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Why Can't Guys Learn that "Tina" is a BITCH, and get her out of their lives?

The following is from a news item posted on the Washington Blade web site.

The Atlanta Meth Task Force convened the forum at Outwrite after several recent deaths of local crystal meth users. The emotional forum included testimony from Josh Williams’ brother, one of guys who recently died of an overdose in the Atlanta area, as well as from Tommy Varnador, who wept as he talked about the November overdose death of his partner, Joseph Myska.

“This drug fills a void in people — a sense of guilt, a sense of shame,” said Brian Dew, a professor at Georgia State University who leads the Atlanta Meth Task Force. “It’s seen as a perfect short-term solution to the feelings that are there.”Drawing attention to the harmful effects of meth is particularly challenging among gay men, Dew said.“I think that the gay community has been reluctant to address our own pitfalls, and I think we’re seeing it with drug use,” Dew said. “But we can no longer sit back because of what it’s doing and the impact that it’s having.”

Russell Beasley talked about how he and Josh Williams had a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” attitude in many parts of their friendship, including drug use. But instead of being inspired by a desire not to appear judgmental, the informal policy was a manifestation of both men’s fears that if his friend knew the truth about him, he would no longer love him and would leave.

Gay men can no longer afford to mask their insecurities through drugs or indifference, Beasley said.“In the old days, when we were fighting HIV, we were going out and we were doing AIDS education and we were fighting to save lives — it’s kind of the same thing,” Beasley. “We all need to go out, spread the word, let everybody know that meth equals death, and that there is healing that can be achieved from everything.”

Also participating in the Outwrite forum was Mark White, who talked about how he had a staunchly conservative disdain for drug use most of his life before going through a difficult break-up.Crystal meth use, however, led to White landing in jail on Thanksgiving Day as well as Tina-fueled sex romps that led him to becoming HIV positive.“I became very lonely, I began to shy away from some of the things that I never really dealt with — for example, being comfortable being gay,” White said. “I’m a shy person by nature, but on crystal I became very sociable, I felt very powerful, very confident and very sexual.”

Guys have to have will power. Can't they realize that a guy can be sexual without the so called enhancement of fatal drugs? Is it too much to ask that guys interact more with their brains than with the lure of drugs? Can't guys get a woody by just taking in the "woofyness" of another guy's pleasure?

Drugs just fuck up the pleasures of the sexual experience. If guys invested some time for foreplay, they'd realize that great sex and staying power can come naturally. Drawing this from within, can make sex between two men real, and rememberable.

I know you guys have strong opinions on the subject. I can't accept the fact that guys can be so lonely that their only recourse is to use crystal. We've already seen these cries played out daily by Britney and look what happened to Anna Nicole. So why are guys who can have it all, killing themselves for instant, at the moment, pleasure? Self esteem seems to be at an all time low.

Men Together. Should It Always Be about Sex?

Our old pal Andy Sullivan, is writing again about gay men showering with their straight buds in the gym and elsewhere. He tells us that while he might have been turned on by other men, straight men, in the shower, he always controlled his woody. I was surprised that Andy didn't start describing all of his shower encounters where guys "worshipped" his woody.

So I was curious about the opinions of other guys on the subject. The following is from a healthboard post about men showering together.

Here's one guy's opinion.

What is the big deal here. I have been showering at the gym for years and before that in college and before that in high school. There was always someone that I knew either as a friend or just an aquaintance in there with me. I admit that in junior high when I started taking showers after gym class the gang showers were a little intimidating but after a while you realize that most of the other guys are nervous too and then you all get used to it. Yes some guys have bigger or smaller equipment or flatter stomachs and bigger muscles. But you know what.... There is always going to be someone who is bigger or smaller or who has a better body. Be a man and have some confidence in yourself. Everyone looks you can't help it but 99.9999% of the guys in the shower could care less about what they see. They are just there to get clean and get out. As far as showering with your buddies as was mentioned in the original post, I say so what. You are all buddies and it is not like you are squeezing into a tiny shower stall together. There was room for 2 so I say go for it and don't make a big deal about it. If you can not be comfortable around your buddies where can you be comfortable.I have been in situations where I have had to share a bed with a buddy when we got stuck after a day of skiing and had to spend the night. There is nothing sexual about it - a guy has got to shower and sleep don't he.

So the communal showering ritual is just that. When guys shower in public, the unspoken rule is no hard-ons and no come-ons. When you invite a guy to your house, then the shower is considered a private venue. This is when showering together, man to man, becomes a totally pleasurable experience. One of the hottest examples of foreplay I know. Anyone care to comment?

Mega Hairy Muscle Valentine's Day Hugs

Well guys, as you know, Valentine's Day is my favorite holiday. I guess I have always been a closet cupid. I enjoy seeing guys together, loving each other, sharing their passion, their lives, making each other happy.

Even after that Snicker's Super Bowl commercial, I can think of nothing sexier than two guys sharing some delicious between their lips. Enjoying a creamy chocolate Dove bar or other treat maximizes the taste buds and makes for fun eating.

So guys, I want each of you to pledge to me that when Cupid's arrow strikes, and it will, that you hug that cute guy next to you, whisper sweet nothings in his ear, give some tongue action if appropriate, and make him feel like he never felt before. When he moans, you got him where you want him.

Have a super Valentine's Day full of affection and hot sizzling sex.

What's This With Gay Porn Stars and Their Vicious Killer Tempers

Straight from the headlines. Two stories about gay porn stars and their murderous deeds.

A sad state of affairs, especially when these guys are "gay for pay".


