Paula Zahn's CNN program and the Sirius Radio show hosted by Michelangelo Signorile (whose producer passed on Glatze's current contact information to Gay City News), he backed out of both. "I've actually been trying to cut down on talking to people," Glatze said. "I had prayed about going on 'Signorile' and CNN and decided not to. Many people I've spoken to have been not so nice to me."
This guy is so messed up, it isn't funny. I only have pity for him. Again this is another case of a gay guy who somehow feels that turning straight will make his fucked up mind feel better. It's not his sexuality that is the matter, it's his mental state of health. I am so sorry that he feels that his life has been wasted. And now he is in the hands of the Christian Right to make him their latest ex-gay poster boy in their endless propaganda drive to turn the non gay American public against our cause for equal rights and the legal ability to marry.
Friday, July 13, 2007
Not much going on with me today. But I'm looking forward to another great summertime weekend.
Seeing this pic reminds me how much I enjoy nipples. I return to this topic, from time to time, but it's worth repeating.
There is nothing more enjoyable to me that man to man nipple play. It just gets me aroused big time.
The response of the nipple to touch is pure pleasure, almost like an out-of-body experience. Tweaking another guy's nips connects me with his pleasure. It seems like nipple play is the ties that bind some guys together. It's just a big fuckin turn-on.
Hoping you guys are having a super day and are gearing up for a great weekend. These lazy days of summer don't last long. So enjoy some shirtless pleasures. Hey, I'm going to do just that.
And I couldn't think of any better summertime pleasure than to lick some creamy chocolate flavored Readi-Whip cream off a hot guy's hairy muscled pec and filling up my beard with yummy pleasure. Now, that's nipple lickin good.
Friday, July 06, 2007
(CNN) -- After five years of trying to date girls and to conform and conceal his sexuality, 18-year-old Steven Field told his friends and family that he was gay.
Steven Field, now 25, came out to his friends and family when he was 18.
"I wasn't being honest to myself," Field, now 25, said of his closeted high school years in the suburbs of Chicago, Illinois.
Steven Field, now 25, came out to his friends and family when he was 18.
"I wasn't being honest to myself," Field, now 25, said of his closeted high school years in the suburbs of Chicago, Illinois.
Being gay was natural for him, Field, who lives in Washington, said in a Thursday phone interview. "I didn't choose to be gay anymore than straight people choose to be straight."
To those who would disagree with him, Field said, "You don't choose who you love."
Field is not alone in thinking that sexual orientation is a fixed element of a person. Whether homosexuality is innate or whether it is acquired -- the age-old nature versus nurture debate -- has long shaped the political and social discussion over gay rights.
Over the years, the genetically based argument has found increasing support among Americans, according to polls. More and more people now believe that homosexuality is a permanent, immutable part of a person, much like fingerprints or eye color.
According to a CNN/Opinion Research Corp. poll released Wednesday, 56 percent of Americans believe that gays and lesbians could not change their sexual orientation even if they wanted to do so -- the first time that a majority has held that belief regarding homosexuality since CNN first posed the question nearly 10 years ago.
The sampling error for the results is plus or minus 4.5 percentage points.
Six years ago, 45 percent of Americans responding to a CNN/USA/Gallup Poll said gays and lesbians could not change their sexual orientation. And in 1998, the number was 36 percent, according to a CNN/Time poll.
The latest poll results affirmed what many gay and lesbians see as a shift in attitude across the country toward homosexuality. Even in the face of state legislation that denies gays the right to marry or to form civil unions, more Americans are now accepting of homosexuality, gays and lesbians say.
The term, feeling natural being gay, is the best way to sum up who we are. So if we can't change, the only thing left is to change the perception straights have for us. And that is slowing changing to our favor.
Hoping everyone had a super spectacular Canada Day, and Independence Day. Anyone shoot off extra fireworks that we should know about?
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