A former Falcon pornstar will be tried in US state Colorado for the murder of gay businessman John Paul Kelso. Police apprehended the accused Timothy Boham, 25, very near to the US/Mexico border back in November. Boham had fled state Colorado, where a warrant had been issued for his arrest. Boham is charged with first-degree murder and aggravated robbery. Boham, apparently straight and gay-for-pay, was known as Marcus Allen in Falcon porn titles such as "Little Big League," "Through the Woods," "Never been touched," and "Ripe". Boham allegedly worked for the gay Kelso, 43, who had made millions though a career of debt recovery. A housekeeper found Kelso shot to death in the bathtub of his upscale Denver home.

Kelso, a philanthropist donating thousands of dollars to charities, often hired rent boys.
At a preliminary hearing this month, local police reported that Kelso was killed during a robbery attempt by Boham who needed money for a pregnant girlfriend. According to the Denver Post, Detective Aaron Lopez said that prior to the murder, Kelso had asked Boham to come to the bedroom for "a cuddle". Boham then pulled a gun on Kelso, asking him to open the safe box, which was believed to store buckets of cash. However, Kelso resisted and a struggle ensued leaving Kelso wounded.Kelso tried to pull an alarm, but a panicked Boham then suffocated him and shot him in the head. A blood smear was left on the alarm button, Lopez said.

Following the shooting, Boham was able to pry open the safe, which was empty except for a few rings. Boham then seized Kelso's Rolex watch and fled the scene. Court documents suggested that Boham, who had bipolar disorder and was prone to fits of rage, told his mother and sister that he had planned to use the money to go to South America with his girlfriend. But in the end it turnd out "he had done this for nothing," affidavits say.

Boham's lawyer maintains murder was not premeditated. He told the court that there was no evidence that Boham had gone to the Kelso's home with any other motive than to rob him. Boham has been ordered to be in custody until the trial date is set.

At a preliminary hearing this month, local police reported that Kelso was killed during a robbery attempt by Boham who needed money for a pregnant girlfriend. According to the Denver Post, Detective Aaron Lopez said that prior to the murder, Kelso had asked Boham to come to the bedroom for "a cuddle". Boham then pulled a gun on Kelso, asking him to open the safe box, which was believed to store buckets of cash. However, Kelso resisted and a struggle ensued leaving Kelso wounded.Kelso tried to pull an alarm, but a panicked Boham then suffocated him and shot him in the head. A blood smear was left on the alarm button, Lopez said. Following the shooting, Boham was able to pry open the safe, which was empty except for a few rings. Boham then seized Kelso's Rolex watch and fled the scene.

Court documents suggested that Boham, who had bipolar disorder and was prone to fits of rage, told his mother and sister that he had planned to use the money to go to South America with his girlfriend. But in the end it turnd out "he had done this for nothing," affidavits say. Boham's solicitor maintains murder was not premeditated. He told the court that there was no evidence that Boham had gone to the Kelso's home with any other motive than to rob him.

Boham, who has a 5-year-old daughter, had "numerous girlfriends" according to the Post and once told a downstairs neighbor that he "sanitized" his apartment "by thoroughly scrubbing it because a gay man had lived there previously."

Said the neighbor: "He hated (gays). He hated their lifestyle."

Yet he had no problem being "gay for pay" in such movies as Falcon Studio's Through the Woods. One talent agency owner said that Boham seemed desperate: "He didn't like people telling him what to do. He seemed like an angry person. His opportunities were tapering off. He got into bloody fistfights. He just had anger issues."

The second story follows.

Officials investigating gay porn producer's death want to talk with escort

By EDWARD LEWIS elewis@timesleader.com
WYOMING – Law-enforcement officials remain interested in talking to a Virginia Beach male escort whose photo surfaced in the investigation of last month’s murder of gay porn producer Bryan Charles Kocis.

Trooper Tom Kelly of the state police at Wyoming said he couldn’t confirm if the picture that investigators released last week is of the escort.

The man, who identified himself only as Harlow, told a reporter on Wednesday that the photo is of him, but denied any connection to Kocis. The escort said he was with a client for three hours in Virginia Beach on Jan. 24, the night Kocis was stabbed to death inside his Dallas Township home.

The Virginia State Corporation Commission lists a Harlow Cuadra as president of the Virginia Beach-based escort service Norfolk Companions Inc.

Last week, police released a photograph showing the head and shoulders of a person they said might have the last name of Drake.

The escort said he is the man in the photograph but said he does not use the name Drake.

The body of Kocis, 44, was recovered from his burning home. An autopsy showed Kocis died of multiple stab wounds and was dead before the blaze broke out.

After obtaining Kocis’ telephone records and e-mail accounts, police determined that Kocis sent an e-mail to an associate with photographs of Drake, stating he was meeting the man at his Midland Drive home at 7 p.m. to discuss a modeling job for Cobra Video. Kocis owned and operated Cobra Video, a company that produces and sells gay pornographic movies.

About 90 minutes after the scheduled meeting, firefighters responded to Kocis’ home for a fire, at about the same time a witness saw a light-colored sport utility vehicle back out of the driveway and speed away.

Harlow could not be reached for comment on Thursday.


SO is this Harlow dude guilty as shit? A jury will decide that, sooner or later.

Both of these murders indicate that gay porn can be a very risky undertaking. What appears glamourous on the outside is a cesspool of corruption behind the scenes.

Happy Groundhog's Day.

So Punxsutawney Phil says spring is on its way. Wishful thinking but I'm sure all of us are ready for some shirtless weather.

While Phil, the groundhog is furry, he definitely could use a makeover. So how about any of these replacements? Perhaps there is a new reality show in the making.

Hoping you guys are having a super day.

Speaking of hotties, are you watching the Super Bowl on Sunday? I'll be rooting for the Bears. That's a no brainer.